Healthy, decent adults understand that this young man is now married to the woman who preyed on him when he was a child, molested and raped him. She is a pedophile, a rapist and a psychological abuser. She robbed him of his childhood and held him mentally captive as a teenager and throughout his young adulthood. He is only now seeing how wrong the whole relationship was because he is now the same age that she was when she started to molest him. He has said that he can not see himself ever doing that to a child, himself. It has taken this long for it to even dawn on him just how damaging and abusive that relationship has been for him. I hope he finds the strength to walk away from her, get a restraining order against her and never talk to her again. |
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Basically she has brainwashed and groomed him into thinking that he was the one responsible for this.
It's not unlike what kidnappers do to their hostages. |
| agreed - this is an ongoing hostage situation |
When he was 21, he asked the court to remove the permanent restraining order. He’s a grown man now, and can make his own decisions. I don’t think their relationship is healthy, but they’re adults and can decide for themselves. |
Legally. But she is still a sexual predator and not a victim in any way. |
This. |
True. No one can forbid him to see her. But hopefully with some maturity under his belt along with the support of people who continue to remind that what happened to him was wrong and what she did to him was not o.k. he will find the strength to break away from the powerful hold that she has on him. Remember, this woman has known him since he was in 2nd grade. She knows exactly what makes him tick and where his vulnerabilities are. He grew up believing that he needed her and was nothing without her approval. He is only now maybe starting to learn how to say no to her. Maybe. She is a real sicko for sure. |
Would he? The courts are full of Brock Turner and stories of other men to prey on children and women and who are turned loose. |
No, not really. At least not in the same way that men are. First, women are nurturing. Second, the young man was obviously sexually attracted to her. There is a distinct, tangible difference between this kind of relationship and one with a adult man and young woman. Sorry, it's different, and no one is able to convince me otherwise. Your arguments are all fundamentally flawed. |
You are sick. Really, seek help. |
You're the famous DCUM "Brock Turner Poster"! You bring him up all the time! Doesn't really matter what the discussion is, either. I've seen you drop his name on a thread about drunk driving deaths! You should get a hobby. (I mean *another* hobby.... besides Brock Turner) |
Oh, go away. |
You know, I think that while there may have been some gray areas in the Brock Turner case (consensual hookup at a frat party gone horribly wrong, ending in rape) that guy was convicted of rape and will never be around his victim again. She is a grown woman and she was never under some psychological impression that it is ever o.k. for drunk college guys to have sex with passed out drunken college women. He was a scumbag and now he's in jail for it. Good. In this situation, a 12 year old boy was raped, repeatedly, by his pretty 34 year old teacher. She is 100% certain that he asked for it. She states flat out that the 12 year old boy had the upper hand and actively pursued her. She has zero remorse, no sense of wrong doing at all and......she is back with him because her psychological hold on him is so strong. This is a young man who has heard all the snickers, he has heard that no teenage boy would ever turn down a hot teacher, I'm sure that he has heard how lucky he is that he got laid....because that's what guys want and that's what guys do. He was only 12. A child. This was a teacher that was supposed to be looking out for him. What a tragedy. |
OMG, the "young man" was 12 YEARS OLD. What is wrong with you? |
Nurturing women do not rape children. Never, ever is that o.k. |