Do you tell guys to date women they’re not attracted to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this. He’s not physically attractive, makes little money and has no savings, and literally lives in his mom’s basement. Yet he only wants beautiful, thin, blonde women and complains that they aren’t interested because he’s too “nice”.

Gee it seems like every woman on DCUM knows some pathetic ugly old incel who pines for a supermodel. Apparently there is no other kind of single man in the DC area. Sad!

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Anonymous wrote:Most men would have sex with most women. But 80% of women are only attracted to 10% of men. So you can see why the advice to expand your dating pool is necessary for women, but not for men.

Is this true? Most of my past bf's and and my husband are pickier than I am about women (they seem more critical of their looks) and all their past gf's were very hot. I don't believe they would sleep with most women.

The men I know are very picky. I know many men in their 30s who complain about being single, but are extremely critical of looks and won't settle for anything less than an 8, even though many of them are a 5 at best.

Man, I've known one of these since law school. He is 48 years old and STILL wants to date 25 year olds. He has a great personality and is now a judge, but has not aged well. I tell him all the time that his beauty and age standards are all wrong.

If he came on this board complaining about his situation and seeking advice, he would get his ass handed to him, be told explicitly what he can expect given his old man looks. He would not be told that he's great already and just needs to present himself well and perhaps get a haircut.

I do hand his ass to him, every time he complains about how he'll be alone forever. He refuses to even look at women in their 30s, even though he is pudgy and balding. And no, all men are NOT hard wired to only be attracted to women in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you tell them they should give the woman with frizzy hair, glasses, plainly dressed, and small chested a chance because she’s smitten with him and will make a kinder, and more loving mate than the fashionista who thinks she’s gods gift?

If you don’t why do you think it’s okay to tell women to date men they are not attracted to.?

Are you so steeped in misogyny that you do not believe women care about physical attraction?

Do you believe men are entitled to attention and dated just because?

Sick of this double standard.

- happily married to someone I’m attracted to.

What are you blathering about? Who says this? I can't think of anyone who thinks women don't care about physical attraction. Why do you even care about dating "double standards" if you're married?

As a single woman, I get this ALL the time. It's like you are damned to the dungeons of h*ll if you haven't selected a mate by 25.

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Anonymous wrote:Most men would have sex with most women. But 80% of women are only attracted to 10% of men. So you can see why the advice to expand your dating pool is necessary for women, but not for men.

Is this true? Most of my past bf's and and my husband are pickier than I am about women (they seem more critical of their looks) and all their past gf's were very hot. I don't believe they would sleep with most women.

The men I know are very picky. I know many men in their 30s who complain about being single, but are extremely critical of looks and won't settle for anything less than an 8, even though many of them are a 5 at best.

Man, I've known one of these since law school. He is 48 years old and STILL wants to date 25 year olds. He has a great personality and is now a judge, but has not aged well. I tell him all the time that his beauty and age standards are all wrong.

If he came on this board complaining about his situation and seeking advice, he would get his ass handed to him, be told explicitly what he can expect given his old man looks. He would not be told that he's great already and just needs to present himself well and perhaps get a haircut.

I do hand his ass to him, every time he complains about how he'll be alone forever. He refuses to even look at women in their 30s, even though he is pudgy and balding. And no, all men are NOT hard wired to only be attracted to women in their 20s.

Sounds like OP's premise is flawed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you tell them they should give the woman with frizzy hair, glasses, plainly dressed, and small chested a chance because she’s smitten with him and will make a kinder, and more loving mate than the fashionista who thinks she’s gods gift?

If you don’t why do you think it’s okay to tell women to date men they are not attracted to.?

Are you so steeped in misogyny that you do not believe women care about physical attraction?

Do you believe men are entitled to attention and dated just because?

Sick of this double standard.

- happily married to someone I’m attracted to.

Someone has watched too many teen rom-coms.

THat's what I was thinking. She's going to whip off the glasses and straighten her hair and BOOM! she's a 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And no, all men are NOT hard wired to only be attracted to women in their 20s.

Yes, they are. What do you even know about it, woman? Nothing. Stop womansplaining.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this. He’s not physically attractive, makes little money and has no savings, and literally lives in his mom’s basement. Yet he only wants beautiful, thin, blonde women and complains that they aren’t interested because he’s too “nice”.

Gee it seems like every woman on DCUM knows some pathetic ugly old incel who pines for a supermodel. Apparently there is no other kind of single man in the DC area. Sad!

