11 and 9 yr old got into a serious fight

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would raise holy hell on this and am completely surprised by how gentle your response have been. I would consider not taking them to the beach. I would take the video game away for 6 months minimum. I would have them start jobs around the house to pay for the monthly fees "if" you decide to allow them to resume the video game. I would have them both write an essay to you on exactly what they did wrong. And for you son.....I would sit down and explain although it is not fair in todays world, he can never, ever, ever hit a girl. This is assault. He is not too young to understand the implications of this in the real-world setting, be it being expelled from school or thrown in jail after age 18. I would have them seriously both write an apology letter to the youngest kid, and explain that that was not tattle-tattling but 100% the correct thing to do. Honestly, I would raise holy hell. Do it now, or pay for it later. I am sorry this happened to your family.

What does that have to do with fighting?

This is how I would react if I had to pull my son off of my daughter because they were physically fighting over a video game. That's what it has to do with fighting. Chances I'd take them to the beach the next day: 0%.

All of this. But PP's kids probably wouldn't fight over a videogame. Lack of parenting, no rules in the house, screens/games to occupy kids = OP gets the results she gets. PSA: don't have 3 kids if you're not willing to be hands on or have full time help.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of the Billy Viscidi case, Vienna 1979. Brothers roughhousing, one hit the other with something, a statue I think, and the blow killed him. He buried his brother in the backyard and told his parents his brother walked off down Nutley St. and didn't come back. It took a few days I think before the cops got the brother to confess.

You can Google it for the whole story but it's all WaPo results so you might not be able to read it without a subscription.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would raise holy hell on this and am completely surprised by how gentle your response have been. I would consider not taking them to the beach. I would take the video game away for 6 months minimum. I would have them start jobs around the house to pay for the monthly fees "if" you decide to allow them to resume the video game. I would have them both write an essay to you on exactly what they did wrong. And for you son.....I would sit down and explain although it is not fair in todays world, he can never, ever, ever hit a girl. This is assault. He is not too young to understand the implications of this in the real-world setting, be it being expelled from school or thrown in jail after age 18. I would have them seriously both write an apology letter to the youngest kid, and explain that that was not tattle-tattling but 100% the correct thing to do. Honestly, I would raise holy hell. Do it now, or pay for it later. I am sorry this happened to your family.

What does that have to do with fighting?

This is how I would react if I had to pull my son off of my daughter because they were physically fighting over a video game. That's what it has to do with fighting. Chances I'd take them to the beach the next day: 0%.

All of this. But PP's kids probably wouldn't fight over a videogame. Lack of parenting, no rules in the house, screens/games to occupy kids = OP gets the results she gets. PSA: don't have 3 kids if you're not willing to be hands on or have full time help.

This is silly, as is the PP fear-mongering about a 1979 case of brotherly roughhousing gone wrong. I have no doubt that video games are the source of a lot of evil, but if you really think the OP's kids wouldn't fight without them, I've got a bridge to sell you. I argued fiercely with my brothers all the time as a kid (and as a young adult.) My own boys had a two-hour long standoff about where to go out for dinner tonight while we're on a road trip and the younger one would have happily thrown some punches. They haven't seen a video game in a week. Siblings argue, and occasionally brawl, particularly as they enter puberty and become intense and oppositional around all sorts of things. It's not a parenting failure or a conspiracy of the evil video game industry. And they will probably grow up and be great friends in life, just not at 9yo and 11yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d get rid of video games forever. Including iPads. It only takes 1 to go get a knife and you have lost 2 kids .

Plus 1,000 for getting rid of the video games.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d get rid of video games forever. Including iPads. It only takes 1 to go get a knife and you have lost 2 kids .

Plus 1,000 for getting rid of the video games.

Well that escalated to homicide quickly.

[Anonymous]

Take away video games for certain. That’s the punishment.
Strong lesson on laying a hand on each other (my house rule is bicker all you want but don’t ever raise a hand to each other. Rule is for Kids and adults). Remind them they are getting older and if they have issues they should remove themselves from the situation or get adult help to resolve. That’s the prevention of future incidents.

You said this was unusual so save the bigger conversations for if there becomes a pattern. Tackle their desmans as they come

[Anonymous]

*dramas* as they come