Oh please. I have a great spouse and wonderful friends. I made a mistake. I have apologized to my ex-spouse. F off. |
He’s probably cheating on you. |
No, he is not. But keep dreaming you hateful barnacle. |
I like that one! Clever! Anyway, he could definitely be cheating and it would be sweet karma if he were. I hope you didn’t drag kids through your selfish garbage heap. |
Goodbye dirt under my manicured nails. |
Did you marry your AP? |
This is actually a very typical pattern when the woman cheats. Even if the husband wants to save the marriage, whether for the kids or financial reasons or even because he genuinely wants to rebuild a solid marriage, a man usually never gets over deep down thinking of the cheating wife as a whore. Therefore, he can no longer respect her or cherish her, and the wife can usually feel this which causes the eventual breakdown of the marriage. A man rarely forgives an affair, and women are generally more checked out of a marriage to begin with when they begin the affair, so there was already a tendency for the marriage to be irreparable. |
What is your source? I mean it sounds right but are you referencing a marriage book or a study or something? |
Who the hell genuinely forgives an affair? Who fully trusts their spouse again? |
No one |
Here’s the thing about cheaters: one of the many underlying personality flaws that drive them to deal with problems by cheating is an unwillingness to suffer the consequences of their actions, and an interest in living in a fantasy world rather than reality. Your response is a demonstration of this. You admit that although you betrayed your husband, he still likes you, respects you and treats you kindly. But that wasn’t enough for you - you wanted him to “love you like he used to” (which evidently wasn’t love enough since you cheated on him). You still demonstrate the typical cheater mindset - unwillingness to live with consequences of your behavior (by insisting that he feel a certain way about you despite your behavior) and preferring to have some fantasy marriage rather than a real one (you’d like to believe that he’s so in love with you that if you died he’d be wailing over your casket and flinging himself on your funreal pyre or something). |
My DH had a long-term affair. When it came to light, there was a long period of ugliness but I decided against divorce. He begged me to stay but I didn't stay because he begged, I stayed because I decided to stay. Genuine trust, it's hard to say, I think I became a little bit cold toward him and I don't need to feel as trustful as I used to. I don't regret staying and I think a made a 100% right decision. |