Men : do you care about a woman’s job/career?

[Anonymous]

Men in general do not care about career/job of a woman they are just meeting. Unless it is a job that comes with cool perks(GM of an NFL team- great seats, board of directors of a major airlines- free tickets, works at Cinnabon- free food, works at a brewery/distillery- free liquor, etc). Men want someone they find attractive, someone who finds them attractive and is fun to be around. It’s a good thing and very liberating for women. Women look for different things.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my husband cared. He's a genuinely nice person, but overly obsessed with achievement (not money, but prestige). It worked out ok for us as a couple (I have a managerial position at a well-respected public interest organization), but has been hard on one of our kids, who has SN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men in general do not care about career/job of a woman they are just meeting. Unless it is a job that comes with cool perks(GM of an NFL team- great seats, board of directors of a major airlines- free tickets, works at Cinnabon- free food, works at a brewery/distillery- free liquor, etc). Men want someone they find attractive, someone who finds them attractive and is fun to be around. It’s a good thing and very liberating for women. Women look for different things.

"Works at Cinnabon"

[Anonymous]

I never cared about a womans job, unless it was something interesting. I make decent enough money that I never expected a woman or anyone else to help supplement my lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why inquiring “What do you bring to the table” is so bad? Isn’t that how we size up a partner? Looks, personality, etc

According to my dad men who ask this are poor or poverty minded, and are not secure in their ability to progress in and maintain a career. My sisters and I have all married well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my husband cared. He's a genuinely nice person, but overly obsessed with achievement (not money, but prestige). It worked out ok for us as a couple (I have a managerial position at a well-respected public interest organization), but has been hard on one of our kids, who has SN.

Why has it been hard on your SN kiddo? Genuine question- no snark.
I am a SN mom and a kindergarten teacher. I think my career is closest to the 'best thing' for my SN kiddo- and it still stinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why inquiring “What do you bring to the table” is so bad? Isn’t that how we size up a partner? Looks, personality, etc

According to my dad men who ask this are poor or poverty minded, and are not secure in their ability to progress in and maintain a career. My sisters and I have all married well.

Nope. A man who asks “What do you bring to the table” is making an intelligent decision about his life partner. Men are not required to accept a woman "no matter what" and it is stupid to try and shame them with this "you must be insecure" nonsense.

Would you seriously want your son to marry a girl who brought nothing to the table - no education, minimum wage job, fat and unattractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men in general do not care about career/job of a woman they are just meeting. Unless it is a job that comes with cool perks(GM of an NFL team- great seats, board of directors of a major airlines- free tickets, works at Cinnabon- free food, works at a brewery/distillery- free liquor, etc). Men want someone they find attractive, someone who finds them attractive and is fun to be around. It’s a good thing and very liberating for women. Women look for different things.

"Works at Cinnabon"

Lol I worked at Cinnabon in high school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why inquiring “What do you bring to the table” is so bad? Isn’t that how we size up a partner? Looks, personality, etc

According to my dad men who ask this are poor or poverty minded, and are not secure in their ability to progress in and maintain a career. My sisters and I have all married well.

Nope. A man who asks “What do you bring to the table” is making an intelligent decision about his life partner. Men are not required to accept a woman "no matter what" and it is stupid to try and shame them with this "you must be insecure" nonsense.

Would you seriously want your son to marry a girl who brought nothing to the table - no education, minimum wage job, fat and unattractive?

NP - you're moving the goal posts here. The OP asked about job/career. You're adding fat, unattractive and uneducated. Any of these three things are deal breakers, yes.

We don't care about you job/career.

[Anonymous]

I don't care about a specific job or career. It has more to do with intelligence and ambition. A smart woman who has goals is a real plus. That and a nice body!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about a womans job, unless it was something interesting. I make decent enough money that I never expected a woman or anyone else to help supplement my lifestyle.

What if she had a high paying intense job and expected you to follow her when she relocated and take a back seat at your job so that you could be available when she was available, and do the work of running the house and raising children?

My experience is that men say that they don’t care what you do for a living AS LONG as it doesn’t get in the way of anything they want to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about a womans job, unless it was something interesting. I make decent enough money that I never expected a woman or anyone else to help supplement my lifestyle.

What if she had a high paying intense job and expected you to follow her when she relocated and take a back seat at your job so that you could be available when she was available, and do the work of running the house and raising children?

My experience is that men say that they don’t care what you do for a living AS LONG as it doesn’t get in the way of anything they want to do.

I sadly kind agree with this -- if a woman has an amazing/cool/high powered/high earning career, the average man will be impressed by it and brag about it right up until the point where he's expected to put himself second or pull more weight in the partnership. Then it's whining and posting on DCUM about how all that matters is she stays thin and keeps the blowjobs coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about a womans job, unless it was something interesting. I make decent enough money that I never expected a woman or anyone else to help supplement my lifestyle.

What if she had a high paying intense job and expected you to follow her when she relocated and take a back seat at your job so that you could be available when she was available, and do the work of running the house and raising children?

My experience is that men say that they don’t care what you do for a living AS LONG as it doesn’t get in the way of anything they want to do.

I sadly kind agree with this -- if a woman has an amazing/cool/high powered/high earning career, the average man will be impressed by it and brag about it right up until the point where he's expected to put himself second or pull more weight in the partnership. Then it's whining and posting on DCUM about how all that matters is she stays thin and keeps the blowjobs coming.

Men keep posting on here every time the topic comes up: relationship stuff (including bjs) matters, resume stuff matters little. We keep telling that to anyone who asks, yet you claim to be surprised?

[Anonymous]

Some care, some don't. Why is this so hard?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about a womans job, unless it was something interesting. I make decent enough money that I never expected a woman or anyone else to help supplement my lifestyle.

What if she had a high paying intense job and expected you to follow her when she relocated and take a back seat at your job so that you could be available when she was available, and do the work of running the house and raising children?

My experience is that men say that they don’t care what you do for a living AS LONG as it doesn’t get in the way of anything they want to do.

I sadly kind agree with this -- if a woman has an amazing/cool/high powered/high earning career, the average man will be impressed by it and brag about it right up until the point where he's expected to put himself second or pull more weight in the partnership. Then it's whining and posting on DCUM about how all that matters is she stays thin and keeps the blowjobs coming.

Men keep posting on here every time the topic comes up: relationship stuff (including bjs) matters, resume stuff matters little. We keep telling that to anyone who asks, yet you claim to be surprised?

Well, not if you read what's actually being said. You say that's what men post but what they actually post is either that, or "why can't we demand she make 100k and not ever SAH and follow me for my career and put it first, women are gold diggers! This is what equality looks like!!!"

Men try to have it both ways in this discussion, every time. And in relationships they want to have it both ways too -- benefit from her income but demand she pull all the weight in the relationship.