Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

Two friends married (second marriages) in their 60s. Both got married to younger, professional, attractive, thin woman.

A friend got married for the first time when he was 49, to a 27-year-old.

I dated a guy who was 49 and never married. I'm 48 and divorced. I broke it off with him. He needed a 30 year old. He just didn't have the maturity that I needed. In many ways, he was still a kid who makes a lot of money and has unrealistic expectations.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people always post pictures of celebrities when discussing aging? These pictures are taken by professionals, in ideal lighting and then retouched. I feel sorry for you women who try to compare yourselves with these photos. You'll always lose.

I've seen many celebrities in person (media job) and believe me, they don't look anything close to their public photos.

I had a client who was a news anchor and it was amazing how different she looked on tv vs in real life. On tv she was easily a 9, in person she was maybe a 6.

I once saw Cheryl Tiegs in real life. She is a good looking woman but nothing like you see in photo shoots. Like the news anchor, they have lighting, makeup, and certain profiles they use. Also, some people are naturally photogenic.

She always looked really old to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

My guess is fewer women remarry as their financial ability to live alone increases. So today, years later, your mother might not remarry. And in this area, women's expectations run high, they run into a prince shortage, and they stay single.

My mother is dating a guy who is a catch. He would love to get married. She said HELL NO! My parents were married until my dad died and my mom does not want to share her money.

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I'm 45 and I love women in their 50's. They are generally independent and realize that once they hit 60 they will spend a lot of time with cats so they want to have fun. They definitely enjoy spending time with a somewhat younger man who keeps in pretty good shape. And most of the women I know are very energetic sexually.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

I'm 42 y/o and I'd run for the hills unless he has $3+mm cash. 10 years in dementia care at $10K/month plus the adult children's money expectations would mean he has to have serious money left for me. I have a toddler and know a lot of moms my age and older with small kids, so taking care of an elderly spouse, small children, and aging parents would be too much to handle. I also enjoy sex and a 61 y/o man is on his last leg, sorry. There's so much Viagra can do.
Long story short, nope unless super wealthy and almost dead. None of my single 40 something girlfriends dream of men over 50.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

Two friends married (second marriages) in their 60s. Both got married to younger, professional, attractive, thin woman.

A friend got married for the first time when he was 49, to a 27-year-old.

I dated a guy who was 49 and never married. I'm 48 and divorced. I broke it off with him. He needed a 30 year old. He just didn't have the maturity that I needed. In many ways, he was still a kid who makes a lot of money and has unrealistic expectations.

Surprise, Surprise.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

I'm 42 y/o and I'd run for the hills unless he has $3+mm cash. 10 years in dementia care at $10K/month plus the adult children's money expectations would mean he has to have serious money left for me. I have a toddler and know a lot of moms my age and older with small kids, so taking care of an elderly spouse, small children, and aging parents would be too much to handle. I also enjoy sex and a 61 y/o man is on his last leg, sorry. There's so much Viagra can do.
Long story short, nope unless super wealthy and almost dead. None of my single 40 something girlfriends dream of men over 50.

God, this is depressing.

I'm in my mid-forties and SO is in his mid-50s. He's got a bit of a worrying streak and recently me that if something happened to his body, even though he knows I'd still love him he knows he can't take away my sex life, that I should be able to have that with somebody. It was supposed to be kind but made me physically ill. I want him for however long I have him, a week or 40 years. I hope 40 years, and that I don't have to spend too long without him, which would be unbearable. I am so glad he has someone like me and not someone like you.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

I'm 42 y/o and I'd run for the hills unless he has $3+mm cash. 10 years in dementia care at $10K/month plus the adult children's money expectations would mean he has to have serious money left for me. I have a toddler and know a lot of moms my age and older with small kids, so taking care of an elderly spouse, small children, and aging parents would be too much to handle. I also enjoy sex and a 61 y/o man is on his last leg, sorry. There's so much Viagra can do.
Long story short, nope unless super wealthy and almost dead. None of my single 40 something girlfriends dream of men over 50.

I'm 46 and recently dated a guy 20 years my senior. Sexually he definitely wasn't on his last legs and he didn't need any meds. Our relationship was getting very serious but he was the one who broke it off because of the "I'll be 80 and you'll only be 60" problem. He was right but it still hurt to lose him.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

Two friends married (second marriages) in their 60s. Both got married to younger, professional, attractive, thin woman.

A friend got married for the first time when he was 49, to a 27-year-old.

I dated a guy who was 49 and never married. I'm 48 and divorced. I broke it off with him. He needed a 30 year old. He just didn't have the maturity that I needed. In many ways, he was still a kid who makes a lot of money and has unrealistic expectations.

They are only unrealistic if he can't find someone who can make them a reality. Just because you didn't measure up, doesn't mean his expectations can't be met.

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There are absolutely some hot and sexy women in their 50s, but they are far and few between. Attractive men are also relatively rare in their 50s, it should be said.

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61 happily married guy who thinks his 59 yr old wife and tons of other ladies in their 50's are totally awesome!

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I'm 43 and see a lot of women in the 40-50 range that I find attractive. I think it thins out a bit in the 50's, but there are still some hotties out there.

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Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 46 and recently dated a guy 20 years my senior. Sexually he definitely wasn't on his last legs and he didn't need any meds. Our relationship was getting very serious but he was the one who broke it off because of the "I'll be 80 and you'll only be 60" problem. He was right but it still hurt to lose him.

It is hard to see 60F with 80M as a "problem" for either party. At that point you're both probably old and past it.

Seems like 40F and 60M, or definitely 30F and 50M, would be much more of a problem - though a lot depends on whether he has kept up his health and appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

Two friends married (second marriages) in their 60s. Both got married to younger, professional, attractive, thin woman.

A friend got married for the first time when he was 49, to a 27-year-old.

I dated a guy who was 49 and never married. I'm 48 and divorced. I broke it off with him. He needed a 30 year old. He just didn't have the maturity that I needed. In many ways, he was still a kid who makes a lot of money and has unrealistic expectations.

Translation: he could get younger, hotter, tighter and wouldn't commit to my saggy old ass. Sad!