Am I a Creep and Didn't Know it?

[Anonymous]

You sound about 12 years old.

[Anonymous]

Sammy76 wrote:
Is there some double standard that a woman at work can compliment a man but a man complimenting a woman is a creep?

Yes and no. If you are phenomenally attractive (Brad Pitt, Matthew Mconahey (sp), Idris Elba), nothing you do is creepy. If you are average, or worse, then your actions are potentially creepy. Thus, why so many men only engage women in the workplace when necessary and only about work subjects.

[Anonymous]

I want you to notice
When I'm not around
You're so fckin' special
I wish I was special

[Anonymous]

Sammy76 wrote:Have an office I go to a few days a week to do paperwork\meetings and a woman shares the office with me who works for a relative's dental office up front. She's late 30's with a couple kids about 15 years younger than me. She works a couple nights a week in a "nice" restaurant\bar for a blue collar area. She's somewhat attractive. Very slender, tiny ass, flat chested, nice face...not a stunner by any means.

Seems very awkward that we sit there and rarely converse other than good morning\night. The other day her office manager about my age walked in and immediately said she liked my jacket\vest. This woman who I sit in the office with piped in saying yeah...she liked it too. Felt pretty good. So...a few days after that this woman who I share an office with wasn't wearing those baggy scrubs because she was working at the bar that night. She had on a cute yellow top that somehow accented her breasts. Complimented her that the regulars will be glad to see her smiling face and bright top on such a dreary winter day. She may have said thank you but her head was down and didn't say a word to me the rest of the day. WTF...does this make me a creep? My accountant is here once a week and she was saying how she enjoyed coming here and visiting with this woman while she works. Seriously???

Is there some double standard that a woman at work can compliment a man but a man complimenting a woman is a creep? Is it based on age? As long as a man\woman are around the same age it's okay? BTW, I know these questions sound kinda lame but I'm really trying to understand this harassment thing. I've had dozens of lovers and am not some geeky loser just genuinely curious what's up.

There's a pretty big difference between those two compliments. If a woman 15 years your senior walked in and said "your clients will be thrilled to see your face and your body in that shirt!" it would be kind of weird, no?

[Anonymous]

Yep, you came off as a creep. You did not compliment her choice of clothing or how she looked in her top.

You said, basically, that the hungry leering guys at the bar will sure be happy to get an eyeful of that tonight!

Not in those words but that's how she took it. You could only have made it worse if you were rubbing yourself as you said it. Seriously man, learn how to talk to women or just...don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re a creep for telling us such much about her breasts and figure. She is not there for your titillation, she is doing her job.

Agree with all the details you gave about her body were creepy for sure.

+1 Why the F did you need to mention to us that her shirt was showing off her chest? Ew. And your comment was a bit sexualized - definitely creepy. Her “bright top?” Weird. You could have said “the colors your wearing will lift your customers” moods on this draft day”...though it still would’ve been odd - but not as creepy.

[Anonymous]

^^ you’re

[Anonymous]

Sammy, I'm pretty sure you are a creep and you DID know it.

[Anonymous]

Some girls are just weird when it comes to anything remotely resembling flirting. At my gym, I said something completely not flirting to her, and since then, she avoids me. I honestly was not flirting but just making conversation.

Most girls just roll with it but some must so afraid that it is flirting that they don't know how to deal with it.

But, we are men and used to rejection when we actually are flirting and ask women out, so we just roll with it and go about our day. You should do the same.

[Anonymous]

Hey op, I'm a man and not a bitchy woman like most PPs

I think the compliment was too long and focused too specifically on her top, especially if it showed more skin than usual

I would not worry about it much more. But yeah, nothing to be gained by complimenting women, as you can see. Treat women like landmines at work and you will be better off.

[Anonymous]

Complimented her that the regulars will be glad to see her smiling face and bright top on such a dreary winter day.

Tres cheesy!!!

[Anonymous]

The other day her office manager about my age walked in and immediately said she liked my jacket\vest. This woman who I sit in the office with piped in saying yeah...she liked it too. Felt pretty good.

I wanna see that vest!! It sounds SAUCY!!!

[Anonymous]

OP, can you tell us more about your vest? What does it look like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you tell us more about your vest? What does it look like?

With any luck it accentuates his man boobs...

[Anonymous]

I feel like I have read something hauntingly similar to Sammy's creepy post here in the past. I am too tired to search. If I am not hallucinating it was creepy then and creepy now.

Please stop creeping.