A lot of nannies suck

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you surprised that people with nannies are a little defensive about what you said? I'm not. Try as they might, they can't really know what the nanny/au pair/babysitter/daycare does all day unless they put a go pro on their kid or hire a private investigator.

I am a former SAHM who was home for years who thinks OP is full of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

A lot of patents suck, too. So you took care of niece for two weeks and you are now an expert. You are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you surprised that people with nannies are a little defensive about what you said? I'm not. Try as they might, they can't really know what the nanny/au pair/babysitter/daycare does all day unless they put a go pro on their kid or hire a private investigator.

My daycare has cameras. If my inhome has cameras, I assume that many larger centers do too.

[Anonymous]

You can fire a nanny but you can't fire a parent. And most parents are worse. I see on stop moms and dads walking their kids around and starting at their phones, and driving and staring and typing on their phones, and on and on. There is no crappier parents than a parent that takes a cell phone on a walk and is surprised when the kid is nowhere to be found.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people suck, period. I work in a high income area and most of the parents and nannies are awesome. I’ve also worked in a lower income area and the parents there really sucked, it was nuts how little they cared. Maybe the area you are in isn’t as affluent. Maybe people are hiring college kids that have no vested interest in childcare as a career. Sometimes you really do get what you pay for...

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM and believe in letting my child play and interact without me hovering. I would expect the same from a nanny. Also, you should consider that the nanny is probably looking up child related things while their charge is busy playing. It’s better to be distracted by the phone while your child is occupied than when you’re one on one, obviously. I do a lot of planning at night but I wouldn’t expect a nanny to do that on their off time.

I’m texting the parents, emailing the per, etc. Thanks for noticing my hard work, even when the parents say I can have downtime

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I am guilty of using my phone when my charges play. Because I work 13-hour days and my only break is when the kids are happily absorbed in a safe and confined area. That’s why we go to those places. I am supervising, but I’ve been doing this for over a decade. I don’t need to stare at them every second they are awake in order to keep them safe. If we are doing other activities (going on a hike, touring a museum, creating art, swimming, etc. etc.) then I am on and engaged the whole time. That is fun too but I can’t sustain it for 65 hours a week. And believe it or not I AM often doing kid-relatwd things. I volunteer at their school and need to email and text committee members, I order all their clothes, I order groceries every week and make all of their meals so I need to meal plan and use the instacart app and so on. Many nannies take on everything a SAH parent does but our standards are often higher since we are professionals. My charges eat home-cooked meals and only use screens when they are ill.

This is super false. I SAH. I use my time at home to pay bills, budget and invest, make arrangements when something in the house needs to be fixed (or fix it myself), do yard work, make kids doctors appointments (and go to them), refill prescriptions, pick up dry cleaning, shop for all the kids clothes and shoes and sports equipment, make plans for the family on the weekend, plan vacations, etc, as well as of course doing all the laundry, meal planning, cooking, and grocery shopping.

Most nannies do not do all of these things. And frankly being a SAHM is far more interesting and engaging than being a nanny (which seems like drudgery) because I am 100% in control of how we spend our time, and I have many projects I can work on as well, often with the kids (organizing parts of the garage, arranging to have our patio redone and picking new furniture for it, gardening, etc).

I do your whole list, with the exception of investing and yard work. I also do other things, like tutoring, teaching a second language, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

You know nothing...

You don’t actually know if they were nannies or parents.

You don’t know what they are being paid, if they are nannies.

You watched a child during your winter break. You have no idea what actual full time childcare is like and the exhaustion it puts on someone.

You are a typical arrogant student. Get off your high horse and come back when you actually experience life and children longer than 2 weeks.

Allll of this.

Sorry but 95% of the time you can tell whether it’s a nanny or parent.

Nobody knows if I’m parent or nanny unless I introduce myself or they’ve met the parents. Everyone assumes I’m the parent. Everyone! Doctors, teachers, coaches, everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you surprised that people with nannies are a little defensive about what you said? I'm not. Try as they might, they can't really know what the nanny/au pair/babysitter/daycare does all day unless they put a go pro on their kid or hire a private investigator.

I work in Georgetown. My MB hears CONSTANTLY about what I’m doing with her kids. I don’t know even half the people, but she does. And she she says x with the brown dog on y street, the kids go nuts, asking why they didn’t see the dog. At which point, MB tells the what we were doing. So, yeah...

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't permit a nanny to take my kid to an indoor play place - that's for ME when I need special activity on a bad weather weekend or over a long holiday break.

The nanny is not being paid to go to a bounce house and zone out on the phone. I'd expect a nanny to host a play date, set up a craft, engage the child in cooking or household activities, put on galoshes and stomp in the rain, go to a restaurant and practice good table skills, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm with you. I've never even seen a salesperson on the phone as much as nannies are.
chit-chatting away mostly in their own language. I thought they have large extended family or a lot of people who are unemployed somewhere and nothing else to do but do have a phone and internet access to connect to cousin in US.
I'm a foreigner myself but I don't have friends or family who has time to talk to me for more than 5-10 minutes.
You all can talk about moms doing it too or the nanny shopping for the kid, whatever. I'm sticking to my story- long loud chats with whoever in their native language. Even if you are at the park without kids, who needs to chit-chat hours at the time and as loudly as the do?!

NP. This is so, so accurate. I am a SAH parent and I see the same regular nannies at the park and library. The older nannies are always chatting on the phone, the younger ones scrolling Snapchat. There are a few truly amazing nannies that engage their charges and provide instruction, but most of them only look up from their phone when they hear crying.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

You know nothing...

You don’t actually know if they were nannies or parents.

You don’t know what they are being paid, if they are nannies.

You watched a child during your winter break. You have no idea what actual full time childcare is like and the exhaustion it puts on someone.

You are a typical arrogant student. Get off your high horse and come back when you actually experience life and children longer than 2 weeks.

Allll of this.

Sorry but 95% of the time you can tell whether it’s a nanny or parent.

Why? Bc they don’t match what you think a typical family should look like?

Puhlease. If you can't differentiate a nanny from a mom in 90% of the cases you need glasses. When you see a man and a woman eating together at a restaurant, can you not tell if they are probably siblings or new lovers or a married couple with kids or two real estate agents meeting over lunch!?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

You know nothing...

You don’t actually know if they were nannies or parents.

You don’t know what they are being paid, if they are nannies.

You watched a child during your winter break. You have no idea what actual full time childcare is like and the exhaustion it puts on someone.

You are a typical arrogant student. Get off your high horse and come back when you actually experience life and children longer than 2 weeks.

Allll of this.

Sorry but 95% of the time you can tell whether it’s a nanny or parent.

Why? Bc they don’t match what you think a typical family should look like?

Puhlease. If you can't differentiate a nanny from a mom in 90% of the cases you need glasses. When you see a man and a woman eating together at a restaurant, can you not tell if they are probably siblings or new lovers or a married couple with kids or two real estate agents meeting over lunch!?

No I can’t. But then again I myob and stay in my lane. How would you even tell the relationship of ppl eating in a restaurant?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

These bimbos are sitters, not nannies. Professional nannies simply cost more, and lots of parents could afford better, but have other priorities.

[Anonymous]

Raise your own damn kids.