Men : do you care about a woman’s job/career?

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

PP here she wanted to prioritize to being a mom. I supported that decision. Kid benefits, she benefits from having less stress, no resentment from her toward me due to stress. She proved to her self that she could be successful in a corporate environment at a young age, without sleeping her way to
the top. She wanted to be a SAHM, I didn’t tell her she needed to be one. If couple can make it work, I don’t understand what is wrong with being a SAHM that draws so much negativity here.

How is she a weaker woman because that is what she chose to do?

[Anonymous]

The real question is, do you search for an intellectual equal, or more, in a woman.

Intelligent enough, educated enough, not a high bar in this area. Relationships aren’t about writing books on nuclear physics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it something you consider when dating?

Not going to read through the responses. No way is it peoductive.

In short no. I have ambition, could not marry a woman without ambition. Someone without ambition is not attractive to me.

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I don't care at all. Most of my big law partners are married to one-time professional women who are SAHMs, as is my wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Jeff Bezos is the wealthiest man in the world and his wife is a „novelist“. With 4 children. Men who make money don’t care what their wives do.

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Perfect example. A billionaire, workaholic, ivy grad woman would never be OK with a man like that.

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Anonymous wrote:Jeff Bezos is the wealthiest man in the world and his wife is a „novelist“. With 4 children. Men who make money don’t care what their wives do.

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Perfect example. A billionaire, workaholic, ivy grad woman would never be OK with a man like that.

She is an Ivy grad as well, so comparable IQs definitely helps.

[Anonymous]

I'm the family type. I want someone who is usually home for dinner and free on weekends. As long as she makes enough to not become a dependent if we get married, I'm fine.

[Anonymous]

I was a preschool teacher before becoming a SAHM. I dated engineers, lawyers and doctors before I married my husband. My husband is a dermatologist. He is very humble and he prefers that I stay at home. We live below our means and we live in a low COL city. I had a work from home job recently but my 1 year old couldn't adjust to daycare or a nanny so I quit. Most women go back to work and most men do not care about a women's career. If they have a high income a lot of times they can help pay for college.

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Anonymous wrote:Jeff Bezos is the wealthiest man in the world and his wife is a „novelist“. With 4 children. Men who make money don’t care what their wives do.

+1

Perfect example. A billionaire, workaholic, ivy grad woman would never be OK with a man like that.

She is an Ivy grad as well, so comparable IQs definitely helps.

I read that they met at work; she worked at the same hedge fund.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

PP here she wanted to prioritize to being a mom. I supported that decision. Kid benefits, she benefits from having less stress, no resentment from her toward me due to stress. She proved to her self that she could be successful in a corporate environment at a young age, without sleeping her way to
the top. She wanted to be a SAHM, I didn’t tell her she needed to be one. If couple can make it work, I don’t understand what is wrong with being a SAHM that draws so much negativity here.

How is she a weaker woman because that is what she chose to do?

No. I don’t blame her at all or think she is weak. I blame you. Over and over again I see men not take any responsibility for their wives making the “choice” to SAH. When she said that she wanted to quit, did you offer to cut back significantly at work or work part time, move near her parents so she would have help, look for an amazing housekeeper and nanny and help manage them, find a job where you would be home by 5pm every day, or did you just play lip service to this “choice” to SAH?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

PP here she wanted to prioritize to being a mom. I supported that decision. Kid benefits, she benefits from having less stress, no resentment from her toward me due to stress. She proved to her self that she could be successful in a corporate environment at a young age, without sleeping her way to
the top. She wanted to be a SAHM, I didn’t tell her she needed to be one. If couple can make it work, I don’t understand what is wrong with being a SAHM that draws so much negativity here.

How is she a weaker woman because that is what she chose to do?

No. I don’t blame her at all or think she is weak. I blame you. Over and over again I see men not take any responsibility for their wives making the “choice” to SAH. When she said that she wanted to quit, did you offer to cut back significantly at work or work part time, move near her parents so she would have help, look for an amazing housekeeper and nanny and help manage them, find a job where you would be home by 5pm every day, or did you just play lip service to this “choice” to SAH?

