Wife Is Going Overboard..

[Anonymous]

Well, since you are set on using a crib only, it's probably ok to spend on that since you can re-use for subsequent babies. But it's silly to spend a fortune on clothes they wear for like a hot minute and outgrow.

As far as the co- sleeping...I disagree with you and am so happy that I did that, but I also had and used a crib so I can understand that also.

[Anonymous]

Take the $4000 per year your wife wants to waste on clothes, etc. for the kid and invest it in a 529 plan. You'll have over $200,000 in 19 years for college.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a new crib and bassinet. Neither was ever used. Baby would not sleep unless cuddled next to me. I would wait until baby arrives and you see what you actually need.

Cosleeping with a newborn is dangerous. Do not do this.

Just get a cheap crib or bassinet

Co-sleeping is safe if done right.

OP here. As healthcare professionals, we know the science, and co-sleeping is not safe. Our child will only sleep in a crib or bassinet. We aren’t against many things, but feel very strongly about the risk of co-sleeping.

Ha! experts with no real experience. Let's see what happens when the baby arrives and won't sleep by themselves!

No baby wants to sleep in a bassinet or crib. You have to train them to do so. And I am speaking from experience. If OP hi is co sleeping is dangerous, they will train baby to sleep in crib. It’s not easy and yes I have two kids.

OP here. We will train him to sleep in the crib. Idiotic people will say it’s safe, but it’s not. I’ve heard many bad stories of parents smothering their children during co-sleeping.

babies die in cribs too

[Anonymous]

Best money we spent: a box of 500 Chux on Amazon (they're the absorbent pads used at the bottom of the hospital bassinet). We put them one at a time over our changing pad, and when it got soiled, into the garbage with zero cleanup. Also helped corral diaper and wipes after big blowouts.

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I had some advice for you but now I’m not going to give it because you were so mean to th co-sleepers! Don’t call people idiots—it’s iuncool. (FWIW, I didn’t cosleep, except with one of my many kids where I had a major medical issue during childbirth and couldn’t move for weeks after birth, so coslept so I could nurse. I did cosleep but couldn’t roll over so definitely no smother risk!).

Also, take it from someone with a passel of kids—first rule of parenting is “Never say never.”

[Anonymous]

Don't be cheap with the rocking chair. I've spent hours in ours and it is not the trendiest but it is the most comfortable chair ever (gigantic best chair swivel recliner style).

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Anonymous wrote:I would get a copy of the book Baby Bargins and go through it together. It helps you make a plan, gives recommendations at different price points, and tells you what to buy now and what to wait on until after the baby arrives and you have more information about preferences. It will also make it a joint project instead of just her making decisions.

Our first took us 8 years of fertility treatments to have and by then our HHI was near 1M, so we could have gone absolutely crazy. But, we were able to be somewhat reasonable by making a plan and deciding what we really cared about. We did get a really nice crib and a really nice stroller, but didn’t really decorate the nursery beyond furniture. Pretty much all the clothes were gifts or hand me downs. We did get bassinet, but not a $1200 one. Some kids are fine straight into the crib, but mine liked cozier environment. Read the reviews in Baby Bargins carefully and find a good one at a reasonable price point.

Do you mean Baby Bargains? There is no such thing as Baby Bargins, says Google.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a new crib and bassinet. Neither was ever used. Baby would not sleep unless cuddled next to me. I would wait until baby arrives and you see what you actually need.

Cosleeping with a newborn is dangerous. Do not do this.

Just get a cheap crib or bassinet

Co-sleeping is safe if done right.

OP here. As healthcare professionals, we know the science, and co-sleeping is not safe. Our child will only sleep in a crib or bassinet. We aren’t against many things, but feel very strongly about the risk of co-sleeping.

Ha! experts with no real experience. Let's see what happens when the baby arrives and won't sleep by themselves!

No baby wants to sleep in a bassinet or crib. You have to train them to do so. And I am speaking from experience. If OP hi is co sleeping is dangerous, they will train baby to sleep in crib. It’s not easy and yes I have two kids.

