I think I physically can't have sex anymore

[Anonymous]

How long has it been since you last gave birth, OP?

Intercourse was painful for a full year after I gave birth to my first. Eventually it subsided and everything is fine now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long has it been since you last gave birth, OP?

Intercourse was painful for a full year after I gave birth to my first. Eventually it subsided and everything is fine now.

Four years.

[Anonymous]

That’s really tough, OP. I’m so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 39 and sex has felt awful after both my babies were born. I've done my best to just...get through it. I've tried creams, pills, this that and the other. The last few times, I've basically just let it happen even though it is extremely painful. But last night it hurt so bad I just couldn't let it happen.

Mona Lisa procedure.

[Anonymous]

Estrace cream and pelvic floor physical therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 39 and sex has felt awful after both my babies were born. I've done my best to just...get through it. I've tried creams, pills, this that and the other. The last few times, I've basically just let it happen even though it is extremely painful. But last night it hurt so bad I just couldn't let it happen.

Mona Lisa procedure.

That would make it worse.

[Anonymous]

OP I was in the same boat for 13 months and am now having the best sex of my life.

I went through the same thing pills, creams etc

Finally I did 6 weeks of pelvic floor therapy and I'm a whole new woman. It has been so incredibly helpful.

[Anonymous]

When I was breastfeeding my hormones made sex really painful and even a little after stopping. It took a while but things are back to normal.

[Anonymous]

See more doctors/see specialists. Easy to continue to try to solve rather than just quit. If it was your child with a physical problem, you wouldn't quit.

[Anonymous]

Go to a different doctor who isn't lazy & dismissive of your concerns. Sex is a healthy part of life. You shouldn't have to suffer through it or go without. Fight for your sexual health.

[Anonymous]

You should most definitely seek medical attention ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Can those who did successful pelvic floor therapy describe a little more what that is?

[Anonymous]

NP. My pelvic geography changed after two kids. My bladder will never be the same. One change was nerve remapping I think. I had to relearn what worked.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP. I hope that your partner is understanding and supportive - please don’t suffer through sex if it’s painful. You don’t need to do that.

I’d try pelvic floor therapy if you can (cause why not try it?) and don’t have painful sex in the meantime.

Good luck, this sounds really hard.

[Anonymous]

Don't give up OP - there is a solution you just need to find the right specialist. Meanwhile there are other ways to enjoy sex with your partner other than PIV. If he is considerate he will take your lead and go with it. I went through a period when PIV was painful but oral worked very well for me as it did for my husband - no surprise! Even now PIV is not a must when we have sex.