bringing toys to the playground and not sharing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

You are very wrong. A child should not have to share. If your kid breaks the toy, will you replace it? They are personal toys. If someone asks to use your phone, is that community property as it’s at the park and will you say yes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

Or maybe kid did not want other kids to kick it out if sight and leave it there... Myabe kids mom said..ok take the ball to the park but if it gets lost you will not have a ball anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this ‘no sharing’ thing is new. If my kid wants to bring a toy to the playground, I make them share. If they don’t want to share, it goes in my bag or back in the car. The only exception I can think of is if it’s a toy that can only be played with in the park, like when my son got some flying drone thing. But even then I still make him let other (older) kids have turns if they are really begging for it. Not going to let a 2yo play with the expensive thing. But if my toddler brings a ball, she better be prepared to pass it back and forth.

Yup. New generation of a$$holes here. God I hate this town.

[Anonymous]

The worst is bubbles. All kids want a turn, and the all want to pop them.

I tell my kids they cannot bring anything to the playground that they do not want to share, that those things stay home.

As for the parent allowing her kids to bring "special" toys that no one else can touch, but leave them laying all over the place , I would have just picked up that special toy and handed it back to the mom, and said in a nice tone: "I wouldn't want your special toy to get broken, so here you go"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Annoying behavior because of course kids are going to want to play with balls and remote control cars, but the mom is technically correct; they do not HAVE to share. But a smarter decision would be to make the kids place toys they're not playing with near her for her to put away where they don't cause problems. She was just being difficult.

If DD brings toys to the park or pool, I encourage her to let other kids take a turn if they're interested. I try not to say "share" because so many times other kids take that to mean, I can just take this for however long I want. "Take a turn" is a little more specific that you have to give it back.

Toys that aren't going be shared, should be put away unless the child is actively playing with them. If a child leaves a ball lying around, amongst the other communal toys at the park, it is a reasonable expectation that another child might come and play with it.

On the other hand, if a child is actively using a toy, either his or communal, and someone who isn't the owner wants it they can ask to play but need to accept no for an answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

You are very wrong. A child should not have to share. If your kid breaks the toy, will you replace it? They are personal toys. If someone asks to use your phone, is that community property as it’s at the park and will you say yes?

Yes, they shouldn't have to share. But why court drama by bringing a toy that the child doesn't want to share to a public park?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if the kiddo wants to take a toy to the park, he needs to agree to share it beforehand, or it stays home. I used to practice little lines with him: e.g., "You can play with my car while I swing, but I'd like it back afterward." He got the message pretty quickly.

Ugh, stop with the "kiddo."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this ‘no sharing’ thing is new. If my kid wants to bring a toy to the playground, I make them share. If they don’t want to share, it goes in my bag or back in the car. The only exception I can think of is if it’s a toy that can only be played with in the park, like when my son got some flying drone thing. But even then I still make him let other (older) kids have turns if they are really begging for it. Not going to let a 2yo play with the expensive thing. But if my toddler brings a ball, she better be prepared to pass it back and forth.

Yup. New generation of a$$holes here. God I hate this town.

Exactly, this is so funny. My youngest is 19. It's not new. I distinctly remember the same scenarios from when he was playground age. In fact, I (much like a PP who asked if people share their phones) I made a point with an overzealous "share! you have to share!" mom by picking up her car keys and telling her I just needed to quickly borrow it to drop of dry cleaning, she didn't mind sharing, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

You are very wrong. A child should not have to share. If your kid breaks the toy, will you replace it? They are personal toys. If someone asks to use your phone, is that community property as it’s at the park and will you say yes?

If you are concerned about your phone being broken, then you don't leave it lying in the middle of play area. If you do, I'd probably pick it up and look through it to see who lost it, because I'd assume it was an accident and you wanted to be reunited with it. If you then attacked me for touching "your phone" you'd be an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if the kiddo wants to take a toy to the park, he needs to agree to share it beforehand, or it stays home. I used to practice little lines with him: e.g., "You can play with my car while I swing, but I'd like it back afterward." He got the message pretty quickly.

Ugh, stop with the "kiddo."

+1 million

So annoying. It's longer than kid, FFS. It also makes you sound like a twit. I bet you were also preggers with a kiddo.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you bring your own toy OP?

[Anonymous]

If we can't share it, we don't bring it period. My kids want to play with other kids toys, it's a two way street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The movement of "no sharing" came from the notion that "Share!" basically meant giving what you are playing with to someone else. I do not think that is "sharing".

The problems with these various scenes were
1. Kid wasn't even playing with the ball. He just didn't want anyone else playing with it.

2. You shouldn't bring a cool, new toy like a remote control car to the playground if don't want anyone to see it. I'm not saying you have to hand over the control to my kid, but your kid shouldn't be shouting NO IT IS MINE to everyone.

You are very wrong. A child should not have to share. If your kid breaks the toy, will you replace it? They are personal toys. If someone asks to use your phone, is that community property as it’s at the park and will you say yes?

Then I wouldn't LET MY KID BRING IT TO THE PLAYGROUND. If my child brings a truck to the playground, he has to let others see if and possibly play with it. Or, leave the truck at home. You can't bring something and then not expect anyone to look at it or want to see it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you bring your own toy OP?

We do, if it is is something they will willingly share and not throw a fit about. If not, we leave it at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if the kiddo wants to take a toy to the park, he needs to agree to share it beforehand, or it stays home. I used to practice little lines with him: e.g., "You can play with my car while I swing, but I'd like it back afterward." He got the message pretty quickly.

Ugh, stop with the "kiddo."

Kiddo. Kiddo kiddo kiddo.

I like the term and am unsure why it puts such a burr up your ass. But now I'm even more inclined to use it.