OP here. We will train him to sleep in the crib. Idiotic people will say it’s safe, but it’s not. I’ve heard many bad stories of parents smothering their children during co-sleeping.

babies die in cribs too

Not the OP but you must be obtuse if you don’t know that co sleeping is a huge factor for being smothered. I suppose babies die in cribs too if parents pile it with pillows and soft toys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Let her buy the things she wants if you guys can afford it. She's a new mom, and she wants the best for her kid. It's the first-time mom syndrome. Take a deep breath. It's not worth fighting over.

Good thing is you can reuse it for the second kid

Not a guy but a practical gal here.

You do not want to rain on her parade. Yes, she is going overboard. But really if you have the money, there are so many worse sadness and terrible stories, really let it go. Focus on her excitement and your own excitement and just smile to yourself about this silliness.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a new crib and bassinet. Neither was ever used. Baby would not sleep unless cuddled next to me. I would wait until baby arrives and you see what you actually need.

Cosleeping with a newborn is dangerous. Do not do this.

Just get a cheap crib or bassinet

It is only dangerous if you are using drugs or alcohol. Otherwise, that is how the human race rolled for millions of years. I co-slept with my babies and nothing bad happened.

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Find me another mammal that doesn't co-sleep with their infants. No drugs (especially no sleep aids or tranquilizers) and no alcohol. Co-sleeping is nature's way.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't be cheap with the rocking chair. I've spent hours in ours and it is not the trendiest but it is the most comfortable chair ever (gigantic best chair swivel recliner style).

Agreement that this is the thing to spend money on (or make sure it is comfortable).

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Anonymous wrote:I would get a copy of the book Baby Bargins and go through it together. It helps you make a plan, gives recommendations at different price points, and tells you what to buy now and what to wait on until after the baby arrives and you have more information about preferences. It will also make it a joint project instead of just her making decisions.

Our first took us 8 years of fertility treatments to have and by then our HHI was near 1M, so we could have gone absolutely crazy. But, we were able to be somewhat reasonable by making a plan and deciding what we really cared about. We did get a really nice crib and a really nice stroller, but didn’t really decorate the nursery beyond furniture. Pretty much all the clothes were gifts or hand me downs. We did get bassinet, but not a $1200 one. Some kids are fine straight into the crib, but mine liked cozier environment. Read the reviews in Baby Bargins carefully and find a good one at a reasonable price point.

Do you mean Baby Bargains? There is no such thing as Baby Bargins, says Google.

Did you seriously just waste a post over this person’s typos? Was it actually unclear to you or are you just a pedant?

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Anonymous wrote:We had a new crib and bassinet. Neither was ever used. Baby would not sleep unless cuddled next to me. I would wait until baby arrives and you see what you actually need.

Cosleeping with a newborn is dangerous. Do not do this.

Just get a cheap crib or bassinet

It is only dangerous if you are using drugs or alcohol. Otherwise, that is how the human race rolled for millions of years. I co-slept with my babies and nothing bad happened.

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Find me another mammal that doesn't co-sleep with their infants. No drugs (especially no sleep aids or tranquilizers) and no alcohol. Co-sleeping is nature's way.

Ah too bad nature fs up so much.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/08/13/why-you-shouldnt-be-excited-about-the-rare-birth-of-panda-triplets/?utm_term=.050780c4f8f7

It’s not uncommon for giant panda mothers to accidentally crush their babies, which are the size of a stick of butter when they are born. “When she rolled onto her cub, 16-year-old Ya Ya fatally damaged the newborn’s heart, liver, and other internal organs,” National Geographic reported of a baby panda death at a zoo in China in 2006. “Handlers were alerted to the tragedy when the cub fell motionless from her mother’s nipple.” It happened again at two other zoos in China in 2009 and 2010.

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https://dogencyclopedia.net/thread/14165-is-it-ok-to-let-the-mother-sleep-with-newborn-puppies/

Most responsible breeders have someone stay with the b*tch for several weeks until they are big enough to withstand being stepped on.Many breed's dams will accidentally squash and kill pups. If you don't want that to happen to your pups I suggest you set up round the clock care to watch over them. My last litter I flew my adult daughter in to watch pups... and hired a puppysitter for when neither she nor I was available.Edit: As I said.. responsible breeders usually stay with their b*tches until they are certain the pups are safe. MANY large breed dogs accidentally kill pups when they get up, move around and then lie down again... especially if it is a large litter. While some people may find it acceptable to lose pups due to neglig

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I love first time parents! ?