Is this the norm for divorced 30 something women?

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Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.

Super nasty. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.

Said the bitter 48 year old man who hasn't been laid for five years because he's chasing twenty-somethings so he try to make his exW jealous. It's not like YOU actually make enough to send your exW a huge alimony payment.

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I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

Complete bullshit. I do all that stuff and I've never needed a woman living in my home to do them.

Stop asking like you deserve credit for doing your wifely JOB. Don't like it, find some other host to attach to like a parasite.

[Anonymous]

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Said the bitter 48 year old man who hasn't been laid for five years because he's chasing twenty-somethings so he try to make his exW jealous. It's not like YOU actually make enough to send your exW a huge alimony payment.

My sex life is excellent, I date a variety of ages and they are all excellent women and great experiences. I'm smart and financially savvy secure enough to live a good life in DC and I'm not going to risk it on entitled, lazy, money-grabbing skanks like yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

Complete bullshit. I do all that stuff and I've never needed a woman living in my home to do them.

Stop asking like you deserve credit for doing your wifely JOB. Don't like it, find some other host to attach to like a parasite.

Yikes. What happened to you that made you this way?

[Anonymous]

Good thing people actually research this stuff.

Yes, men are more likely to remarry. But substantially more women report they don't want to remarry. The gap is closing, though.

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/

This makes sense to me. A substantial body of research shows marriage increases women's domestic labor and decreases men. Andecodtally a lot of women exit marriages because they are tired of being the "default parent." So it makes total sense that a good chunk of women would not want to go right back into that dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Nobody ever says "hey daddy, thanks for paying the rent and buying the groceries and paying the electricity bill this month!"

[Anonymous]

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This makes sense to me. A substantial body of research shows marriage increases women's domestic labor and decreases men. Andecodtally a lot of women exit marriages because they are tired of being the "default parent." So it makes total sense that a good chunk of women would not want to go right back into that dynamic.

Complete garbage. It's for no other reason than women usually get payouts in divorces and they have reduced financial incentive to remarry. It's not for any domestic clap trap voodoo bullshit you want to believe it to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has nothing to do with that, honest!")

Aren't you guilty of doing the exact same thing you just accused the pp of doing??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

+1. Men really have a hard time being alone after having been married or in a long term relationship. If my husband and I got divorced he'd probably be in a relationship right away. Being married to my husband has been so challenging that I don't think I'll ever marry again. I'm sure many women say this but I don't even think I would date.

I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

I agree with everything you wrote. I divorced two years ago and for the reasons you listed have little to no desire to be in a relationship, let alone marry. My ex on the other hand has been in countless post marriage relationships in an attempt to recapture everything that he lost. He has a hard time being alone and I suspect that he willremarry soon enough. May the peace of the Lord be with her...

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here, here's the thread for context. Right down to the Steve in SATC reference.


https://gomiblog.com/forums/mommy-bloggers/designer-bags-and-dirty-diapers/page-427

Op you don't know those people, why are you bringing it to DCUM pretending these are real acquaintances of yours?

This is awesome

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

Complete bullshit. I do all that stuff and I've never needed a woman living in my home to do them.

Stop asking like you deserve credit for doing your wifely JOB. Don't like it, find some other host to attach to like a parasite.

Yikes. What happened to you that made you this way?

Seriously. I can't even bring myself to write a response to the strange angry guy who showed up on the last page or so of this thread...I honestly just feel kind of bad for him, he does not seem like he's in a good place. Please seek out the intensive therapy you are desperately overdue for...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.

First, men with means are a minority. An average forty something divorced guy makes average money, has average body and average intelligence. Second, alimony is rarely awards these days. Third, all premarital assets are protected from marital splits. You should know these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good thing people actually research this stuff.

Yes, men are more likely to remarry. But substantially more women report they don't want to remarry. The gap is closing, though.

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/

This makes sense to me. A substantial body of research shows marriage increases women's domestic labor and decreases men. Andecodtally a lot of women exit marriages because they are tired of being the "default parent." So it makes total sense that a good chunk of women would not want to go right back into that dynamic.

Nice, good find! This substantiates what everyone (well, everyone except for Crazy, Bitter Rambling Dude) here is saying and makes total sense.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:FYI the blogger OP is using as model for this "friend" is Natalie of Designer bags and Dirty Diapers. Split with lawyer husband last year, had rampant spending issues she's admitted to and still exhibits, and is somehow still a SAH divorcee.

Huh? This makes no sense. Who is this person and why do you care?

You keep posting the same thing over and over. Are you Natalie?

No. I read the Goni blog earlier today. Came here and saw this thread- it's clearly based on Natalie. Op is pretending to know her to present her story here and gather DCUM opinions about it. If you know of the blogger or read even the last 2 pages of the GOMI thread about Natalie it is crystal clear. It's totally weird OP dragged it here like she knows this person IRL!

Maybe she does? People post on here from all over the country.

Do you know this Natalie? Because I went to the link you posted and that thread and that web site is...messed up. It's really weird. I'm having a hard time deciding who is more pathetic - this Natalie who evidently wants to stay a SAHM even though she is divorcing or you all for dragging her on the Internet when you don't know her.

No I don't know her! I follow her on ig and found her gomi thread years ago after she mentioned her massive spending issues and still read it from time to time. I had literally just read it before coming over here and seeing this thread which is how I immediately knew that's who OP was talking about. The "we just found out he has a girlfriend, it's like Steve from SATC" was written on that thread too. Is it possible op happens to know a random blogger from Charleston enough to post about her here? Sure but it's way more likely she just follows her.

Whether GOMI as a site is messed up is another point entirely. I don't comment there, just read about a few people I follow on SM.