Is this the norm for divorced 30 something women?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute. She has 2 kids and is divorcing because her husband can't afford for her to SAH? Does she think having 2 households is going to make the money issues better? Wow, just wow.

No they're divorcing because they always fought about money and that led to a breakdown in the relationship. It's somewhat mutual but rimarilybinstigated by him and she didn't fight it. (Fwiw I used to think that if she promised to stop spending, he would try again - I guess not now though).

OK maybe I'm alone here but it seems like you are definitely the wife.

And if you are you need to back the eff off and make your own money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my mid 30s with 2 young kids. Divorced due to husband cheating and walking out the door. No idea what his relationship status is though we are very friendly. We do not discuss it. My divorce was finalized in March. 3 months later I met my current boyfriend. He is late 30s, one kid and sexy as hell. We're totally falling for each other. It may flame out as quickly as it started, but I think there is a good chance we'll get married. He has not yet met my kids and will not for a long time.

Anyway. You never know.

I'm 31, two young kids, just left my husband due to his alcoholism and cheating. I hope it's not all bullshit in my future. Your post gives me hope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute. She has 2 kids and is divorcing because her husband can't afford for her to SAH? Does she think having 2 households is going to make the money issues better? Wow, just wow.

No they're divorcing because they always fought about money and that led to a breakdown in the relationship. It's somewhat mutual but rimarilybinstigated by him and she didn't fight it. (Fwiw I used to think that if she promised to stop spending, he would try again - I guess not now though).

OK maybe I'm alone here but it seems like you are definitely the wife.

And if you are you need to back the eff off and make your own money.

She's not the wife or any party to any of this . I already posted that she is posting about a blogger who has a thread on GOMI. If you know the blogger and follow the thread I linked it's blatantly obvious. She is pretending she has a friend with the circumstances of divorce GOMI speculates this blogger has. Seriously, within the last day it was posted the ex has a girlfriend and the Steve and Miranda analogy was used. Just like OP claims about her "friend."

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Through observation and personal experience, I believe that women are more accepting of "life happens" than men when it comes to starting relationships with divorcees or people with kids. Most guys are still chasing their idea of perfection, which often doesn't involve an ex-husband or stepchildren. I also think that women are more realistic and accepting of the physical signs of aging than men. Throw all of that together and it's easier I think for divorced men to go from relationship to relationship. It may not lead to anything substantive, but it happens. Your friend doesn't sound like she has much of a shot with a guy unless she gets herself together. This isn't back in the day when a man might consider taking in a widow with kids who'll help around the house while he tills the land. You can't really start a relationship expecting to be a SAHM when the kids aren't his.

[Anonymous]

FYI the blogger OP is using as model for this "friend" is Natalie of Designer bags and Dirty Diapers. Split with lawyer husband last year, had rampant spending issues she's admitted to and still exhibits, and is somehow still a SAH divorcee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FYI the blogger OP is using as model for this "friend" is Natalie of Designer bags and Dirty Diapers. Split with lawyer husband last year, had rampant spending issues she's admitted to and still exhibits, and is somehow still a SAH divorcee.

Huh? This makes no sense. Who is this person and why do you care?

You keep posting the same thing over and over. Are you Natalie?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FYI the blogger OP is using as model for this "friend" is Natalie of Designer bags and Dirty Diapers. Split with lawyer husband last year, had rampant spending issues she's admitted to and still exhibits, and is somehow still a SAH divorcee.

Huh? This makes no sense. Who is this person and why do you care?

You keep posting the same thing over and over. Are you Natalie?

No. I read the Goni blog earlier today. Came here and saw this thread- it's clearly based on Natalie. Op is pretending to know her to present her story here and gather DCUM opinions about it. If you know of the blogger or read even the last 2 pages of the GOMI thread about Natalie it is crystal clear. It's totally weird OP dragged it here like she knows this person IRL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI the blogger OP is using as model for this "friend" is Natalie of Designer bags and Dirty Diapers. Split with lawyer husband last year, had rampant spending issues she's admitted to and still exhibits, and is somehow still a SAH divorcee.

Huh? This makes no sense. Who is this person and why do you care?

You keep posting the same thing over and over. Are you Natalie?

No. I read the Goni blog earlier today. Came here and saw this thread- it's clearly based on Natalie. Op is pretending to know her to present her story here and gather DCUM opinions about it. If you know of the blogger or read even the last 2 pages of the GOMI thread about Natalie it is crystal clear. It's totally weird OP dragged it here like she knows this person IRL!

Maybe she does? People post on here from all over the country.

Do you know this Natalie? Because I went to the link you posted and that thread and that web site is...messed up. It's really weird. I'm having a hard time deciding who is more pathetic - this Natalie who evidently wants to stay a SAHM even though she is divorcing or you all for dragging her on the Internet when you don't know her.

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i'm a NP and know her from many years ago. I am just glad I'm not the only person in the DC area who ever looks at her blog. it sounds like a screwed up situation for her and her family. i only wish her the best personally, but she was pretty um unique when i knew her too.

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

+1. Men really have a hard time being alone after having been married or in a long term relationship. If my husband and I got divorced he'd probably be in a relationship right away. Being married to my husband has been so challenging that I don't think I'll ever marry again. I'm sure many women say this but I don't even think I would date.

I think about I bring to the relationship and it makes sense why men marry again quickly. We plan their social lives, plan family events, have their children, decorate their homes, plan vacations, send thank you notes, schedule the cleaning ladies and home maintenance, buy the children clothing and sign them up for school and activities, buy birthday gifts, plan parties... I could go on! It's not like I need to marry again to find someone to do this stuff because I already do it and I'm not interested in doing it again for another guy. On top of working full time.

Yes. This is exactly it

+2

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Why doesn't this woman get a job? My god how lazy can you be. What a sad example for her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(she's a spender, he's a saver, she wanted to be a SAHM, he wasn't making enough to support the lifestyle she wanted, etc. etc.

Lucky him, what a worthless piece of shit she was.

Your cavalier attitude toward marriage is why men should never get married. It's like you completely ignore the "until death do us part"...part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why doesn't this woman get a job? My god how lazy can you be. What a sad example for her kids.

Women are the most selfish people on the face of the earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc.

You must be joking. The REAL reason many divorced women have a "hell no" attitude toward marrying again is because they got a huge alimony payment, a house, or some other type of large financial settlement and they don't want to risk either the alimony or losing a large chuck of that "nest egg" in another divorce. It's not because of any bullshit about not wanting to be a "thankless caretaker."

Face facts, divorced men are of much higher value than divorced women. Men age like wine while women age like milk. No man with means wants to have to blow dust off your vagina before having sex with you.

Get real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here, here's the thread for context. Right down to the Steve in SATC reference.


https://gomiblog.com/forums/mommy-bloggers/designer-bags-and-dirty-diapers/page-427

Op you don't know those people, why are you bringing it to DCUM pretending these are real acquaintances of yours?

Bizarre site.