S/O: my husband...did not get hot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men can do whatever as long as they make money. Women are judged by looks

Men age like fine wine while women age like milk

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation, but DH finally started to address it. I have to admit, I nagged a bit, which was not very effective.
I think what finally "worked" was that he saw several photos of himself that rendered him unable to deny that he got fat, and he decided to make a change. Not sure if that can help you, but thought I'd share just in case. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar situation, but DH finally started to address it. I have to admit, I nagged a bit, which was not very effective.
I think what finally "worked" was that he saw several photos of himself that rendered him unable to deny that he got fat, and he decided to make a change. Not sure if that can help you, but thought I'd share just in case. Good luck!

Darn. DH actually carries his weight quite well, so he would have to gain *a lot* more weight to look noticeably overweight in a photo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OP is not shallow. Being healthy and fit is a huge part of who I am, who my DH is, and who we are together as a couple. If he got fat, he wouldn't be the same person I married. We work out together. We are active together. We married each other knowing that fitness and health were priorities.

Exactly this. People calling OP shallow are probably heavy themselves or are one of those couple where both are heavy so they don't get it. Being heavy isn't just about the visual, there are things that go along with it that can impact a relationship.