Do you tell guys to date women they’re not attracted to?

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Anonymous wrote:Women have waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more dealbreakers than men. This is just a matter of fact.

Be less picky, single women. Single men, on average, already are less picky.

And yet they are still single.

and so are those women, of course only after they married the "hot" guy who cheated on them and left them for an 'upgrade'. Just look at the countless threads with the never-ending lists of criteria have for a male partner vs. the simple (and short) list men have for a female lartner.

Wow! You have to get off those incel boards. They are really messing with your head, bro.

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I don’t tell anyone to date someone they are not attracted to.

I agree with OP that women are told to do this more often than men.

[Anonymous]

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If having a place to live is an unrealistic expectation...

Stop being pedantic.

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I agree with OP that women are told to do this more often than men.

That's because YOU'RE the ones that sit around and wait for men to make all the action happen for you.

[Anonymous]

Agree OP. I could never date a guy I wasn't physically attracted to at first sight.

[Anonymous]

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If having a place to live is an unrealistic expectation...

Stop being pedantic.

Job and apt we’re on the list someone posted above.

Actually, now that I reread it, so is dick. That’s so typical of women! How ridiculous to require the man to have a dick. Lower the bar a little, ladies and let the homeless, dickless men of America sweep you off your feet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men are attracted to a very high percentage of reasonably healthy (i.e. not obese), age approprriate women. They are actually shockingly unpicky. You never hear single men complain about being single due to lack of appealing options. Single men are either single because they enjoy playing the field or because they can’t find any women AT ALL who will date them.

Not everything is an organized oppression.

The only thing you got right in this nonsense was the bolded part. A man's checklist for a mate is two things: be hot enough, be willing.

Women in contrast have 10 boxes on the checklist a man has to hit: wealth, height, job, dick, apartment/house, car, personality, family. et al.

And as they get older and increase their earning potential, women, get this---GET EVEN PICKIER. They basically buy a home, travel around the world, and enjoy life in their mid-30s instead of having unsatisfying sex with manchildren in hopes of finding a mate.

Women are crazy.

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

I've definitely encouraged male friends to expand their horizons or said why not go out with her, you never know how it might turn out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men are attracted to a very high percentage of reasonably healthy (i.e. not obese), age approprriate women. They are actually shockingly unpicky. You never hear single men complain about being single due to lack of appealing options. Single men are either single because they enjoy playing the field or because they can’t find any women AT ALL who will date them.

Not everything is an organized oppression.

The only thing you got right in this nonsense was the bolded part. A man's checklist for a mate is two things: be hot enough, be willing.

Women in contrast have 10 boxes on the checklist a man has to hit: wealth, height, job, dick, apartment/house, car, personality, family. et al.

And as they get old and lose their physical value to men, women, get this---GET EVEN PICKIER. They basically give up on dating by their mid 30s instead of putting out more in hopes of finding a mate.

Women are crazy.

From a woman’s perspective:

In my 20s there was a tremendous amount of pressure to have a bf/fiancé/somehow be working towards marriage, so standards were lower. My friends and I all dated some real losers.

Once I hit 30 I was done dealing with men’s B.S. If I was going to compromise my life for someone, they had to be amazing.

Now I’m old enough that I don’t feel like my value is tied up in my marital status. If DH and I divorce, I will probably remain single. If people want to judge me, that’s okay with me. The happiest women I know are those in their 50s/60s/70s who are unmarried. They have full, rich, exciting lives, while most of the married women I know of that age are extremely stressed out over their husbands. Studies have even found unmarried women are much happier than married women.

So, that’s why I’ve become pickier as I’ve gotten older. I don’t feel desperate like I did in my 20s.

[Anonymous]

If DH and I divorce, I will probably remain single. If people want to judge me, that’s okay with me.

No one but your mom cares. You’re not taking a bold stance. Be single.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men are attracted to a very high percentage of reasonably healthy (i.e. not obese), age approprriate women. They are actually shockingly unpicky. You never hear single men complain about being single due to lack of appealing options. Single men are either single because they enjoy playing the field or because they can’t find any women AT ALL who will date them.

Not everything is an organized oppression.

