Is it abuse to be pressured into working stressful higher paying jobs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

Your wife is materialistic. Does she want you around?

My "wife" is a dude--I'm a woman. Yes, he wants me around. When I really laid out for him exactly what the $5-600k/year job would entail for my life and our family, he dropped it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why there are very few women specialist doctors since most go into part time or general or pediatrics , because they don’t want to work themselves to death. It’s so bad The NY Times begged women to stop going to medical school because they are harming the medical profession by not specializing and working part time

That's ridiculous. I tis good to have a bunch of doctors work part time so that if we ever have a massive event and need more doctors immediately, they can step up and we instantly have more doctor hour capability. I see it as insurance.

We're all in radiology, anesthesiology, or oral surgery, and speak at events plus teach. It's a great gig. And pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why there are very few women specialist doctors since most go into part time or general or pediatrics , because they don’t want to work themselves to death. It’s so bad The NY Times begged women to stop going to medical school because they are harming the medical profession by not specializing and working part time

That's ridiculous. I tis good to have a bunch of doctors work part time so that if we ever have a massive event and need more doctors immediately, they can step up and we instantly have more doctor hour capability. I see it as insurance.

ny times on how women are harming the medical profession and the health of the nation https://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/12/opinion/12sibert.html

Oh jeez. Mommy Wars, Doctor Edition.

I have family and friends in the medical field and they are all, male and female alike, demanding a better work environment and work/life balance. They've had enough of the ridiculous schedules (80+ hour workweeks are common) and demands placed upon them (like seeing 6 patients per hour).

If given the choice between a female doctor who was smart enough to get into medical school on her own accord and is well-rested and happy due to good work-life balance, or a male doctor who only got into school because all the females stopped joining, has been working 12 hour days all week, and is running off of 4 hours of sleep.....I know who I'd rather see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the purposes of this forum if you are a woman, yes. Man, no. That is all.

Beat me to it.

[Anonymous]

OP: don't do it. When my ex forced the high-paying job on me, I knew she was setting me up for divorce and the marriage would soon be over.

[Anonymous]

If you're not running or managing HALF of the family schedule plus working, you had better be making bank.

Otherwise, 50/50 on everything.