bringing toys to the playground and not sharing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Many things annoyed me about the situation. The big one was when the kid (age 5-7) took the ball from my 2 year olds hands “THATS MY BALL” and then put it next to his mom and ran away. He wasn’t playing with it. He wasn’t playing with it when my son found it either. And it wasn’t an expensive ball. It was just a ball.

Don’t bring a ball to the playground, and then yell at kids who touch it. Come on, now.

You should have told your child no to the ball as its not ours. Instead without asking you took another child's ball. Child was fine to say that's my ball and take it back. Cost has nothing to do with it. You and your child did not have permission to play with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

The point you're missing is that you cannot control other people's dumb life choices!
Your only option is to teach your child to navigate them with grace. Bring a little toy if he really wants to have something as well. Perhaps that's why the other mother started doing this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this ‘no sharing’ thing is new. If my kid wants to bring a toy to the playground, I make them share. If they don’t want to share, it goes in my bag or back in the car. The only exception I can think of is if it’s a toy that can only be played with in the park, like when my son got some flying drone thing. But even then I still make him let other (older) kids have turns if they are really begging for it. Not going to let a 2yo play with the expensive thing. But if my toddler brings a ball, she better be prepared to pass it back and forth.

Yup. New generation of a$$holes here. God I hate this town.

Ditto. Bring it to the playground, then should be shared. You want to play alone, stay home. You don’t want your “special toy” broken, then toy surely doesn’t come to playground where it will be left aside while you run around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

You are very wrong. A child should not have to share. If your kid breaks the toy, will you replace it? They are personal toys. If someone asks to use your phone, is that community property as it’s at the park and will you say yes?

Dp I agree with pp. If you drive to the playground and its a cool car can we "share" and drive it around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Many things annoyed me about the situation. The big one was when the kid (age 5-7) took the ball from my 2 year olds hands “THATS MY BALL” and then put it next to his mom and ran away. He wasn’t playing with it. He wasn’t playing with it when my son found it either. And it wasn’t an expensive ball. It was just a ball.

Don’t bring a ball to the playground, and then yell at kids who touch it. Come on, now.

You should have told your child no to the ball as its not ours. Instead without asking you took another child's ball. Child was fine to say that's my ball and take it back. Cost has nothing to do with it. You and your child did not have permission to play with it.

+1 No idea why you thought it was okay to allow your child to grab another kid's toy. It is irrelevant that the ball wasn't being played with at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Some of you sound insufferable. I tell my boys, don’t bring the toy to the playground if you don’t want to share. If you do bring a toy, you must be open to sharing. Also, don’t take others’ toys without asking first. If they say no, you have to accept it.

We can’t control others, but I try to teach my kids to always err on the side of generosity. What if you have all the toys in the world but no friends?! Is this the type of world we want to create?

Just share, be generous, see other kids enjoy your toy and experience the good in life, together- in isolation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Many things annoyed me about the situation. The big one was when the kid (age 5-7) took the ball from my 2 year olds hands “THATS MY BALL” and then put it next to his mom and ran away. He wasn’t playing with it. He wasn’t playing with it when my son found it either. And it wasn’t an expensive ball. It was just a ball.

Don’t bring a ball to the playground, and then yell at kids who touch it. Come on, now.

You should have told your child no to the ball as its not ours. Instead without asking you took another child's ball. Child was fine to say that's my ball and take it back. Cost has nothing to do with it. You and your child did not have permission to play with it.

+1 No idea why you thought it was okay to allow your child to grab another kid's toy. It is irrelevant that the ball wasn't being played with at the moment.

It was a random ball under the jungle gym. Do people seriously not let their toddlers pick up colorful, fun balls on the playground? “No, Larla, that’s not ours”. I mean, it’s a ball. No one is playing with it. We wouldn’t take it home. But pick it up? Sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if the kiddo wants to take a toy to the park, he needs to agree to share it beforehand, or it stays home. I used to practice little lines with him: e.g., "You can play with my car while I swing, but I'd like it back afterward." He got the message pretty quickly.

Ugh, stop with the "kiddo."

It’s so 2010.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Many things annoyed me about the situation. The big one was when the kid (age 5-7) took the ball from my 2 year olds hands “THATS MY BALL” and then put it next to his mom and ran away. He wasn’t playing with it. He wasn’t playing with it when my son found it either. And it wasn’t an expensive ball. It was just a ball.

Don’t bring a ball to the playground, and then yell at kids who touch it. Come on, now.

You should have told your child no to the ball as its not ours. Instead without asking you took another child's ball. Child was fine to say that's my ball and take it back. Cost has nothing to do with it. You and your child did not have permission to play with it.

Just don't bring it to the playground. NBD.

[Anonymous]

In this hypercapitalistic, private property-driven area, this is hardly surprising. But give it time. Eventually it develops into the, hey, we paid more for our house, so we get a better school attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this ‘no sharing’ thing is new. If my kid wants to bring a toy to the playground, I make them share. If they don’t want to share, it goes in my bag or back in the car. The only exception I can think of is if it’s a toy that can only be played with in the park, like when my son got some flying drone thing. But even then I still make him let other (older) kids have turns if they are really begging for it. Not going to let a 2yo play with the expensive thing. But if my toddler brings a ball, she better be prepared to pass it back and forth.

Yup. New generation of a$$holes here. God I hate this town.

Ditto. Bring it to the playground, then should be shared. You want to play alone, stay home. You don’t want your “special toy” broken, then toy surely doesn’t come to playground where it will be left aside while you run around.

+1

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you sound insufferable. I tell my boys, don’t bring the toy to the playground if you don’t want to share. If you do bring a toy, you must be open to sharing. Also, don’t take others’ toys without asking first. If they say no, you have to accept it.

We can’t control others, but I try to teach my kids to always err on the side of generosity. What if you have all the toys in the world but no friends?! Is this the type of world we want to create?

Just share, be generous, see other kids enjoy your toy and experience the good in life, together- in isolation.

So if you're not currently using your (watch/handbag/dress/car) then you won't mind if do, right? Doesn't matter if you don't know me, it's all in the spirit of sharing. After all, you brought it into a public space.

[Anonymous]

Well, the mom said it’s the kid’s special ball. Not sure what answer you’re looking for here, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you sound insufferable. I tell my boys, don’t bring the toy to the playground if you don’t want to share. If you do bring a toy, you must be open to sharing. Also, don’t take others’ toys without asking first. If they say no, you have to accept it.

We can’t control others, but I try to teach my kids to always err on the side of generosity. What if you have all the toys in the world but no friends?! Is this the type of world we want to create?

Just share, be generous, see other kids enjoy your toy and experience the good in life, together- in isolation.

So if you're not currently using your (watch/handbag/dress/car) then you won't mind if do, right? Doesn't matter if you don't know me, it's all in the spirit of sharing. After all, you brought it into a public space.

That’s a good job about pointing out the hypocrisy here. It’s not as if parents in, say, n Arlington or Bethesda are into sharing anything they have.

[Anonymous]

I always taught my kids when they were younger that if you bring your own toys to the playground then prepare for them to get broken by other kids. The stone, cold truth works.