A lot of nannies suck

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

As plenty people are laughing at her now.

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM and I have known lots of nannies over the years.

I wouldn't fault a nanny for checking her phone occasionally - not any more than a parent.

BUT there are some really crappy nannies beyond that. There were only 4-5 that I've known that I would consider for my own kids. The rest were just...unkind, unattached, or unsuited for the job.

[Anonymous]

Yup. My kids are older, but I was a SAHM for many years. I remember seeing these nannies at the park zoning out on their phones while their little charge yelled for them from the monkey bars to come catch them.

But the camp counselors were worse. They were more engaged with the kids, but they were yelling at the kids constantly and talking smack about certain kids in the group in a loud voice. Maybe it was just the camps I saw, but I didn't like what I saw. That's why I never sent my kids to day camps in the summer. I saw the other side of these "enrichment camps" at parks, and pools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

As plenty people are laughing at her now.

I'm not laughing. What she's saying is true, although I do see OP's undertone of not really "getting" how hard it is to be a long term caregiver.

Also, it's super easy to tell who is a nanny and who is a parent, because if you wait for like 5 minutes (as one would at a playground or story time) you will hear the child refer to the adult as either "mom" or "Sonia". Most kids don't call their parents by their first name. Also, when you go to story time and more than half the caregivers are dark-skinned, in their 50s, and speak with an accent, you can bet all the white 2 and 3 year olds running around are not their own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup. My kids are older, but I was a SAHM for many years. I remember seeing these nannies at the park zoning out on their phones while their little charge yelled for them from the monkey bars to come catch them.

But the camp counselors were worse. They were more engaged with the kids, but they were yelling at the kids constantly and talking smack about certain kids in the group in a loud voice. Maybe it was just the camps I saw, but I didn't like what I saw. That's why I never sent my kids to day camps in the summer. I saw the other side of these "enrichment camps" at parks, and pools.

I saw similar things. However, I used to pass by a full-day preschool pretty regularly, and every time I passed by it seemed like the kids were being actively watched by multiple people and cared for and seemed really happy. I knew that was where i wanted to send my kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yup. My kids are older, but I was a SAHM for many years. I remember seeing these nannies at the park zoning out on their phones while their little charge yelled for them from the monkey bars to come catch them.

But the camp counselors were worse. They were more engaged with the kids, but they were yelling at the kids constantly and talking smack about certain kids in the group in a loud voice. Maybe it was just the camps I saw, but I didn't like what I saw. That's why I never sent my kids to day camps in the summer. I saw the other side of these "enrichment camps" at parks, and pools.

I saw similar things. However, I used to pass by a full-day preschool pretty regularly, and every time I passed by it seemed like the kids were being actively watched by multiple people and cared for and seemed really happy. I knew that was where i wanted to send my kid.

PP here. Not saying all daycares are good. There's one in home I drive by where the provider is always outside yakking on her phone during the middle of the day and i know she's the only one watching the kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. My kids are older, but I was a SAHM for many years. I remember seeing these nannies at the park zoning out on their phones while their little charge yelled for them from the monkey bars to come catch them.

But the camp counselors were worse. They were more engaged with the kids, but they were yelling at the kids constantly and talking smack about certain kids in the group in a loud voice. Maybe it was just the camps I saw, but I didn't like what I saw. That's why I never sent my kids to day camps in the summer. I saw the other side of these "enrichment camps" at parks, and pools.

I saw similar things. However, I used to pass by a full-day preschool pretty regularly, and every time I passed by it seemed like the kids were being actively watched by multiple people and cared for and seemed really happy. I knew that was where i wanted to send my kid.

PP here. Not saying all daycares are good. There's one in home I drive by where the provider is always outside yakking on her phone during the middle of the day and i know she's the only one watching the kids.

She's leaving the kids inside unsupervised?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

As plenty people are laughing at her now.

I'm not laughing. What she's saying is true, although I do see OP's undertone of not really "getting" how hard it is to be a long term caregiver.

