Men : do you care about a woman’s job/career?

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Anonymous wrote:Some men really care. Do not marry one of those. My husband said when we were dating that he required his future wife to make at least $100,000 a year. I almost broke up with him. I wish I did.

Why? Women require women to earn a certain salary. You can’t ask for him to make a ton if you don’t. Stop being sexiest.

I made a ton. I was not being sexist. But it is a bad attitude if you expect a woman to have your children and expect them to make that much money. Being a woman and a professional and having children is usually way harder than being a man and being a professional and having children. And for a man to just expect that means he’s looking for a wallet and not a wife. It is not a good dynamic for a marriage—trust me.

Many involved fathers who are expected to earn the big bucks and be a father to his kids. Women look for a wallet - why can’t men?

+1. It was not a good dynamic for you because you expected your husband to support you. If you want to be equal, that means making equal pay.

I only expected to be supported for a couple of years—if there were kids. Due to his “requirement” I only agreed to the marriage because he said fine not having kids. He pulled a bait and switch and pressured me for a kid. One time unprotected—instant kid. He Also demanded that I follow his career to another state where I could not have the same amount of earning power permanently and my career got completely screwed. Can’t expect a woman to make that kind of money moving follow your career and have kids and not be royally resentful. If you expect me to continue earning that kind of money which I did for most of the marriage until my career got canceled because I was not in the right location then you shouldn’t of expected me to move and follow him and have his kid. I only got six weeks of maternity leave because my job is too demanding so screw all of you I think it’s absolutely OK to man to have such a ridiculous requirement and then not expect to compromise at all. Saying you won’t marry a woman who make less than $100,000 a year is absolute insanity because most women do not make that kind of money.

I agree that your DH sounds like an a$$hole but why did you put up with it?

If he was making enough money I would have quit my job after the 6 weeks maternity leave because that is downright barbaric. You have choices. You can make demands of the relationship just like your DH made demands. I think the bigger issue is that you need to stand up for yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Some men really care. Do not marry one of those. My husband said when we were dating that he required his future wife to make at least $100,000 a year. I almost broke up with him. I wish I did.

Why? Women require women to earn a certain salary. You can’t ask for him to make a ton if you don’t. Stop being sexiest.

I made a ton. I was not being sexist. But it is a bad attitude if you expect a woman to have your children and expect them to make that much money. Being a woman and a professional and having children is usually way harder than being a man and being a professional and having children. And for a man to just expect that means he’s looking for a wallet and not a wife. It is not a good dynamic for a marriage—trust me.

Don’t defend yourself to the MRA trolls

Oh look, the "MRA troll" troll inevitably showed up.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

And what does he do?

Makes even more than me.

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My dad told me to avoid men who ask “what do you bring to the table “ type questions. I did. His advice served me well

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Anonymous wrote:This question gets framed here incorrectly quite a bit.

Yes, we’d all like gobs of money that grew on trees.

The real question is, do you search for an intellectual equal, or more, in a woman. All things equal everywhere else, she’s a perfect ten and an heiress, do men prefer smart women.

Smart women want to know.

These threads are useless because they are filled with women responding on behalf of men, and giving answers they would like their husband to give.

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I just asked my DH of 29 years. He said “Hell no. Just feed me and fu@k me.” Men really are pretty simple.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! Priyanka Chopra was correct that men did not respect her hard work to get where she is. I am glad she married an enlightened man in Nick Jonas, who said that he admire how hard she has worked for her career and did not want her to curb her ambitions. RESPECT!!!

She's an actress and beauty queen. She got where she is primarily by LOOKING HOT. LMAO at the idea we should respect her "career accomplishments" .

“ beauty queen”? She’s is far from it. She’s average looking. Hot women work hard too.

Sorry, couldn't let this lie... you realize she was Ms Universirse, right? She couldn't be more of a beauty queen if she tried, textbook even! Your personal opinions of her attractiveness are irrelevant to the title.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! Priyanka Chopra was correct that men did not respect her hard work to get where she is. I am glad she married an enlightened man in Nick Jonas, who said that he admire how hard she has worked for her career and did not want her to curb her ambitions. RESPECT!!!

She's an actress and beauty queen. She got where she is primarily by LOOKING HOT. LMAO at the idea we should respect her "career accomplishments" .

“ beauty queen”? She’s is far from it. She’s average looking. Hot women work hard too.

Sorry, couldn't let this lie... you realize she was Ms Universirse, right? She couldn't be more of a beauty queen if she tried, textbook even! Your personal opinions of her attractiveness are irrelevant to the title.

NP here.OMG! Go away! Your obsession with PC and the royals is pathetic. We are talking about real life relationships not celebrities paying the PR game. Get a life!

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Anonymous wrote:Based on the number of men who bought us drinks and then walked away before they arrived, yes. Some men do not want to date female lawyers.

Or doctors. Back in my dating days, I had men leave mid-sentence after I told them I was in medical school.
Ended up marrying another medical student.

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Anonymous wrote:This question gets framed here incorrectly quite a bit.

Yes, we’d all like gobs of money that grew on trees.

The real question is, do you search for an intellectual equal, or more, in a woman. All things equal everywhere else, she’s a perfect ten and an heiress, do men prefer smart women.

Smart women want to know.

These threads are useless because they are filled with women responding on behalf of men, and giving answers they would like their husband to give.

They’re useless because they’re started by red pill trolls who want women to feel bad. They go off the rails because DCUM is mostly women.

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Anonymous wrote:Some men really care. Do not marry one of those. My husband said when we were dating that he required his future wife to make at least $100,000 a year. I almost broke up with him. I wish I did.

Yep. I am ambitious and have a very strong work ethic but chose a career path that won’t make me rich. I dated a guy while I was starting out in my field who suggested I get another job in an industry I loathe bc earning potential was high. Luckily I dodged that bullet. He married an incredibly high earned and is now divorced.

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I was young, hot and nurturing when I got married. I was also a very hard worker but was upfront about wanting to be a stay at home mom once we had kids. DH was all for it and a decade later we have a really great life.

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Female here. I never had a high earning or prestigious job. Some men I dated cared, some didn’t. Different men want different things.

Ended up marrying a guy with a very demanding career and it’s worked out well. He can focus on his career without worrying about childcare, housework, etc. I know his parents don’t like it, but oh well.

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Anonymous wrote:This question gets framed here incorrectly quite a bit.

Yes, we’d all like gobs of money that grew on trees.

The real question is, do you search for an intellectual equal, or more, in a woman. All things equal everywhere else, she’s a perfect ten and an heiress, do men prefer smart women.

Smart women want to know.

These threads are useless because they are filled with women responding on behalf of men, and giving answers they would like their husband to give.

They’re useless because they’re started by red pill trolls who want women to feel bad. They go off the rails because DCUM is mostly women.

My guess is these threads are all started by the same woman, not by men.

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Not sure why inquiring “What do you bring to the table” is so bad? Isn’t that how we size up a partner? Looks, personality, etc