Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t bother me one bit. I am blessed with 3 beautiful children. Not everyone is or wants it. They can celebrate or not celebrate. Doesn’t affect me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Please learn to distinguish the plural from the possessive.

And then step away from social media.

That will fix all of your problems that can be fixed.

I made a typo in the subject, and you pointed it out! So edgy of you. It seems like a lot of people agree with my original rant, maybe it hit a little too close to home for you?

Actually you made the same mistake several times in your posts, which is why I had to comment. One mistake could simply have been inattention.
As a mother of two, I really don't care who celebrates what at any time of the year, because I'm a little busy. I am also international: my family celebrates Mother's Day on a different day in my home country, and there are wildly different traditions in my other country of origin. These celebratory days are arbitrary and vary by country, culture and religion.
What's clear is that you are very aggressive tonight.
Calm down and try to enjoy the life you have. It goes by fast and you only have one!

DP, but I was coming to correct the same thing. You used "mother's" incorrectly every time as a plural. I'm a mother, I celebrate my mother and other mothers. I don't think we need to give a participation trophy for non-mothers. I try not to tempt fate/jinks for pregnant women so I avoid it altogether with them, if I can help it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to lunch with a friend and both of us were given a rose. She's not a mother. i wasn'ts ure what to do with that/

Clearly you should have snatched it away and made a big deal about how she’s not a mother. /s

Honestly, who cares? I don’t know people like you guys in real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. It's a Hallmark holiday. People can celebrate whatever version of motherhood they wan t

Having a pet is not a "version of motherhood" though.

Relax, lady. There are enough cards and dinner reservations to go around. Nobody is taking away from your day. Why are you so offended by what other people do that literally does not affect you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

NP. If you chose not to have kids, then why is Mother's Day sad for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I think some of you have way too much time on your hands if this offends you. You kind of sound like children yourselves. It’s MY day!

Nothing about what others want to consider to be part of a commercial holiday makes me any less of a mother. I am lucky to have a family who loves me and shows me appreciation more than one day a year, though, so I don’t have to dwell on it.

But....it kind of is? Mother's Day is a day to celebrate mother's, not women who are childfree by choice or women who have no children but own pets. I just think it's getting ridiculous.

+1

it IS *my* day! Mother’s work so, so hard. It is a completely thankless job, even if you have a wonderful and kind and attentive husband and kids. It is NICE to be recognized and appreciated. FOR ONE DAY.

I've never felt like this before. I have two kids. Why do you do it if it's a completely thankless job? Maybe the fact that I don't hate being a mother is why I don't care how or if I'm celebrated (or who else is celebrated) on Mother's Day.

[Anonymous]

i love my dog and cat. i do. i'm sorry but mother's day is not a day for that, or those who are not mothers yet!!! we get one day on top of all the crap we do, let us have it. i am not think of you on this day, only myself and whether i can sleep in or not. /end rant slash i had a bad mother's day because once again nothing special was done for this single parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Please learn to distinguish the plural from the possessive.

And then step away from social media.

That will fix all of your problems that can be fixed.

I made a typo in the subject, and you pointed it out! So edgy of you. It seems like a lot of people agree with my original rant, maybe it hit a little too close to home for you?

Actually you made the same mistake several times in your posts, which is why I had to comment. One mistake could simply have been inattention.
As a mother of two, I really don't care who celebrates what at any time of the year, because I'm a little busy. I am also international: my family celebrates Mother's Day on a different day in my home country, and there are wildly different traditions in my other country of origin. These celebratory days are arbitrary and vary by country, culture and religion.
What's clear is that you are very aggressive tonight.
Calm down and try to enjoy the life you have. It goes by fast and you only have one!

DP, but I was coming to correct the same thing. You used "mother's" incorrectly every time as a plural. I'm a mother, I celebrate my mother and other mothers. I don't think we need to give a participation trophy for non-mothers. I try not to tempt fate/jinks for pregnant women so I avoid it altogether with them, if I can help it.

DP. +1 for the typo. And OP, a lot of people also disagreed with you, so there's that (see how I used an apostrophe there?).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

NP. If you chose not to have kids, then why is Mother's Day sad for you?

Because you have infertility, none of the treatments worked, and now you have no money left to adopt. That's how I "chose" not to have kids. IVF doesn't work for everyone, adoption doesn't work for everyone.