+ 1,000,000. Did you offer to be the one to miss work when the kids are too sick to go to daycare/school? And take off for breaks?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

PP here she wanted to prioritize to being a mom. I supported that decision. Kid benefits, she benefits from having less stress, no resentment from her toward me due to stress. She proved to her self that she could be successful in a corporate environment at a young age, without sleeping her way to
the top. She wanted to be a SAHM, I didn’t tell her she needed to be one. If couple can make it work, I don’t understand what is wrong with being a SAHM that draws so much negativity here.

How is she a weaker woman because that is what she chose to do?

No. I don’t blame her at all or think she is weak. I blame you. Over and over again I see men not take any responsibility for their wives making the “choice” to SAH. When she said that she wanted to quit, did you offer to cut back significantly at work or work part time, move near her parents so she would have help, look for an amazing housekeeper and nanny and help manage them, find a job where you would be home by 5pm every day, or did you just play lip service to this “choice” to SAH?

+ 1,000,000. Did you offer to be the one to miss work when the kids are too sick to go to daycare/school? And take off for breaks?

-1000000. Did she use her words, ask for something, or did she rely on telepathy? And “work part time”? Yeah right, I’ll live off the inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

PP here she wanted to prioritize to being a mom. I supported that decision. Kid benefits, she benefits from having less stress, no resentment from her toward me due to stress. She proved to her self that she could be successful in a corporate environment at a young age, without sleeping her way to
the top. She wanted to be a SAHM, I didn’t tell her she needed to be one. If couple can make it work, I don’t understand what is wrong with being a SAHM that draws so much negativity here.

How is she a weaker woman because that is what she chose to do?

No. I don’t blame her at all or think she is weak. I blame you. Over and over again I see men not take any responsibility for their wives making the “choice” to SAH. When she said that she wanted to quit, did you offer to cut back significantly at work or work part time, move near her parents so she would have help, look for an amazing housekeeper and nanny and help manage them, find a job where you would be home by 5pm every day, or did you just play lip service to this “choice” to SAH?

+ 1,000,000. Did you offer to be the one to miss work when the kids are too sick to go to daycare/school? And take off for breaks?

-1000000. Did she use her words, ask for something, or did she rely on telepathy? And “work part time”? Yeah right, I’ll live off the inheritance.

I am sure that she told him she was stressed between work and home life before she quit. He didn’t need to use telepathy. And they would live off the salaries from two successful careers, albeit one person is part time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

PP here she wanted to prioritize to being a mom. I supported that decision. Kid benefits, she benefits from having less stress, no resentment from her toward me due to stress. She proved to her self that she could be successful in a corporate environment at a young age, without sleeping her way to
the top. She wanted to be a SAHM, I didn’t tell her she needed to be one. If couple can make it work, I don’t understand what is wrong with being a SAHM that draws so much negativity here.

How is she a weaker woman because that is what she chose to do?

No. I don’t blame her at all or think she is weak. I blame you. Over and over again I see men not take any responsibility for their wives making the “choice” to SAH. When she said that she wanted to quit, did you offer to cut back significantly at work or work part time, move near her parents so she would have help, look for an amazing housekeeper and nanny and help manage them, find a job where you would be home by 5pm every day, or did you just play lip service to this “choice” to SAH?

+ 1,000,000. Did you offer to be the one to miss work when the kids are too sick to go to daycare/school? And take off for breaks?

-1000000. Did she use her words, ask for something, or did she rely on telepathy? And “work part time”? Yeah right, I’ll live off the inheritance.

I am sure that she told him she was stressed between work and home life before she quit. He didn’t need to use telepathy. And they would live off the salaries from two successful careers, albeit one person is part time.

Oh, well, so long as you’re sure about what the guy didn’t actually write down for us.

[Anonymous]

I was much younger than DH. Had a masters like he did (I now have a PhD as well), but I had no real job and I was starting a PhD program. I was (hopefully still am) hot and fun. He probably would not have dated a college drop out, but he didn’t care about my career ambitions. Also, I have family money so never depended on a man or a career (I make very little 8 years later). W had 3 kids and he does not care whether I make little or a lot. He just doesn’t want me to do nothing and be bored at home