Has your career affected your kids?

[Anonymous]

I have a neighbor with a giant trump sign in his yard. I will admit that I avoid him and will alter my walking path if he is out in his yard. I strongly believe that this administration is immoral and I think that people that advertise their allegiance to their policies are not people I want to know. We are brown skinned and I guess I have a zero tolerance policy toward racists and those who enable racists by averting their eyes or downplaying racist actions.

That said, best I can tell, his kid lives in my back yard and plays basketball all the time with my son. I treat my son’s friend like I treat all other kids that wander through our house/yard- tell them to stay off the flower beds, offer lemonade and snacks, ask them whether they want to call their parents for permission to stay for dinner etc. The Trump supporter’s kid is treated no differently- why should he be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor with a giant trump sign in his yard. I will admit that I avoid him and will alter my walking path if he is out in his yard. I strongly believe that this administration is immoral and I think that people that advertise their allegiance to their policies are not people I want to know. We are brown skinned and I guess I have a zero tolerance policy toward racists and those who enable racists by averting their eyes or downplaying racist actions.

That said, best I can tell, his kid lives in my back yard and plays basketball all the time with my son. I treat my son’s friend like I treat all other kids that wander through our house/yard- tell them to stay off the flower beds, offer lemonade and snacks, ask them whether they want to call their parents for permission to stay for dinner etc. The Trump supporter’s kid is treated no differently- why should he be?

Exactly!

That is because you are a normal person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP back and I want to steer this back on course. The response to many of these questions confirms my hypothesis. I like my job and have had some success here, but I also don’t want to have a child that resents me or thinks that I put a career before his happiness.

Have you considered moving out to a place like Burke or Chantilly where people don't get so crazy about politics?

We have long since passed the point where it is about politics.

It is about basic human decency.

Anyone who thinks it is okay to ostracize or worse to children in order to enact revenge on their parent's for their hope for a better life or for simply wanting a job is certainly lacking in basic human decency.

There. Fixed that for you.

You know, you can be against poor treatment of children in all situations, from the illegal immigrant children far away at the border, to the ignorant treatment of OPs kid right here in your own DC bubble.

Totes!!! You can also surely recognize one is more serious than the other right? Right?

And the pot calling the kettle black ness of writing out how awful it is to be mean to kids based on a parents politics, when (based on Jeff’s note) those very politics are to separate kids from their families? Right??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has your chosen line of work ever impacted your child? I don’t mean time not spent together or missed games, performes, field trips etc. I mean your child has been shunned for what you do. For example, working at an organization like Planned Parenthood and your child attends catholic school. I’m in a similar position (and my DS is new to the school last year) and I can only think I am to blame. I gave it a year knowing transitions are hard, but now I’m considering a job change. I should note that I never flaunted where I worked but it’s on my LinkedIn and I am easy to google.

If you work for Trump, you are not welcome in my home. I will invite your child if they are nice to my child- but they will know exactly where we stand on the immorality of Trump.

They will start to question you and make you explain why you support a President who denigrates women, the disabled and minorities.

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Anonymous wrote:OP back and I want to steer this back on course. The response to many of these questions confirms my hypothesis. I like my job and have had some success here, but I also don’t want to have a child that resents me or thinks that I put a career before his happiness.

Have you considered moving out to a place like Burke or Chantilly where people don't get so crazy about politics?

We have long since passed the point where it is about politics.

It is about basic human decency.

Anyone who thinks it is okay to ostracize or worse to children in order to enact revenge on their parent's for their hope for a better life or for simply wanting a job is certainly lacking in basic human decency.

There. Fixed that for you.

You know, you can be against poor treatment of children in all situations, from the illegal immigrant children far away at the border, to the ignorant treatment of OPs kid right here in your own DC bubble.

Totes!!! You can also surely recognize one is more serious than the other right? Right?

And the pot calling the kettle black ness of writing out how awful it is to be mean to kids based on a parents politics, when (based on Jeff’s note) those very politics are to separate kids from their families? Right??

This thread is about OPs kid.

And yes, you can be upset about the children at the border and also be upset for OPs kid and other kids in this town in that same situation.

Your attitude is like getting mad at someone for trying to pick up trash and plant flowers in their neighborhood because destruction of the Amazon is so much bigger.

We make the world better by being kinder and thoughtful towards those we are closest to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Has your chosen line of work ever impacted your child? I don’t mean time not spent together or missed games, performes, field trips etc. I mean your child has been shunned for what you do. For example, working at an organization like Planned Parenthood and your child attends catholic school. I’m in a similar position (and my DS is new to the school last year) and I can only think I am to blame. I gave it a year knowing transitions are hard, but now I’m considering a job change. I should note that I never flaunted where I worked but it’s on my LinkedIn and I am easy to google.

If you work for Trump, you are not welcome in my home. I will invite your child if they are nice to my child- but they will know exactly where we stand on the immorality of Trump.

They will start to question you and make you explain why you support a President who denigrates women, the disabled and minorities.

You have real issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your chosen line of work ever impacted your child? I don’t mean time not spent together or missed games, performes, field trips etc. I mean your child has been shunned for what you do. For example, working at an organization like Planned Parenthood and your child attends catholic school. I’m in a similar position (and my DS is new to the school last year) and I can only think I am to blame. I gave it a year knowing transitions are hard, but now I’m considering a job change. I should note that I never flaunted where I worked but it’s on my LinkedIn and I am easy to google.

If you work for Trump, you are not welcome in my home. I will invite your child if they are nice to my child- but they will know exactly where we stand on the immorality of Trump.