I keep a low profile on mother's day, but do wish a happy mother's day to others. One of the posters in my infertility group said she went to church and was given a rose for mother's day, and then had it snatched back by the ushers because she didn't have children, just weeks after she had a miscarriage.

I miss the days of my childhood, when we were all given flowers at church with different colors, depending on whether our own mothers were alive or dead. Now it seems to have become less of a day to honor our own mothers, and more of a day to honor mothers who currently have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

NP. If you chose not to have kids, then why is Mother's Day sad for you?

Because you have infertility, none of the treatments worked, and now you have no money left to adopt. That's how I "chose" not to have kids. IVF doesn't work for everyone, adoption doesn't work for everyone.

I keep a low profile on mother's day, but do wish a happy mother's day to others. One of the posters in my infertility group said she went to church and was given a rose for mother's day, and then had it snatched back by the ushers because she didn't have children, just weeks after she had a miscarriage.

I miss the days of my childhood, when we were all given flowers at church with different colors, depending on whether our own mothers were alive or dead. Now it seems to have become less of a day to honor our own mothers, and more of a day to honor mothers who currently have children.

Then you didn't actually choose not to have children. Everyone seems to agree that we should be mindful of women who are experiencing infertility or who wanted to have kids but couldn't for other reasons. The specific complaint here is about honoring childfree women who very specifically chose not to have kids and/or "dog moms."

Also I can't imagine how hurtful that was for your friend to have the flower snatched back like that. I hear a lot that churches tend to be extremely insensitive to women who are experiencing infertility on Mother's Day (and every other day of the year) and I think it's a real shame.

[Anonymous]

Why does it bother you that the day can be complex for some??? I have no problem with acknowledging other women who are not parenting. Just enjoy with the family. Relax.

[Anonymous]

In addition to infertility, Mother's day can be hard for:
1) Birth moms who placed their children for adoption
2) People estranged from their moms
3) People who have dead moms
4) Moms with incarcerated children (or vice versa).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care. I enjoyed my toddlers today. Everyone has their own issues. My friend was telling me about how hard her new puppy was and how it wasn’t sleeping through the night. She related it to a newborn who breastfeeds all night. Nope, not similar but I don’t care. I’m sure it sucks to get woken by a puppy.

Eh, two of my childless coworkers have gotten puppies, compared them to babies, and then remembered that i have one and apologized. In some ways they DO have similar challenges, the difference is that you can leave a puppy alone for periods of time.

At least I never had to take a baby out into the backyard at 2:00 am when it’s freezing out.

I'm actually laughing. How have I never heard this before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

NP. If you chose not to have kids, then why is Mother's Day sad for you?

Because you have infertility, none of the treatments worked, and now you have no money left to adopt. That's how I "chose" not to have kids. IVF doesn't work for everyone, adoption doesn't work for everyone.

I keep a low profile on mother's day, but do wish a happy mother's day to others. One of the posters in my infertility group said she went to church and was given a rose for mother's day, and then had it snatched back by the ushers because she didn't have children, just weeks after she had a miscarriage.

I miss the days of my childhood, when we were all given flowers at church with different colors, depending on whether our own mothers were alive or dead. Now it seems to have become less of a day to honor our own mothers, and more of a day to honor mothers who currently have children.

I feel like mother's day has turned into wishing every woman above age 18 a happy mother's day. Just wish the motherly figures in your life a happy mother's day and leave everyone else alone. You do not know what we are dealing with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

NP. If you chose not to have kids, then why is Mother's Day sad for you?

Because you have infertility, none of the treatments worked, and now you have no money left to adopt. That's how I "chose" not to have kids. IVF doesn't work for everyone, adoption doesn't work for everyone.

I keep a low profile on mother's day, but do wish a happy mother's day to others. One of the posters in my infertility group said she went to church and was given a rose for mother's day, and then had it snatched back by the ushers because she didn't have children, just weeks after she had a miscarriage.

I miss the days of my childhood, when we were all given flowers at church with different colors, depending on whether our own mothers were alive or dead. Now it seems to have become less of a day to honor our own mothers, and more of a day to honor mothers who currently have children.

I feel like mother's day has turned into wishing every woman above age 18 a happy mother's day. Just wish the motherly figures in your life a happy mother's day and leave everyone else alone. You do not know what we are dealing with.

Amen. If I had my way, the holiday would be abolished entirely. Short of that, celebrating your own mom in some low-key way seems pretty reasonable. The rest is just a fraught means for greeting card companies to profit. (I am a mother, FWIW.)