Also, it's super easy to tell who is a nanny and who is a parent, because if you wait for like 5 minutes (as one would at a playground or story time) you will hear the child refer to the adult as either "mom" or "Sonia". Most kids don't call their parents by their first name. Also, when you go to story time and more than half the caregivers are dark-skinned, in their 50s, and speak with an accent, you can bet all the white 2 and 3 year olds running around are not their own children.

Your experience is very different from mine. I see worse parenting from actual parents and the terrible nannies I see are actually au pairs who have no idea how to take care of children. They are usually very young, cannot speak English and want to hang with their friends or be on their phone. The older nannies you are referring to, have in my experience, been the most active and engaged with the children in their care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

As plenty people are laughing at her now.

I'm not laughing. What she's saying is true, although I do see OP's undertone of not really "getting" how hard it is to be a long term caregiver.

Also, it's super easy to tell who is a nanny and who is a parent, because if you wait for like 5 minutes (as one would at a playground or story time) you will hear the child refer to the adult as either "mom" or "Sonia". Most kids don't call their parents by their first name. Also, when you go to story time and more than half the caregivers are dark-skinned, in their 50s, and speak with an accent, you can bet all the white 2 and 3 year olds running around are not their own children.

Your experience is very different from mine. I see worse parenting from actual parents and the terrible nannies I see are actually au pairs who have no idea how to take care of children. They are usually very young, cannot speak English and want to hang with their friends or be on their phone. The older nannies you are referring to, have in my experience, been the most active and engaged with the children in their care.

This...the worst nannies are the younger au pairs and the college-age ones. I knew ones that would party in tehir bosses' houses when the bosses were gone. They're using these kids as "practice" for when they have kids of their own and they don't really care too much because they're not professional nannies who need references, etc long term. The professional more experienced nannies take it more seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

+1 Nannies are people too. I mom and I definitely spend time on my phone while watching my kids, and so do 90% of the moms around me. Everyone needs downtime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Enjoyed reading all the responses.

The nannies I see at these play areas usually have kids 3 and under. Kids this age usually need a little more supervision since they tend to parallel play more than play with each other. It's really sad because I see the kids coming up to their nannies to play and the nanny just brushes them off and tells them to play by themselves.

I'm not a career nanny or a mom but I do nanny during my breaks from school for other families. I'm also getting my doctorate in child psychology so I'm not an expert but I know a thing or two about kids.

OP, I hope you save this post so you can come back and laugh at it when you have kids of your own.

Oh, I see, you are getting your doctorate! Come back when you have a few years of hands on experience with either your kids or as a nanny. I do think you will come back and laugh at your post.

As plenty people are laughing at her now.

I'm not laughing. What she's saying is true, although I do see OP's undertone of not really "getting" how hard it is to be a long term caregiver.

Also, it's super easy to tell who is a nanny and who is a parent, because if you wait for like 5 minutes (as one would at a playground or story time) you will hear the child refer to the adult as either "mom" or "Sonia". Most kids don't call their parents by their first name. Also, when you go to story time and more than half the caregivers are dark-skinned, in their 50s, and speak with an accent, you can bet all the white 2 and 3 year olds running around are not their own children.

Your experience is very different from mine. I see worse parenting from actual parents and the terrible nannies I see are actually au pairs who have no idea how to take care of children. They are usually very young, cannot speak English and want to hang with their friends or be on their phone. The older nannies you are referring to, have in my experience, been the most active and engaged with the children in their care.

+1

When I stayed home, this was my experience. The worst were actual parents, which was depressing. Next were the au pairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed this too, OP, but I'll say this. I'm a SAHM and I'm not 100% on with my kid all the time. I wouldn't expect a caregiver to be either.

Except the majority of parents hiring and employee nannies want one who is not on their phone ever or very, very rarely. A visit to the nanny forum can confirm.
And many go to lengths they think will ensure this.

[Anonymous]

LOL @ all these SAHMs being like "of course I'm on my phone! I need a break! It's sooooo hard!" and in the next breath talking about how enriched their kids are by them staying home all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL @ all these SAHMs being like "of course I'm on my phone! I need a break! It's sooooo hard!" and in the next breath talking about how enriched their kids are by them staying home all day.

Both can be true. Being a SAHM is a 24/7 job. Everyone needs a break. You don't get a set lunch break or office hours as you do at work.