Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

I'm 42 y/o and I'd run for the hills unless he has $3+mm cash. 10 years in dementia care at $10K/month plus the adult children's money expectations would mean he has to have serious money left for me. I have a toddler and know a lot of moms my age and older with small kids, so taking care of an elderly spouse, small children, and aging parents would be too much to handle. I also enjoy sex and a 61 y/o man is on his last leg, sorry. There's so much Viagra can do.
Long story short, nope unless super wealthy and almost dead. None of my single 40 something girlfriends dream of men over 50.

So nice to hear from one of the many Strong Independent Womyn Who Don't Need No Man.

I bet you'd even scoff "she only wants his money" when younger women date older men, when YOU are the one who is all about the money.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

Yes, but how well have you held up? Compared to someone in their 40s of course! Love the double standards you are showing. Of course you are going to say you are attractive and fit and everyone wants to jump you. But, I don't believe you so don't try.

Well enough to have no problem dating women in their 40s. Barely a wrinkle in my face, and just a bit of grey. Unlike most women in their 50s. Sorry, I know how it sounds but I'm just answering the question honestly.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

I know you want to believe that but you are so wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

Yes, but how well have you held up? Compared to someone in their 40s of course! Love the double standards you are showing. Of course you are going to say you are attractive and fit and everyone wants to jump you. But, I don't believe you so don't try.

I am not the PP but at age 50 I am in better shape than I was at 30. Nothing droops, and I have better and stronger muscles and as much stamina. I do have a lot of grey hair now but that is easily fixed.

Then I would make an exception for you. It isn't that I choose 40s as the age I want, I just choose women who haven't fallen apart, or aged beyond their years from, lack of exercise, smoking, etc. They tend to mostly be in their 40s and no, they aren't in it for the money. That's not me.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

Hahaha. What a joke.

What planet do you live on? Uranus?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, the ones who take care of themselves. And at this age, no more BS. They know what they like/want sexually and don't play games.

this. Every "older"man should be terrified to mess with a millineal. Just read the Aziz Ansari story for a remind of how clueless some of these 20 something ladies are.

+1

This is one advantage of an "older" woman. You don't have to worry about the pillow talk sounding like the comments section of Jezebel.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

I'm 42 y/o and I'd run for the hills unless he has $3+mm cash. 10 years in dementia care at $10K/month plus the adult children's money expectations would mean he has to have serious money left for me. I have a toddler and know a lot of moms my age and older with small kids, so taking care of an elderly spouse, small children, and aging parents would be too much to handle. I also enjoy sex and a 61 y/o man is on his last leg, sorry. There's so much Viagra can do.
Long story short, nope unless super wealthy and almost dead. None of my single 40 something girlfriends dream of men over 50.

So nice to hear from one of the many Strong Independent Womyn Who Don't Need No Man.

I bet you'd even scoff "she only wants his money" when younger women date older men, when YOU are the one who is all about the money.

Old guys (or any guys, really) aren't usually chasing women with small kids -- unless he has small kids too.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

Two friends married (second marriages) in their 60s. Both got married to younger, professional, attractive, thin woman.

A friend got married for the first time when he was 49, to a 27-year-old.

I dated a guy who was 49 and never married. I'm 48 and divorced. I broke it off with him. He needed a 30 year old. He just didn't have the maturity that I needed. In many ways, he was still a kid who makes a lot of money and has unrealistic expectations.

Translation: he could get younger, hotter, tighter and wouldn't commit to my saggy old ass. Sad!

Harsh, but the reality is that his expectations are only unrealistic if they cannot be met.

I might think that a woman is being unrealistic if she is only willing to marry billionaires. But if her name Rihanna, it's not unrealistic at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

I thought at 49 my wife was done with sex. Turns out she was just done with sex with me, which I learned when I caught her cheating...

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I'm a 47 year old woman highly enthusiastic about sex, and I'm dating a chisel-jawed, smart as a whip 62 year old man who has no problems keeping up.

Outcomes are individual.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

Why would you assume that? Is it based on what your read on DCUM? If that's the case, you should rethink. If a woman (or man) enjoyed sex in their 20s-30s, why would they not enjoy it at older ages? I'm a 50+ DW with a regular sex life. DH and I certainly aren't going at it like we used to but we still love each other, find each other attractive and are still sexual beings. We have less PIV sex than we used to but that's because DH has some medical challenges.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

Nope. 47 married female. I'd like it more if DH were in shape and better in bed. I enjoy getting myself off a couple of times a week.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

Why would you assume that? Is it based on what your read on DCUM? If that's the case, you should rethink. If a woman (or man) enjoyed sex in their 20s-30s, why would they not enjoy it at older ages? I'm a 50+ DW with a regular sex life. DH and I certainly aren't going at it like we used to but we still love each other, find each other attractive and are still sexual beings. We have less PIV sex than we used to but that's because DH has some medical challenges.

I'm just like you. My DH and I still love sex and we are both 55+. PIV can be a challenge for me at times but there are many ways to have sex that lead to the same result. My DH has no complaints!

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

I know you want to believe that but you are so wrong.

Really? Well since this is an anonymous forum I suppose you could lie and tell me some story that "proves" me wrong. As I said, I'm 47.. I have many female friends who are my age and no way would they date a 60 yr old who weren't either #1 or #2, and none of my friends are that desperate.