Is there a legit reason for this sketchy behavior
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Anonymous
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DCUM. I have been dating a guy for nine months exclusively. Until yesterday, he wouldn’t let me see his apartment or meet his dog. He had a lot of excuses that at first seemed normal but then progressively got thinner, but I did believe him. Mostly that his apartment is a dump and super run down. It flooded after some pipes burst a few months ago so that was a whole thing for a while why I couldn’t see it. I have put my foot down and we picked a date for me to see it, and then he pushed that back a few times. Finally I saw the place last night. He has a cool place and a great dog. He says he only sees the parts of the apartment that need work so he thinks it’s a dump. But the place is great.
I don’t think he’s hiding a wife, it looks like he only lives there. But my sister asked, unprompted, if I am the other woman when I told her all of this and now I can’t get that out of my head. Should I take his explanation at face value or is this as weird as my sister thinks? |
Anonymous
| Weird. |
Anonymous
| Ask him. |
Anonymous
| Definitely hiding something. This reminds me of the hoarding date thread |
Anonymous
| Very weird. It could be he has other women in his life (maybe not living there, but dating or fwb situations), or he is just emotionally unavailable and seeing his place and meeting his dog is just some big boundary of his. |
Anonymous
| Even if he’s not hiding another woman, you don’t really want to be with someone that secretive or who freaks out that much over minor damage. |
Anonymous
| He has a wife and he took you to an Airbnb |
Anonymous
| I'd wait and see if visits to his place continue to be rare. |
Anonymous
| Weird, yes. Something is up. |
Anonymous
LOL devious as hell but something about it rings true Do people really do this? |
Anonymous
Yes. I would put money on him being married. 9 months and you haven’t seen his place is ridiculous. Drop him. |
Anonymous
| And you can easily figure out whether it’s an Airbnb. |
Anonymous
Yes, DTMFA. Pronto!! |
Anonymous
| He waited until his wife was out of town, hid all her stuff in a closet, and invited you over. |
Anonymous
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What is your goal here? How old are you?
If you are dating this man as potential marriage material, do you think you could ever trust him, when he wouldn’t even let you see his place for nine whole months? Trust your intuition. It’s screaming at you! Dump this man tonight and don’t look back. |