Has your career affected your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ignorance on this thread is astounding. The deep seated beliefs expressed here makes me fearful for our country.

We currently have a POTUS actively engaged in stoking divisiveness in this country. That should worry any thinking person.

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There's a world of difference between the two scenarios you listed, for sure. I think the OP is the latter given Jeff's statement that she is someone "in the Trump White House" which I don't think anyone would say about a civil servant of 10 or 20 years. He also said he feels bad for her so I've been racking my brain trying to think of what type of job you could hold in the current White House where I would feel sympathy for you. Not for this specific situation, just in general what job there is not part of furthering an agenda I strongly oppose.

I don't think Jeff can distinguish a civil servant working in the WH vs. a political...since presumably he just sees something about their IP address. I was a civil servant who worked in the EOP during the Obama Administration. Many of my former colleagues still work there. They are the same people they were (some very liberal) when I worked with them.

Of course, one big question is how anyone could be posting to DCUM from the WH...because I could not access DCUM while I worked there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ignorance on this thread is astounding. The deep seated beliefs expressed here makes me fearful for our country.

We currently have a POTUS actively engaged in stoking divisiveness in this country. That should worry any thinking person.

Yes, that is true, but acting in the same manner as the president isn't helping anyone and is self serving. How many people on this thread are actively doing something about the issues they care about??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my career has affected my kids.

I work in international development, and travel to developing countries.

My kids are aware that the world is interconnected, and that we are fortunate to live where we do. They have learned that rule of law and a strong legal and regulatory environment in this country give us advantages that other countries don't have. And that our country wants to help other countries develop and improve. (Despite it taking place under the auspices of cementing American influence, opening up markets to the US for trade, etc etc etc.)

My older one in particular is fascinated with pollution and often looks up air quality in cities I'm going to, commenting on how bad it is. I tell her that me and my colleagues are working to try to change that and other things, so that all little kids and their moms can grow up healthy and well and have a future.

I am gone for 7 to 14 days at a time several times a year. It sucks, but it makes them resilient. I love seeing them be able to go on with business as usual despite mom being away. They learn about saying goodbye with grace and very happy reunions.

They love looking at maps and asking me about the places I go to, I have taken them on a trip or two to expand their horizons and plan to do so more when they are older.

I hope that this helps them have a broader view of the world as they grow up, and helps them be good global citizens who respect other cultures, ideals, and approaches as they navigate this crazy world.

Another parent with the exact situation. I just came back from a trip, with gifts of a mini globe and maps in my carry-on. For me, "several times a year" means, 4-5 times a year. It does suck. I am getting bitter about current salary caps in my organization. Perhaps we're at the same place...

[Anonymous]

I took the hard line on this when my daughter had just started elementary school. We are Black and she had made friends with a girl whose parents had voted for Trump. She repeatedly asked to have playdates with this kid and I always came up with an excuse. Then I just flat out told her that they couldn't have playdates because the parents were strong Trump supporters. Anyhow, the two would still always hang out and became best friends. I relented and allowed a playdate after the mom asked and they have had many since then. The little girl is honestly, the nicest, sweetest girl in the class. I'm so glad they found each other. Go figure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took the hard line on this when my daughter had just started elementary school. We are Black and she had made friends with a girl whose parents had voted for Trump. She repeatedly asked to have playdates with this kid and I always came up with an excuse. Then I just flat out told her that they couldn't have playdates because the parents were strong Trump supporters. Anyhow, the two would still always hang out and became best friends. I relented and allowed a playdate after the mom asked and they have had many since then. The little girl is honestly, the nicest, sweetest girl in the class. I'm so glad they found each other. Go figure.

I totally hear you and felt/feel similarly, but at the same time I know that it's possible the little girl's parents are super pro-life (not my thing either) or toher single-issue voters or just feel better about republicans than democrats overall (again, I'd disagree with them but don't think that's an immoral stance). How do you distinguish between the trumps who are sexist/racistsm etc. versus "normal" conservatives who voted for trump beacuse they thought it was the best option?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my career has affected my kids.

I work in international development, and travel to developing countries.

My kids are aware that the world is interconnected, and that we are fortunate to live where we do. They have learned that rule of law and a strong legal and regulatory environment in this country give us advantages that other countries don't have. And that our country wants to help other countries develop and improve. (Despite it taking place under the auspices of cementing American influence, opening up markets to the US for trade, etc etc etc.)

My older one in particular is fascinated with pollution and often looks up air quality in cities I'm going to, commenting on how bad it is. I tell her that me and my colleagues are working to try to change that and other things, so that all little kids and their moms can grow up healthy and well and have a future.

I am gone for 7 to 14 days at a time several times a year. It sucks, but it makes them resilient. I love seeing them be able to go on with business as usual despite mom being away. They learn about saying goodbye with grace and very happy reunions.

