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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My marriage survived (my) infidelity, 7 years ago. Husband trusts me fully. Unfortunately, I feel like his love for me never really returned. I've been waiting and I've finally accepted this year that its not happening. My husband likes me as well as any random person on the street. He is kind and treats me with respect. But if I died tomorrow, it would be a mild inconvenience to him, nothing more. If I knew it would be like this, I would have left. We never went to counseling (he wasn't interested). Both partners have to work to build a new, better marriage after an affair. If it doesn't look like that is going to happen, just leave. [/quote]

So do you think you will initiate a  divorce? Do you have kids?[/quote]

I don't know. I do have kids now. Every choice feels like the wrong one. [/quote]

This is actually a very typical pattern when the woman cheats. Even if the husband wants to save the marriage, whether for the kids or financial reasons or even because he genuinely wants to rebuild a solid marriage, a man usually never gets over deep down thinking of the cheating wife as a whore. Therefore, he can no longer respect her or cherish her, and the wife can usually feel this which causes the eventual breakdown of the marriage. A man rarely forgives an affair, and women are generally more checked out of a marriage to begin with when they begin the affair, so there was already a tendency for the marriage to be irreparable. [/quote]

Who the hell genuinely forgives an affair? Who fully trusts their spouse again?[/quote]

No one[/quote]

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