Is there a legit reason for this sketchy behavior

[Anonymous]

“Parts” of the apartment are a dump? How is that possible when overall it’s nice?

[Anonymous]

When pipes burst an apartment and all possessions are usually ruined. The person moves out. I suppose if it were a nine room apartment he could have stayed. But this just seems very odd.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM. I have been dating a guy for nine months exclusively. Until yesterday, he wouldn’t let me see his apartment or meet his dog. He had a lot of excuses that at first seemed normal but then progressively got thinner, but I did believe him. Mostly that his apartment is a dump and super run down. It flooded after some pipes burst a few months ago so that was a whole thing for a while why I couldn’t see it. I have put my foot down and we picked a date for me to see it, and then he pushed that back a few times. Finally I saw the place last night. He has a cool place and a great dog. He says he only sees the parts of the apartment that need work so he thinks it’s a dump. But the place is great.

I don’t think he’s hiding a wife, it looks like he only lives there. But my sister asked, unprompted, if I am the other woman when I told her all of this and now I can’t get that out of my head. Should I take his explanation at face value or is this as weird as my sister thinks?

Ok, is it possible he was, or still is, homeless and that this ("his place") is not really his place, but that of someone else he has either borrowed it from temporarily or even just took illegally entered it while he knew the real occupant or occupants would be away? Were there any signs of breaking an entering, such as damaged door frame, etc? If not, perhaps he is in tremendous debt and only recently came into money, from a relative or court action, and only now could be actually afford to acquire an apartment, especially one is that is so wonderful

Looks like the person from the dating hoarder thread is back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he use a key to enter the place or did the door "just happen" to be open? If so, it may have been a random unoccupied (and unlocked) apartment that he entered saying "Well, here it is, my apartment." Is this really his place or not? Whose dog is it? His? Did it appear familiar with him?

Yes, I am sure this is it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

I know! Some posters have convoluted stories on why OP didn't see the apartment for 9 months but how do you have a dog and not introduce the dog? Even if his story about his place is [weirdly] legit, what kind of person leaves their dog alone?

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Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

I know! Some posters have convoluted stories on why OP didn't see the apartment for 9 months but how do you have a dog and not introduce the dog? Even if his story about his place is [weirdly] legit, what kind of person leaves their dog alone?

Lot's of people leave their dog alone, we're not talking about in a car in August.

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Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

I know! Some posters have convoluted stories on why OP didn't see the apartment for 9 months but how do you have a dog and not introduce the dog? Even if his story about his place is [weirdly] legit, what kind of person leaves their dog alone?

Lot's of people leave their dog alone, we're not talking about in a car in August.

Because, assuming after 9 months of dating, he and OP are sleeping together and he's spending nights at her house. What does he do with the dog?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

I know! Some posters have convoluted stories on why OP didn't see the apartment for 9 months but how do you have a dog and not introduce the dog? Even if his story about his place is [weirdly] legit, what kind of person leaves their dog alone?

Lot's of people leave their dog alone, we're not talking about in a car in August.

Because, assuming after 9 months of dating, he and OP are sleeping together and he's spending nights at her house. What does he do with the dog?

Exactly. Dogs aren't like cats. They really shouldn't be left alone like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

I know! Some posters have convoluted stories on why OP didn't see the apartment for 9 months but how do you have a dog and not introduce the dog? Even if his story about his place is [weirdly] legit, what kind of person leaves their dog alone?

Lot's of people leave their dog alone, we're not talking about in a car in August.

Because, assuming after 9 months of dating, he and OP are sleeping together and he's spending nights at her house. What does he do with the dog?

Exactly. Dogs aren't like cats. They really shouldn't be left alone like that.

I think I've left my dog overnight one time in his entire life because I was drunk, and I woke up at 5 to go home to him and felt terrible about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

This. There are reasons why someone might not want to show you there place the first month, but people with dogs always have their dogs check you out to make sure it's a good fit before they commit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nine months and you didn't meet his dog??

This. There are reasons why someone might not want to show you there place the first month, but people with dogs always have their dogs check you out to make sure it's a good fit before they commit.

And the dog got left in a flooded apartment????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But to answer your original question... no, there's no legit reason for this sketchy behavior. While some explanations are less problematic than others (e.g. not wanting to admit to having a roommate vs. cheating), I don't think I would want to date someone who lied or at least misrepresented the truth for our entire relationship.

+1

[Anonymous]

Hay OP! Any update on this???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He has a wife and he took you to an Airbnb

His place IS a dump and he took you to an Airbnb.

[Anonymous]

OP , don’t be an idiot (any longer). Dump the lying strange man. Just ghost him.