They love looking at maps and asking me about the places I go to, I have taken them on a trip or two to expand their horizons and plan to do so more when they are older.

I hope that this helps them have a broader view of the world as they grow up, and helps them be good global citizens who respect other cultures, ideals, and approaches as they navigate this crazy world.

Same here, to most of the above although we live abroad and I travel more frequently than you.

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My husband is a scientist at a federal agency. We are pretty liberal. We have declined play dates twice because one parent is a lobbyist. One lobbies for the NRA and another lobbies for a chemical company that is responsible for the pollution my husband researches.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I took the hard line on this when my daughter had just started elementary school. We are Black and she had made friends with a girl whose parents had voted for Trump. She repeatedly asked to have playdates with this kid and I always came up with an excuse. Then I just flat out told her that they couldn't have playdates because the parents were strong Trump supporters. Anyhow, the two would still always hang out and became best friends. I relented and allowed a playdate after the mom asked and they have had many since then. The little girl is honestly, the nicest, sweetest girl in the class. I'm so glad they found each other. Go figure.

I totally hear you and felt/feel similarly, but at the same time I know that it's possible the little girl's parents are super pro-life (not my thing either) or toher single-issue voters or just feel better about republicans than democrats overall (again, I'd disagree with them but don't think that's an immoral stance). How do you distinguish between the trumps who are sexist/racistsm etc. versus "normal" conservatives who voted for trump beacuse they thought it was the best option?

Unfortunately, I can’t. I just know this family has treated my daughter so warmly and that the daughter continuously expresses how much she likes/appreciates my daughter. It’s a tough call but this kid treats my daughter so well, I will let them keep playing together until I see something that causes me concern.

[Anonymous]

How would anyone know what I do for a living? I don't generally talk to neighbors other than a nod. I don't even know anything about neighbors. Don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It has affected my kids, yes. I've flat out told my children that I do not want them to go into my profession. I don't think either of them will. One appears to be headed into medicine and the other into computer science type of a field.

That's what I thought this thread would be about. Same way my dad told us not to go into engineering. And my lawyer peers tell their kids not to do law.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your chosen line of work ever impacted your child? I don’t mean time not spent together or missed games, performes, field trips etc. I mean your child has been shunned for what you do. For example, working at an organization like Planned Parenthood and your child attends catholic school. I’m in a similar position (and my DS is new to the school last year) and I can only think I am to blame. I gave it a year knowing transitions are hard, but now I’m considering a job change. I should note that I never flaunted where I worked but it’s on my LinkedIn and I am easy to google.

If you work for Trump, you are not welcome in my home. I will invite your child if they are nice to my child- but they will know exactly where we stand on the immorality of Trump.

They will start to question you and make you explain why you support a President who denigrates women, the disabled and minorities.

You have real issues.

No. Trump supporters are the ones with issues.

NO, this person is seriously bigoted and prejudicial. They have bought into the left's demonization of everything related to this administration. There are some very fine people working in career and political positions. This name calling and "Nazification" of everything from the Left has to stop. It is only hurting the democratic party.

[Anonymous]

I do not want to know my neighbor's politics. I do not want to the politics of my kids friends' parents. It's very easy to avoid knowing. These are not people I am going to have intimate relationships with, so I base my opinion of them off my interactions with them in person.

I believe that those of you would judge people you don't even know based solely on their support of Trump are part of the problem. Shouldn't matter, but I'm a Dem liberal.

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Wow. I can’t believe some of you. I have no idea what the parents of my kids do for a living unless they tell me. I don’t give a rats ass. Do you also estimate net worth, so you don’t go below your social class? Just so nosy.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your chosen line of work ever impacted your child? I don’t mean time not spent together or missed games, performes, field trips etc. I mean your child has been shunned for what you do. For example, working at an organization like Planned Parenthood and your child attends catholic school. I’m in a similar position (and my DS is new to the school last year) and I can only think I am to blame. I gave it a year knowing transitions are hard, but now I’m considering a job change. I should note that I never flaunted where I worked but it’s on my LinkedIn and I am easy to google.

If you work for Trump, you are not welcome in my home. I will invite your child if they are nice to my child- but they will know exactly where we stand on the immorality of Trump.

They will start to question you and make you explain why you support a President who denigrates women, the disabled and minorities.

You have real issues.

No. Trump supporters are the ones with issues.

NO, this person is seriously bigoted and prejudicial. They have bought into the left's demonization of everything related to this administration. There are some very fine people working in career and political positions. This name calling and "Nazification" of everything from the Left has to stop. It is only hurting the democratic party.

You can take the moral high ground when you stop supporting a man who made fun of a person with disabilities at a campaign event.