Is this the norm for divorced 30 something women?

[Anonymous]

Are you implying he's doing something wrong and is some kind of loser bc she was spending money he earned and decided there wasn't enough of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

This is what I've seen time and time again with my divorced friends also.

[Anonymous]

Asking for a friend ... sure.

They broke up over pretty artificial reasons. She is basically a gold digger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

This is what I've seen time and time again with my divorced friends also.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Wait a minute. She has 2 kids and is divorcing because her husband can't afford for her to SAH? Does she think having 2 households is going to make the money issues better? Wow, just wow.

I thought this too-cutting off your nose to spite your face. But in this case, there are also children involved. I think its incredibly selfish to divorce because your spouse doesn't make enough money *for your expensive tastes* but otherwise things are good when you have kids. a woman in her 30s with 2 kids and no career and who doesn't want to work but wants a rich guy to support her? well, good luck.

exactly.

[Anonymous]

They're not even divorced yet and he has a girlfriend? Any self-respecting woman would never go for that. Tell her to take her time and focus on taking care of her children. They both sound selfish. She needs to give up her dream of being a SAHM for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has nothing to do with that, honest!")

What? No not at all, I have no horse in this race. Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc. Men tend to be more codependent, and jump into their next relationships - they don't like being alone. I'm 30, this isn't about me or the narrative I want - it's from firsthand observation of the round of my parents' friends / family friends who went through this at that age

Siked? Do you mean psyched?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend who likes to spend but doesn't want to work isn't sounding like a prize to me.

+1. Pretty sure this is going to impact her ability to date in addition to her expensive tastes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has nothing to do with that, honest!")

What? No not at all, I have no horse in this race. Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc. Men tend to be more codependent, and jump into their next relationships - they don't like being alone. I'm 30, this isn't about me or the narrative I want - it's from firsthand observation of the round of my parents' friends / family friends who went through this at that age

Siked? Do you mean psyched?

Yes, same thing. Siked is a oft-used (and yes, unofficial / slang) synonym, but same meaning. Although I feel like you probably should have been able to glean that from context clues, no?

[Anonymous]

You don't know this person, you're talking about Designer Bags and Dirty Diapers Natalie. This entire thing is cribbed from the GOMI thread I JUST read. Lol @ you!

[Anonymous]

Pp here, here's the thread for context. Right down to the Steve in SATC reference.


https://gomiblog.com/forums/mommy-bloggers/designer-bags-and-dirty-diapers/page-427

Op you don't know those people, why are you bringing it to DCUM pretending these are real acquaintances of yours?

[Anonymous]

I'm in my mid 30s with 2 young kids. Divorced due to husband cheating and walking out the door. No idea what his relationship status is though we are very friendly. We do not discuss it. My divorce was finalized in March. 3 months later I met my current boyfriend. He is late 30s, one kid and sexy as hell. We're totally falling for each other. It may flame out as quickly as it started, but I think there is a good chance we'll get married. He has not yet met my kids and will not for a long time.

Anyway. You never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has nothing to do with that, honest!")

What? No not at all, I have no horse in this race. Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc. Men tend to be more codependent, and jump into their next relationships - they don't like being alone. I'm 30, this isn't about me or the narrative I want - it's from firsthand observation of the round of my parents' friends / family friends who went through this at that age

Siked? Do you mean psyched?

Yes, same thing. Siked is a oft-used (and yes, unofficial / slang) synonym, but same meaning. Although I feel like you probably should have been able to glean that from context clues, no?

Do you always say this when you misspell something?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=siked

Urban dictionary definition:

siked: A poor misspelling of "psyched".
Created by a nation of slack-ass, unintelligent teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has nothing to do with that, honest!")

What? No not at all, I have no horse in this race. Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc. Men tend to be more codependent, and jump into their next relationships - they don't like being alone. I'm 30, this isn't about me or the narrative I want - it's from firsthand observation of the round of my parents' friends / family friends who went through this at that age

Siked? Do you mean psyched?

Yes, same thing. Siked is a oft-used (and yes, unofficial / slang) synonym, but same meaning. Although I feel like you probably should have been able to glean that from context clues, no?

Do you always say this when you misspell something?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=siked

Urban dictionary definition:

siked: A poor misspelling of "psyched".
Created by a nation of slack-ass, unintelligent teenagers.

Lolll thank you for quoting urban dictionary to me. For real, thank you for taking the time to research, copy, and paste that here; now, I would kindly suggest that you get a life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.

This is what I've seen time and time again with my divorced friends also.

Ok, men want relationships, or something, and women want to be left alone to the extent they can swing it financially. Be honest about wanting to be left alone.