They will start to question you and make you explain why you support a President who denigrates women, the disabled and minorities.

You have real issues.

Not PP but nope, she/he doesn’t - I also don’t want to associate with adults that support a Nazi racist pussy grabber. Period.

[Anonymous]

I have a job I hide when I am enrolling my kids in school because I don't want the school to think I can do them any special favors. When people eventually find out what I do, people are nice and I downplay it. Honestly, if it is something like planned parenthood/catholic school issue, don't worry about it. You provide awesome health care in addition to abortions to women. If you do work for 45, you might want a career change so your kids can look you in the eye when they grow up. this is ultimately about you and your kids.

[Anonymous]

The tone is set at the top and Trump has done his best to create this polarization through both how he behaves along with his policies. Departments like DHS do very important work but it is being trashed because of Trump's policies. It's sad that Sarah Huckabee Sanders (who I dislike) gets run out of a restaurant because of her position, but when her boss insults everyone who disagrees with him (Little Marco, Lyin' Ted etc etc) the tone he has established creates this kind of blow back. Trump is trashing the Justice Department and the FBI and I'm sure that can have an effect on kids attitudes towards their parents jobs.

[Anonymous]

The ignorance on this thread is astounding. The deep seated beliefs expressed here makes me fearful for our country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The tone is set at the top and Trump has done his best to create this polarization through both how he behaves along with his policies. Departments like DHS do very important work but it is being trashed because of Trump's policies. It's sad that Sarah Huckabee Sanders (who I dislike) gets run out of a restaurant because of her position, but when her boss insults everyone who disagrees with him (Little Marco, Lyin' Ted etc etc) the tone he has established creates this kind of blow back. Trump is trashing the Justice Department and the FBI and I'm sure that can have an effect on kids attitudes towards their parents jobs.

I think there is a huge difference between someone caught in one of the currently higher profile gov agencies who has been a civil servant for 10 years or 20 and someone who is higher up in the administration.

I think the real question here is: if you work for planned parenthood, should you send your kid to Catholic school? Maybe it is a mismatch in where you send your child and the activities they are in when it comes to your personal beliefs/job. If you are second guessing your career because of it, it says something about how you are feeling about your career--not the people around you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in the non-enforcement side of immigration. I basically act like I work at the CIA so my kids aren't shunned or ostracized from the current social media mobs.

I work for CBP on international trade matters (not immigration) and I can relate to this.

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Anonymous wrote:The tone is set at the top and Trump has done his best to create this polarization through both how he behaves along with his policies. Departments like DHS do very important work but it is being trashed because of Trump's policies. It's sad that Sarah Huckabee Sanders (who I dislike) gets run out of a restaurant because of her position, but when her boss insults everyone who disagrees with him (Little Marco, Lyin' Ted etc etc) the tone he has established creates this kind of blow back. Trump is trashing the Justice Department and the FBI and I'm sure that can have an effect on kids attitudes towards their parents jobs.

I think there is a huge difference between someone caught in one of the currently higher profile gov agencies who has been a civil servant for 10 years or 20 and someone who is higher up in the administration.

I think the real question here is: if you work for planned parenthood, should you send your kid to Catholic school? Maybe it is a mismatch in where you send your child and the activities they are in when it comes to your personal beliefs/job. If you are second guessing your career because of it, it says something about how you are feeling about your career--not the people around you!

There's a world of difference between the two scenarios you listed, for sure. I think the OP is the latter given Jeff's statement that she is someone "in the Trump White House" which I don't think anyone would say about a civil servant of 10 or 20 years. He also said he feels bad for her so I've been racking my brain trying to think of what type of job you could hold in the current White House where I would feel sympathy for you. Not for this specific situation, just in general what job there is not part of furthering an agenda I strongly oppose.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my career has affected my kids.

I work in international development, and travel to developing countries.

My kids are aware that the world is interconnected, and that we are fortunate to live where we do. They have learned that rule of law and a strong legal and regulatory environment in this country give us advantages that other countries don't have. And that our country wants to help other countries develop and improve. (Despite it taking place under the auspices of cementing American influence, opening up markets to the US for trade, etc etc etc.)

My older one in particular is fascinated with pollution and often looks up air quality in cities I'm going to, commenting on how bad it is. I tell her that me and my colleagues are working to try to change that and other things, so that all little kids and their moms can grow up healthy and well and have a future.

I am gone for 7 to 14 days at a time several times a year. It sucks, but it makes them resilient. I love seeing them be able to go on with business as usual despite mom being away. They learn about saying goodbye with grace and very happy reunions.

They love looking at maps and asking me about the places I go to, I have taken them on a trip or two to expand their horizons and plan to do so more when they are older.

I hope that this helps them have a broader view of the world as they grow up, and helps them be good global citizens who respect other cultures, ideals, and approaches as they navigate this crazy world.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your chosen line of work ever impacted your child? I don’t mean time not spent together or missed games, performes, field trips etc. I mean your child has been shunned for what you do. For example, working at an organization like Planned Parenthood and your child attends catholic school. I’m in a similar position (and my DS is new to the school last year) and I can only think I am to blame. I gave it a year knowing transitions are hard, but now I’m considering a job change. I should note that I never flaunted where I worked but it’s on my LinkedIn and I am easy to google.

If you work for Trump, you are not welcome in my home. I will invite your child if they are nice to my child- but they will know exactly where we stand on the immorality of Trump.

They will start to question you and make you explain why you support a President who denigrates women, the disabled and minorities.

You have real issues.

No. Trump supporters are the ones with issues.