Am I a Creep and Didn't Know it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey op, I'm a man and not a bitchy woman like most PPs

I think the compliment was too long and focused too specifically on her top, especially if it showed more skin than usual

I would not worry about it much more. But yeah, nothing to be gained by complimenting women, as you can see. Treat women like landmines at work and you will be better off.

How about treat them like you would men? If it's not the sort of compliment you'd give to a man, then don't say it.

Why do you find it hard to think of women as human beings?

[Sammy76]

I am beyond devastated by the avalanche of visceral responses. Very few thoughtful responses. I am not a troll or whatever. I've had enough money for years that I haven't had a "real" job since the mid-90's but of course I've seen\heard of the metoo movement. Last "office" I worked at, I was doing 2 of the attorneys and 1 support staff. No I wasn't the boss of any of them. She doesn't work for me and it's just a place for me to go a few hours a couple times a week. Plus I've lived in the south until recently and most everybody seems more serious up here.

Based on so many comments that could've been relayed in a nicer way you've help push me over the edge and I'm headed back south. This northeast is so f'ing mean, so blunt, so acid...I hate everything about this part of the country...hate it. So I guess a thank you is in order.

[Anonymous]

Sammy76 wrote:I am beyond devastated by the avalanche of visceral responses. Very few thoughtful responses. I am not a troll or whatever. I've had enough money for years that I haven't had a "real" job since the mid-90's but of course I've seen\heard of the metoo movement. Last "office" I worked at, I was doing 2 of the attorneys and 1 support staff. No I wasn't the boss of any of them. She doesn't work for me and it's just a place for me to go a few hours a couple times a week. Plus I've lived in the south until recently and most everybody seems more serious up here.

Based on so many comments that could've been relayed in a nicer way you've help push me over the edge and I'm headed back south. This northeast is so f'ing mean, so blunt, so acid...I hate everything about this part of the country...hate it. So I guess a thank you is in order.

Dude DC is full of transplants and dcum is full of posters outside of DC. And anonymous. Do whatever you want of course but women everywhere will interpret that comment as being kind of creepy. Take it or leave it.

[Anonymous]

"You have a lot of nice coats."

That's a weird one. It's got a Rainman vibe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re a creep for telling us such much about her breasts and figure. She is not there for your titillation, she is doing her job.

Agree with all the details you gave about her body were creepy for sure.

This. Why was that description needed? I can’t see how it has any bearing on your question. Like your comment MIGHT have been creepy if she had been prettier or curvier? But since she’s “hardly a stunner” the standard is different? Or her feelings about an inappropriate comment might be different? You have definitely outed yourself as a creep.

[Anonymous]

Taking a quick look at the topics started by good ol' Sammy, big f'ing creep. Zero question.

[Anonymous]

Sammy76 wrote:I am beyond devastated by the avalanche of visceral responses. Very few thoughtful responses. I am not a troll or whatever. I've had enough money for years that I haven't had a "real" job since the mid-90's but of course I've seen\heard of the metoo movement. Last "office" I worked at, I was doing 2 of the attorneys and 1 support staff. No I wasn't the boss of any of them. She doesn't work for me and it's just a place for me to go a few hours a couple times a week. Plus I've lived in the south until recently and most everybody seems more serious up here.

Based on so many comments that could've been relayed in a nicer way you've help push me over the edge and I'm headed back south. This northeast is so f'ing mean, so blunt, so acid...I hate everything about this part of the country...hate it. So I guess a thank you is in order.

Sammy's an eccentric millionaire who works so he can stay in touch with the regular people! And he's got a nice vest! #awesome

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Taking a quick look at the topics started by good ol' Sammy, big f'ing creep. Zero question.

How to do that?

[Anonymous]

Bye, Sammy. Please do go back to the South. We Yankees will not miss you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking a quick look at the topics started by good ol' Sammy, big f'ing creep. Zero question.

How to do that?

At the bottom of his comments, you can click on profile and then topics that he started.

[Anonymous]

Just pretend it never happened. Business as usual. Carry on. Don’t try to explain etc it will get worse. Just don’t do it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re a creep for telling us such much about her breasts and figure. She is not there for your titillation, she is doing her job.

That alone was inappropriate. He needs to do his job and stop bothering the ladies.

This.

[Anonymous]

Your inner narrative SCREAMS creep, OP.

I don't see how you are not oozing creep in a shared office with a woman. Fix your body language, inner monologue, stop using words like tit, act professional, don't comment on clothes or bodies. Just don't, you have issues.

[Anonymous]

“Beyond devastated?” And that’s why you are compelled to tell us you were “doing” your office mates? WTF, dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking a quick look at the topics started by good ol' Sammy, big f'ing creep. Zero question.

How to do that?

At the bottom of his comments, you can click on profile and then topics that he started.

Thanks, just read his posts. ohh maaannnnn...don’t even know what to say.