The only thing you got right in this nonsense was the bolded part. A man's checklist for a mate is two things: be hot enough, be willing.

Women in contrast have 10 boxes on the checklist a man has to hit: wealth, height, job, dick, apartment/house, car, personality, family. et al.

And as they get old and lose their physical value to men, women, get this---GET EVEN PICKIER. They basically give up on dating by their mid 30s instead of putting out more in hopes of finding a mate.

Women are crazy.

From a woman’s perspective:

In my 20s there was a tremendous amount of pressure to have a bf/fiancé/somehow be working towards marriage, so standards were lower. My friends and I all dated some real losers.

Once I hit 30 I was done dealing with men’s B.S. If I was going to compromise my life for someone, they had to be amazing.

Now I’m old enough that I don’t feel like my value is tied up in my marital status. If DH and I divorce, I will probably remain single. If people want to judge me, that’s okay with me. The happiest women I know are those in their 50s/60s/70s who are unmarried. They have full, rich, exciting lives, while most of the married women I know of that age are extremely stressed out over their husbands. Studies have even found unmarried women are much happier than married women.

So, that’s why I’ve become pickier as I’ve gotten older. I don’t feel desperate like I did in my 20s.

I'm a man in my 40s and could say the exact same thing as you, and am glad I've gotten to such a place. I am divorced and most of my energy is tied up in children and my business (and just daily life of keep my house in order), but I do date some and most of the women I meet are exactly like described. I read online about all the sad and lonely people out there desperate for anyone, but that is far from my daily reality.

[Anonymous]

In my 20s there was a tremendous amount of pressure to have a bf/fiancé/somehow be working towards marriage, so standards were lower. My friends and I all dated some real losers.

Once I hit 30 I was done dealing with men’s B.S. If I was going to compromise my life for someone, they had to be amazing.

The problem with that strategy is that you are demanding that men be more amazing at the same time as YOU have become less amazing. You expect increasingly attractive (in terms of status and income) men to cater to the whims of an increasingly less attractive (physically) woman. It should be obvious that the math doesn't work there.

[Anonymous]

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In my 20s there was a tremendous amount of pressure to have a bf/fiancé/somehow be working towards marriage, so standards were lower. My friends and I all dated some real losers.

Once I hit 30 I was done dealing with men’s B.S. If I was going to compromise my life for someone, they had to be amazing.

The problem with that strategy is that you are demanding that men be more amazing at the same time as YOU have become less amazing. You expect increasingly attractive (in terms of status and income) men to cater to the whims of an increasingly less attractive (physically) woman. It should be obvious that the math doesn't work there.

I'm similar and it's a problem only for less than amazing people who want to date me. Why do you care if I find someone or not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And no, all men are NOT hard wired to only be attracted to women in their 20s.

Yes, they are. What do you even know about it, woman? Nothing. Stop womansplaining.

LOL, there are plenty of us women in our 30s and 40s who date, have sex with, and even marry men our own ages! Do they think younger women are attractive? Sure, some of them. But are they able to find someone their own age who also does it for them? Yes, lots. Even you don't need someone to explain that to you.

Thanks Captain Obvious. Show me where I said every man is necessarily going to get what he's hardwired to be attracted to?

I guarantee you every single one of those guys would trade in his 30 or 40-something post-wall hag for a 22yo hottie if he had the option to do so. In a heartbeat!

Wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you tell them they should give the woman with frizzy hair, glasses, plainly dressed, and small chested a chance because she’s smitten with him and will make a kinder, and more loving mate than the fashionista who thinks she’s gods gift?

If you don’t why do you think it’s okay to tell women to date men they are not attracted to.?

Are you so steeped in misogyny that you do not believe women care about physical attraction?

Do you believe men are entitled to attention and dated just because?

Sick of this double standard.

- happily married to someone I’m attracted to.

Hey, that's me. And at least a few people have thought I was attractive enough to date and f^ck and ultimately marry. And hell yes, they were attracted to me. ... Stop denigrating us frizzy-haired glasses-wearing small chested women. I can't help what nature gave me. Or didn't give me.

Seriously OP, what a POS you are to write that.