Polite detachment in face of emotional outburst

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, how cold. A bunch of women here who can't deal with other people's emotions and would also walk away.
Are you also like that with your own families and children?

We also teach our children to react this way. It's called de-escalation. It's called courtesy. It's called self-control.
Surely you are not advocating for the reverse...

You teach your children wrong. They are not supposed to hurt someone and then when faced with it just walk away without sincerely apologizing.
It's not de-escalation. It's dismissive and cowardly. Not cool.

We don’t know that anyone was hurt without an apology.

My children are not taught to stand still and accept verbal abuse (constant rehashing). Maybe that’s how your family rolls, but I teach my kids to walk away from conversations that aren’t productive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, how cold. A bunch of women here who can't deal with other people's emotions and would also walk away.
Are you also like that with your own families and children?

We also teach our children to react this way. It's called de-escalation. It's called courtesy. It's called self-control.
Surely you are not advocating for the reverse...

You teach your children wrong. They are not supposed to hurt someone and then when faced with it just walk away without sincerely apologizing.
It's not de-escalation. It's dismissive and cowardly. Not cool.

The thing is, we don't know that she hasn't already apologized (once? twice? a million trillion times?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what would have felt like the right response to you?

Excellent question

Bringing this back to the fore.

OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, how cold. A bunch of women here who can't deal with other people's emotions and would also walk away.
Are you also like that with your own families and children?

We also teach our children to react this way. It's called de-escalation. It's called courtesy. It's called self-control.
Surely you are not advocating for the reverse...

You teach your children wrong. They are not supposed to hurt someone and then when faced with it just walk away without sincerely apologizing.
It's not de-escalation. It's dismissive and cowardly. Not cool.

PP you replied to. OP and her ex-friend apparently already had conversations about this, where there might have been regrets expressed or even apologies, and yet they still disagree, so in this context, walking away is absolutely the right thing to do. If this is serious enough, OP can sue. But my money is on OP being a drama queen and the other person being sane and trying to "go high".