To be fair, the men who are a good catch and don't prioritize looks generally aren't single.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And no, all men are NOT hard wired to only be attracted to women in their 20s.

Yes, they are. What do you even know about it, woman? Nothing. Stop womansplaining.

LOL, there are plenty of us women in our 30s and 40s who date, have sex with, and even marry men our own ages! Do they think younger women are attractive? Sure, some of them. But are they able to find someone their own age who also does it for them? Yes, lots. Even you don't need someone to explain that to you.

[Anonymous]

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Do you tell them they should give the woman with frizzy hair, glasses, plainly dressed, and small chested a chance because she’s smitten with him and will make a kinder, and more loving mate than the fashionista who thinks she’s gods gift?

Unlike women, men aren't constantly besides themselves in panic and confusion and running to friends for advice over every uncertainty and frustration.

"Why can't I find someone?"
"Do you think I'm handsome?"
"I like this girl, what should I do?"
"We met for coffee do you think she likes me?"
"It's been two days should I call her?"
"She said _____ , is that a red flag?"

So no, I don't need to tell men anything because men are mature and independent enough to handle their own romantic affairs.

Haha no!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are attracted to a very high percentage of reasonably healthy (i.e. not obese), age approprriate women. They are actually shockingly unpicky. You never hear single men complain about being single due to lack of appealing options. Single men are either single because they enjoy playing the field or because they can’t find any women AT ALL who will date them.

Not everything is an organized oppression.

The only thing you got right in this nonsense was the bolded part. A man's checklist for a mate is two things: be hot enough, be willing.

Women in contrast have 10 boxes on the checklist a man has to hit: wealth, height, job, dick, apartment/house, car, personality, family. et al.

And as they get old and lose their physical value to men, women, get this---GET EVEN PICKIER. They basically give up on dating by their mid 30s instead of putting out more in hopes of finding a mate.

Women are crazy.

[Anonymous]

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To be fair, the men who are a good catch and don't prioritize looks generally aren't single.

You must not be very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this. He’s not physically attractive, makes little money and has no savings, and literally lives in his mom’s basement. Yet he only wants beautiful, thin, blonde women and complains that they aren’t interested because he’s too “nice”.

Gee it seems like every woman on DCUM knows some pathetic ugly old incel who pines for a supermodel. Apparently there is no other kind of single man in the DC area. Sad!

There are many other types of single men in DC and nearly all of them are dating —unlike the incel whiners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you tell them they should give the woman with frizzy hair, glasses, plainly dressed, and small chested a chance because she’s smitten with him and will make a kinder, and more loving mate than the fashionista who thinks she’s gods gift?

Unlike women, men aren't constantly besides themselves in panic and confusion and running to friends for advice over every uncertainty and frustration.

"Why can't I find someone?"
"Do you think I'm handsome?"
"I like this girl, what should I do?"
"We met for coffee do you think she likes me?"
"It's been two days should I call her?"
"She said _____ , is that a red flag?"

So no, I don't need to tell men anything because men are mature and independent enough to handle their own romantic affairs.

This is hilarious. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And no, all men are NOT hard wired to only be attracted to women in their 20s.

Yes, they are. What do you even know about it, woman? Nothing. Stop womansplaining.

LOL, there are plenty of us women in our 30s and 40s who date, have sex with, and even marry men our own ages! Do they think younger women are attractive? Sure, some of them. But are they able to find someone their own age who also does it for them? Yes, lots. Even you don't need someone to explain that to you.

Thanks Captain Obvious. Show me where I said every man is necessarily going to get what he's hardwired to be attracted to?

I guarantee you every single one of those guys would trade in his 30 or 40-something post-wall hag for a 22yo hottie if he had the option to do so. In a heartbeat!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men are attracted to a very high percentage of reasonably healthy (i.e. not obese), age approprriate women. They are actually shockingly unpicky. You never hear single men complain about being single due to lack of appealing options. Single men are either single because they enjoy playing the field or because they can’t find any women AT ALL who will date them.

Not everything is an organized oppression.

The only thing you got right in this nonsense was the bolded part. A man's checklist for a mate is two things: be hot enough, be willing.

Women in contrast have 10 boxes on the checklist a man has to hit: wealth, height, job, dick, apartment/house, car, personality, family. et al.

And as they get old and lose their physical value to men, women, get this---GET EVEN PICKIER. They basically give up on dating by their mid 30s instead of putting out more in hopes of finding a mate.

Women are crazy.

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