Am I a Creep and Didn't Know it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you tell us more about your vest? What does it look like?

With any luck it accentuates his man boobs...

or his fat ass

[Anonymous]

You’re creepy. Your post history shows it. And you seem socially awkward. Women are more than eye candy. Even the ones who work with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I have read something hauntingly similar to Sammy's creepy post here in the past. I am too tired to search. If I am not hallucinating it was creepy then and creepy now.

Please stop creeping.

Then perhaps Sammy is a creepy troll.

[Anonymous]

I think you find it odd that this co-worker never talks, or talks very little

[Anonymous]

Man here. I am not going to say creep/no creep, but your comments and observations were inappropriate for an office setting.

I generally ignore peoples appearances. Man or Woman. I am not at work trying to get laid. I am trying to do my job -- the job I am paid quiet well to do and I enjoy.

The most I have ever said is, "you look nice today", to a woman I worked on an off with for 10 years, but had not seen her in several months. I also know this woman cares about her appearance (from working with her so long).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I am not going to say creep/no creep, but your comments and observations were inappropriate for an office setting.

I generally ignore peoples appearances. Man or Woman. I am not at work trying to get laid. I am trying to do my job -- the job I am paid quiet well to do and I enjoy.

The most I have ever said is, "you look nice today", to a woman I worked on an off with for 10 years, but had not seen her in several months. I also know this woman cares about her appearance (from working with her so long).

You are a creep too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I am not going to say creep/no creep, but your comments and observations were inappropriate for an office setting.

I generally ignore peoples appearances. Man or Woman. I am not at work trying to get laid. I am trying to do my job -- the job I am paid quiet well to do and I enjoy.

The most I have ever said is, "you look nice today", to a woman I worked on an off with for 10 years, but had not seen her in several months. I also know this woman cares about her appearance (from working with her so long).

You are a creep too.

Oh. Then I should have said, "Your boobs look extra perky today".

[Anonymous]

You don't sound like a creep. You have no idea what's going on in her life. I avoid talking to some men that I (platonic sense) think the world of for my own reasons, and it's in their best interest, and I am doing the kindest thing for them by avoiding them.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, though, what's the vest like? A description would be useful.

[Anonymous]

Sammy76 wrote:Have an office I go to a few days a week to do paperwork\meetings and a woman shares the office with me who works for a relative's dental office up front. She's late 30's with a couple kids about 15 years younger than me. She works a couple nights a week in a "nice" restaurant\bar for a blue collar area. She's somewhat attractive. Very slender, tiny ass, flat chested, nice face...not a stunner by any means.

Seems very awkward that we sit there and rarely converse other than good morning\night. The other day her office manager about my age walked in and immediately said she liked my jacket\vest. This woman who I sit in the office with piped in saying yeah...she liked it too. Felt pretty good. So...a few days after that this woman who I share an office with wasn't wearing those baggy scrubs because she was working at the bar that night. She had on a cute yellow top that somehow accented her breasts. Complimented her that the regulars will be glad to see her smiling face and bright top on such a dreary winter day. She may have said thank you but her head was down and didn't say a word to me the rest of the day. WTF...does this make me a creep? My accountant is here once a week and she was saying how she enjoyed coming here and visiting with this woman while she works. Seriously???

Is there some double standard that a woman at work can compliment a man but a man complimenting a woman is a creep? Is it based on age? As long as a man\woman are around the same age it's okay? BTW, I know these questions sound kinda lame but I'm really trying to understand this harassment thing. I've had dozens of lovers and am not some geeky loser just genuinely curious what's up.

Your description of this woman in the first paragraph is disgusting. How would you like to be described like that just based on her physical attributes alone to add up her estimated value in YOUR opinion? Let me take a stab at it--pudgy, receding hairline, beer belly, flat ass...am I close?

[Anonymous]

The most I have ever said is, "you look nice today", to a woman I worked on an off with for 10 years

"you look nice today" = DORK ALERT! CODE RED! DORK ALERT!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re a creep for telling us such much about her breasts and figure. She is not there for your titillation, she is doing her job.

Bonus points for putting "titillation" in a post calling a dude a creep for describing breasts, lol

[Anonymous]

“She had on a cute yellow top that somehow accented her breasts. Complimented her that the regulars will be glad to see her smiling”

Translation: I assessed her breasts, as I always do, and then slickly tried to cover it by complimenting her smile. Amazingly, she saw right through this!! She wouldn’t talk to me the rest of the day because I made her feel uncomfortable and objectified. She went home and told her significant other that she works with a creep.

[Anonymous]

She's picking up on a vibe you're putting out.

My current team at work is all male, except for me. I'm pretty close with everyone on the team...we have a group text where we joke about stuff, we occasionally hang out outside of work, etc. It's a good group.
Occasionally one of them will say something nice about my appearance in a clunky way ("Your hair is different. I like it." "You have a lot of nice coats."). It doesn't bother me in the least because I know they're being nice and they're not sizing me up for sex.

Women are pretty good as sussing out when someone is being genuinely nice and maybe a little awkward vs. seeing them purely as a sex object.

[Anonymous]

If the words of your comment was seen as inappropriate that would be a double standard.

However the delivery, the tone, the time and place a comment is expressed, and the relationship between the two people makes all the difference in how it is received.