I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
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Anonymous
Great job of telling OP what she wants to hear. She doesn't seem to have a plan for "gracefully letting it go." That's what many posters on here are saying. Her freakout over his not making his trip does not indicate that she is a person who is going to walk away with mature acceptance if he rejects her after she's made her grand gesture. |
Anonymous
cinematic in a stalker kind of way. personally, i'd be super-freaked out if an ex showed up on my doorstep and declared love. that person would be demonstrating their disconnection from reality to me. Also, as the ex of a person with undiagnosed bipolar, I feel like that kind of move reeks of hypomania. |
Anonymous
| Are you the girl from the Southwest commercial? Seat 26B? |
Anonymous
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You sound like a stalker, OP. if you were a man DCUM would counsel your SO to get a restraining order.
It doesn't sound like you deal with being in a relationship any better than you are dealing with this breakup, so perhaps you should stay home and work on yourself instead of continuing the pattern of instability. |
Anonymous
| good luck OP I would be flattered if someone did this |
Anonymous
| the key here is that you dated only 4 months after meeting online. it sounds like your emotions got out of the way. your relationship does not justify this kind of grand gestures. if you were best friends your whole life and then realized you were in love when he was about to start dating someone else... maybe. but in reality you are just one of many women he is going to meet online. you think you are prepared for hurt but there is a whole other level of hurt if you do this. |
Anonymous
| Don't do it. Have some dignity. He blocked you. Find someone who won't run away from you. |
Anonymous
Yup, this. And OP showing up on his doorstep will reinforce that belief, not do anything to make him change his mind. And given that her showing up is in direct contravention to his wishes (he blocked her, and doesn't want any communication), the notion that she'll just leave if he doesn't want to see her is laughable. He has made clear he doesn't want to see her, and she's flying across the country! That said, OP, if you are determined to do this, the only chance you have is to show up wearing a trench coat and nothing else. And even then, you're just prolonging the inevitable. |
Anonymous
If you blocked someone because they went Batshit Crazy, you would be flattered if they flew across the country and was standing on your doorstep first thing in the morning? |
Anonymous
| Don't wear a trench coat. given your behavior I'd assume you have some sort of weapon under it and call the police. Really, your behavior is frightening. |
Anonymous
No way. This is some scary, stalker crap! Not healthy relationship material. OP walk away from the drama and the Rom com playing in your head. I'm sorry this is the first time you got dumped. Yes it sucks big time. But this is NOT the way to handle it. Cry, eat ice cream, talk to your girlfriends, etc but do not! Act. Like. A. Psycho. |
Anonymous
| Don't do it. It won't work, you will look crazy. Save the money and go buy something fabulous or do a spa day. |
Anonymous
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I learned in my early 20's that life is not like in the movies. Things that are portrayed as romantic are sometimes creepy and misguided in real life.
I predict that the guy will sleep with you and dump you afterwards. |
Anonymous
| I would be funny if his girlfriend answers the door. |
Anonymous
this! OP, what are you going to do if there is another woman at his place? |