Is it abuse to be pressured into working stressful higher paying jobs

[Anonymous]

Oh, the man babies are out. I’m so sorry life is so hard for you. That must be really frustrating.

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

If your spouse is a SAHM you need to man up and get the better paying job. If you both work, less pressure and both need to equally have jobs that allow them to care for children and be home on time.

Because stress is so great ?

A lot of stress is in your mind. If you're stressed out from work tasks, you need to get more organized or get some ADD meds.

That's funny. My ADD guy friends are some of the least stressed people I know. They can lose jobs, get dumped, get swindled from money and they are just always simple and happy. Ignorance is truly bliss. You don't know what you're forgetting to do if you already forgot! Nothing to worry about. Ever. Until it's too late....

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Anonymous wrote:Any views on this or are you just supposed to “man up” and accept it?

Sit down with a financial planner. It should become crystal clear what your options are (where to live, where to work, how many kids, save for retirement, etc.).

Get with it. Especially if you are married, and doubly if you have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

Me too. Kids are 3 & 5.

Now I wish to G*d my spouse would do the same. But they talk themselves out of it - no good jobs, inflation is coming, let's do private school, blah blah.

[Anonymous]

Curious is DC the personality disorder capital of the USA or is that Manhattan or LA?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

Snort, no, yall should be fine on "only" $300k to $400k. Sit down and go through your budget and figure out what the gaps are between what your spouse wants and what your income is able to provide. Heck, I make way less than you and I have a nice life.

Was that even OP stating this is between a 500-600K job and the current 300-400k job?

If that was OP, NO. that is not worth it. Especially with 50-60% of it going to taxes and gov't. No way.

Now if it was a $1M+ income job with wealth potential and carried interest or you owned your own C-Corp or company and thus got less tax leakages, you could maybe have a debate. But not this ordinary income crap. YOU ARE WORKING 35 HOURS A WEEK FOR GOV'T TAXES AND 35 HOURS A WEEK FOR YOUR FAMILY PLUS YOU ARE NOT EVEN AROUND YOUR FAMILY. No way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

My observations of the people I know -

The more they earn, the more they spend. Nicer vacations, nicer shampoo. Nicer cars. Wash, rinse, repeat with each large in tease in income.

I wish more of my friends would live within a. Retain amount of means and learn the value of time.

That said, if you both suck at parenting, work a lot and outsource to caring professionals or loving, competent family?

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Anonymous wrote:Curious is DC the personality disorder capital of the USA or is that Manhattan or LA?

Def not DC. Way more money and wealth and drama in NYC and LA and SV.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious is DC the personality disorder capital of the USA or is that Manhattan or LA?

Def not DC. Way more money and wealth and drama in NYC and LA and SV.

i swear 90% of the women here perfectly meet all the borderline or histrionic personality disorder symptoms

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Anonymous wrote:This is why there are very few women specialist doctors since most go into part time or general or pediatrics , because they don’t want to work themselves to death. It’s so bad The NY Times begged women to stop going to medical school because they are harming the medical profession by not specializing and working part time

That's ridiculous. I tis good to have a bunch of doctors work part time so that if we ever have a massive event and need more doctors immediately, they can step up and we instantly have more doctor hour capability. I see it as insurance.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, the man babies are out. I’m so sorry life is so hard for you. That must be really frustrating.

Says the SAHM...when was your last review?

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Anonymous wrote:This is why there are very few women specialist doctors since most go into part time or general or pediatrics , because they don’t want to work themselves to death. It’s so bad The NY Times begged women to stop going to medical school because they are harming the medical profession by not specializing and working part time

That's ridiculous. I tis good to have a bunch of doctors work part time so that if we ever have a massive event and need more doctors immediately, they can step up and we instantly have more doctor hour capability. I see it as insurance.

Yes it is an easy cop out. Women in general take the less stressful part time work or choose not to work at all. Must be nice!

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Anonymous wrote:This is why there are very few women specialist doctors since most go into part time or general or pediatrics , because they don’t want to work themselves to death. It’s so bad The NY Times begged women to stop going to medical school because they are harming the medical profession by not specializing and working part time

That's ridiculous. I tis good to have a bunch of doctors work part time so that if we ever have a massive event and need more doctors immediately, they can step up and we instantly have more doctor hour capability. I see it as insurance.

ny times on how women are harming the medical profession and the health of the nation https://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/12/opinion/12sibert.html

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

Your wife is materialistic. Does she want you around?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

Snort, no, yall should be fine on "only" $300k to $400k. Sit down and go through your budget and figure out what the gaps are between what your spouse wants and what your income is able to provide. Heck, I make way less than you and I have a nice life.

Was that even OP stating this is between a 500-600K job and the current 300-400k job?

If that was OP, NO. that is not worth it. Especially with 50-60% of it going to taxes and gov't. No way.

Now if it was a $1M+ income job with wealth potential and carried interest or you owned your own C-Corp or company and thus got less tax leakages, you could maybe have a debate. But not this ordinary income crap. YOU ARE WORKING 35 HOURS A WEEK FOR GOV'T TAXES AND 35 HOURS A WEEK FOR YOUR FAMILY PLUS YOU ARE NOT EVEN AROUND YOUR FAMILY. No way.

I'm the $300k PP, and I am not the OP. Sorry for the confusion. FWIW, I completely agree that this is plenty of money to live off of. That was kind of my point.