Or perhaps she taught you that women are not obliged to forgive everything and they can do what is in their own self-interest. Your mom is not obliged to forgive an affair, nor is she obliged to suffer economically or to watch you suffer economically because of your father’s mistake. |
Nope -she enjoyed the manipulation and the game. Not every woman flies the banner of feminism. Some are just bitches. |
She may be a bitch but her husband didn’t enjoy the game he played? How did his affair help anyone else beside himself? If she was a bitch before his affair, just divorce before he have one. |
ahh, yes, we feminists must stand up for our rights politely with smiles on our faces, otherwise, we are......bitches...... |
We survived an emotional (I think) affair. It was early in our marriage, prekids.
I confronted him with the voicemails and emails. He did not try to deny it or gaslight me. I told him if we had a chance in hell he could never speak to her again. I told him I would have full access to all his emails, voicemails and texts. He immediately agreed and never spoke to her again. He seemed remorseful. 14 years and 2 kids later we are still married. Nothing similar has happened again (that I know of) but obviously I still think about it sometimes. |
Do you get angry when you think about it? Do you let him know when it’s on your mind? |
My marriage survived (my) infidelity, 7 years ago. Husband trusts me fully. Unfortunately, I feel like his love for me never really returned. I've been waiting and I've finally accepted this year that its not happening. My husband likes me as well as any random person on the street. He is kind and treats me with respect. But if I died tomorrow, it would be a mild inconvenience to him, nothing more. If I knew it would be like this, I would have left. We never went to counseling (he wasn't interested). Both partners have to work to build a new, better marriage after an affair. If it doesn't look like that is going to happen, just leave. |
So do you think you will initiate a divorce? Do you have kids? |
Honestly, your self-absorption is a bit mind-boggling. You betrayed him and your children in the worst way possible, and you’re upset he doesn’t love you like he used to? What did you expect? That you could do something horrible and things would get better? |
I thought I had gotten over my ex wife’s cheating. But I kept seeing the two guys she slept with around town. Sometimes when we were together with kids. It was humiliating. |
Or did she expect things to be the way they were supposed to be in their marriage? That shipped sailed as soon as she slept with someone while married to her husband. She unilaterally changed the dynamic of her marriage. |
I bet this is not the case. |
This. We stayed together, did counseling, etc. My DW expected that after a few years I would forget about it. I never have. Her feelings have never returned and now we are nothing more than co-parents. I have considered an AP myself recently but have not acted on it. |
No way in hell. |
Be on the lookout of divorce papers being served when your youngest goes to college!! |