I think I physically can't have sex anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

well, someone is triggered

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

well, someone is triggered

I was thinking like pp, amazing some of the comments saying it is in her head. Or guessing what she may have.

Getting a second opinion, and not having sex is the best advice so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

+1 For example, Vaginismus involves involuntary muscles spasms upon penetration. The origins are psychological, but there is also a physiological response to whatever is happening in the mind (and it is treated as such). Not that this is OP's condition, but it might be what the PP was going for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

+1 For example, Vaginismus involves involuntary muscles spasms upon penetration. The origins are psychological, but there is also a physiological response to whatever is happening in the mind (and it is treated as such). Not that this is OP's condition, but it might be what the PP was going for.

It might be a lot of things, so stop guessing.

Most important is your health OP, not your husbands sex needs. Especially when he doesn't seem to care if you're in pain. From the internet it could be quite a few things which only a doctor can determine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

It's because it's just a gross way to dismiss a woman's pain: "It's all in your head!"

There's no other type of pain that the first thought would be, "it's psychological!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

+1 For example, Vaginismus involves involuntary muscles spasms upon penetration. The origins are psychological, but there is also a physiological response to whatever is happening in the mind (and it is treated as such). Not that this is OP's condition, but it might be what the PP was going for.

I mean, my knees hurt when I run too much or do squats - so I'm wary of running or doing squats. Does that make my knee pain psychological?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

It's because it's just a gross way to dismiss a woman's pain: "It's all in your head!"

There's no other type of pain that the first thought would be, "it's psychological!"

I wonder if that pp is a male or female. Sounds like something someone would come up with from the 50's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I'm 62 and after menopause vaginal sex became very painful. When it did I was very open with my husband that it really hurt and thankfully he was very understanding. It took almost two years to find a solution but like others have mentioned you can still have great sex. Devote time to finding the solution that works for you but in the meanwhile you and your partner can still enjoy sex. I'm sure my husband missed vaginal sex but he never seemed to be disappointed. Good luck OP!

This is the problem with viagra. Both men and women’s bodies are designed to stop working sex wise, but while there is now a cure for men, there isn’t one for men. Causes issues.

PP here - I wanted to have sex and my husband had no need for viagra. The desire was definitely there on my part and I’m very happy that we found short and long term solutions.

[Anonymous]

Vulvodynia is real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

+1 For example, Vaginismus involves involuntary muscles spasms upon penetration. The origins are psychological, but there is also a physiological response to whatever is happening in the mind (and it is treated as such). Not that this is OP's condition, but it might be what the PP was going for.

I mean, my knees hurt when I run too much or do squats - so I'm wary of running or doing squats. Does that make my knee pain psychological?

I've actually heard a lot of yoga teachers say this lately- that all pain is psychological in origin. I think people hear that pain has neurological components and jump to the conclusion that it's all in your head, which is incorrect, and generally why I'm not a fan on people who make medical claims without being a medical doctor.

[Anonymous]

Two recommendations:

Dr. Melinda Hall - menopause
Dr. Delgado - pelvic floor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

+1 For example, Vaginismus involves involuntary muscles spasms upon penetration. The origins are psychological, but there is also a physiological response to whatever is happening in the mind (and it is treated as such). Not that this is OP's condition, but it might be what the PP was going for.

I mean, my knees hurt when I run too much or do squats - so I'm wary of running or doing squats. Does that make my knee pain psychological?

I've actually heard a lot of yoga teachers say this lately- that all pain is psychological in origin. I think people hear that pain has neurological components and jump to the conclusion that it's all in your head, which is incorrect, and generally why I'm not a fan on people who make medical claims without being a medical doctor.

yeah, that's as a reliable source of medical advice as the cashier at a McD's drive through. JFC you all are loonies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

bingo

Idiots. Are you a doctor or medical person of any ilk? Then STFU because you sound like a moron. Please go back to your customer service job, or whatever it is you do for a living that is NOT in the medical field. [vimeo]

It's like telling someone with cancer, diabetes, a skin disorder, ulcerative colitis, etc, etc, etc, that its in their head. Vulvar and Vaginal pain, changes, and disorders are a medical condition.

There are absolutely mental components to experiencing all kinds of physiological illnesses, just like there are physiological symptoms for many psychological illnesses. Saying one does not preclude the existence of the other. For a woman who is experiencing intensely painful intercourse after childbirth, it is worth considering whether there is some psychological trauma that is making the pain WORSE - not creating it, but exacerbating it. That's not saying that it's all in OP's head. Clearly she is suffering. But she could do everything to address the physiological suffering and find no change to her experience if there are unaddressed psychological components to her illness.

That you react so hostilely to the suggestion of psychological components to this experience indicates that you have your own psychological things going on. I'm sorry that whoever it was minimized your suffering by saying it was all in your head. That is NOT what is being said here.

+1 For example, Vaginismus involves involuntary muscles spasms upon penetration. The origins are psychological, but there is also a physiological response to whatever is happening in the mind (and it is treated as such). Not that this is OP's condition, but it might be what the PP was going for.

I mean, my knees hurt when I run too much or do squats - so I'm wary of running or doing squats. Does that make my knee pain psychological?

I've actually heard a lot of yoga teachers say this lately- that all pain is psychological in origin. I think people hear that pain has neurological components and jump to the conclusion that it's all in your head, which is incorrect, and generally why I'm not a fan on people who make medical claims without being a medical doctor.

yeah, that's as a reliable source of medical advice as the cashier at a McD's drive through. JFC you all are loonies.

That was my point- neither yoga teachers nor DCUM users are reliable sources of medical advice, and if one tells you that your pain is all in your head, you should probably not listen.

[Anonymous]

Curious as to what pelvic floor PT involves!

[Anonymous]

Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!