Would you host a stranger if a family member asked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But OP didn't know she would find another HOUSE when OP said "NO"
Now trying to rationalize away the guilt a month later.

OP here. You're wrong. I specifically said I'd do it if she had no other place to go. She had another place to go. I knew this by the afternoon that she had another place to go. That's when I found out that she'd be arriving late at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For one night, looming storm, 20-something female, yes probably.

Anything else - no.

Same. I thought this thread was going to be about hosting in an exchange-student type way. For 8 hours overnight in a snowstorm? Absolutely and I'm not even an particularly open-door person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But OP didn't know she would find another HOUSE when OP said "NO"
Now trying to rationalize away the guilt a month later.

OP knew she had another place to stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But OP didn't know she would find another HOUSE when OP said "NO"
Now trying to rationalize away the guilt a month later.

OP here. You're wrong. I specifically said I'd do it if she had no other place to go. She had another place to go. I knew this by the afternoon that she had another place to go. That's when I found out that she'd be arriving late at night.

OP you posted here and asked the question after weeks. You know it was wrong. Just accept the lesson learned. No one got hurt its not life or death, you don't have to take this moment of lack of generosity to your grave.

[Anonymous]

I’m an introvert and I would have said yes. One night when I would be asleep for most of that time? How is being an introvert a factor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With your facts? 1) young kids; 2) school day; 3) late arrival; 4) stranger; 5) weather was not that bad; 6) you have NO GUEST BEDROOM; 7) there are plenty of hotels in the area:

NO. I would not have agreed. This is an imposition on a family in a small house with existing obligations. Ignore the sanctimonious Grannies who have 24 hr/day spare time.

Uh, I'm the PP who said yes and I'm not an open door person. I have a 4 and 7 year old. I work full time, as does my husband. Do you really think a young woman minds spending one night on a couch? Who ARE you people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m an introvert and I would have said yes. One night when I would be asleep for most of that time? How is being an introvert a factor?

If she's working a late shift, there's a good chance the girl would have stayed most of the next day in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But OP didn't know she would find another HOUSE when OP said "NO"
Now trying to rationalize away the guilt a month later.

OP knew she had another place to stay.

OP knew she had another place to stay 40 minutes away. Almost defeats the purpose of the overnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I arrived at Dulles at midnight after the plane being late by many hours. Complete strangers to me, but friends of my close friend picked me up and hosted for the night. We were all graduate students with no money. They dropped me off at the metro station as my next flight was from Reagan. I would absolutely do the same.

No kids? No jobs? It's not even close to the same thing.

DP. But my parents hosted legit strangers (a couple) when I was kid. We didn’t have extra room - I think they slept on our pullout couch in the living room.
They had a kid in some kind of plane accident in the area and our UU church asked for host volunteers.

I think seeing that as a kid made an impact on me in terms of helping other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With your facts? 1) young kids; 2) school day; 3) late arrival; 4) stranger; 5) weather was not that bad; 6) you have NO GUEST BEDROOM; 7) there are plenty of hotels in the area:

NO. I would not have agreed. This is an imposition on a family in a small house with existing obligations. Ignore the sanctimonious Grannies who have 24 hr/day spare time.

Uh, I'm the PP who said yes and I'm not an open door person. I have a 4 and 7 year old. I work full time, as does my husband. Do you really think a young woman minds spending one night on a couch? Who ARE you people?

+1 I'm another PP and I have two kids and two dogs in 1400 square feet and I'd even move the coffee table and plug in the air mattress for her!

[Anonymous]

Could everyone please post their numbers and addresses for the unofficial DCUM free bed and breakfast brigade? Strangers welcome. Everybody is a friend of a friend of someone you've met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But OP didn't know she would find another HOUSE when OP said "NO"
Now trying to rationalize away the guilt a month later.

OP here. You're wrong. I specifically said I'd do it if she had no other place to go. She had another place to go. I knew this by the afternoon that she had another place to go. That's when I found out that she'd be arriving late at night.

WHY are you posting this a month later? Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Yes she had another place FORTY minutes away, hardly ideal but really the only option after OP declined.

Spin it how you want and how you would have helped if you had to. You showed your true colors so don't be surprised if Karma says hi one day

[Anonymous]

Yes.

Maybe it is a cultural thing (we are Asian-Americans) and a request from a family member is always honored.

[Anonymous]

Nope. This is what motels are for.