2 months and still no sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me, the point of making my now-spouse wait for PIV is that letting someone physically into that intimate part of your body is a big deal. At least it was to me.
Oral is not more intimate to me--I put food in my mouth. I talk to people with my mouth. I cannot get pregnant through oral sex.

+1

Also you are literally letting someone into your body with PIV sex. It’s much more intimate.

I think Tom Ford was right when he said all straight men should be penetrated so that they can know how vulnerable sex feels

Not sure how you perform a BJ without out "literally letting someone into your body".
Basically it's the same penetration, just a different orifice.

She's doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've hardly dated this woman. You've already had oral sex. And you're upset that she is waiting awhile before having PIV sex?

Grow up. Seriously. It is a big deal to let another person's body into your body.

Yeah right. That's why it's impossible to go to a bar on a weekend and pick up a woman for a same-night one-night stand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want a long-term relationship with her?

Can you see yourself potentially marrying her down the line?

Op here. Yes, I do want a serious relationship. I don't know her well enough yet to decide if I would marry her, but I do see potential for marriage. She's has many amazing qualities that I am looking for in a long-term partner.

Wake up, sucker. If she were attracted to you, she would have had sex with you already.

You're planning the marriage. She's planning to have sex with Chad Thundercock this weekend.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read 5 pages of replies. But you are having oral, so that counts. In the meantime, why not date others and have sex with others. She can't really claim exclusivity if you aren't having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read 5 pages of replies. But you are having oral, so that counts. In the meantime, why not date others and have sex with others. She can't really claim exclusivity if you aren't having sex.

+1

I'm a DW who married one of these. Hang ups galore. Run.

[Anonymous]

OP, I've been the female in this situation a few times.

I have slept with guys on the first date, but it's rare. I have waited months to sleep with someone but that's rare too. Typically I'm having sex somewhere after about a month of twice-a-week dates so I feel like I know the person and it's going somewhere real. I've had enough sex in my life that I don't see the point of meaningless hookups.

A few questions for you:
1 - are you sure she's "into" you and not using you for some reason? is she definitely exclusive with you?
2 - is she attracted to you? Sometimes I've waited because i wasn't all that attracted to the guy, and unfortunately that didn't change over time.
3 - are you "available" to her? I've held off with a couple of guys because I felt like they were distant and not really into me and I figured, "why sleep with someone who is 'meh' on me?"

If the answers to these questions are yes, try to hang in there. Delayed gratification can make for amazing sex later on. (I eventually slept with a guy from scenario 3 and it was f*cking fantastic. And I was even more hurt when it still didn't work out afterward, but oh well.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. She doesn't have herpes. We have had oral sex on two occasions and she is clean. She told me in the beginning the reason for this is because her ex used her for sex, and her moving too fast in the beginning caused some of relationship to turn into a casual sex one. She is 28 and looking for more of a serious relationship.

This means that she is waiting because she wants things to work out with you and sees serious relationship potential. Ignore he posters telling you to sleep with other people if you feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

I didnt read all pages but let me ask you a simple question:

'Do you think she would need emotional connection with a guy like Ronaldo or Brad Pitt.... you got an idea... before having sex?'

the answer is clear.

Dump her now. Shes already manipulating you, and making you jumping through her hoops and it will only get worse. More than half of earth population has a vagina, what makes her think she has a golden one? move on. i mean it! Start respecting yourself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been dating this woman for two months without sex and I am starting to go crazy. She is an amazing catch and everything I could want in woman, but no se is getting to me. She isn't a virgin but said she wanted a real connection, and wanted to build am emotional connection before starting a physical one. I really like her and respect her choice, but it's getting tough. We have been on probably 10 dates and a couple if causal hangouts. She drives me wild and I spend the whole time wanting to rip her clothes off. I want to bring up becoming physical but I don't want to be pushy or make her uncomfortable. How can I respectfully bring up it up?

She's getting railed by some Chad bartender. Start ignoring her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me, the point of making my now-spouse wait for PIV is that letting someone physically into that intimate part of your body is a big deal. At least it was to me.
Oral is not more intimate to me--I put food in my mouth. I talk to people with my mouth. I cannot get pregnant through oral sex.

+1

Also you are literally letting someone into your body with PIV sex. It’s much more intimate.

I think Tom Ford was right when he said all straight men should be penetrated so that they can know how vulnerable sex feels

Not sure how you perform a BJ without out "literally letting someone into your body".
Basically it's the same penetration, just a different orifice.

If you can't tell the difference between a mouth and a vagina, and the magnitude of that, then I can't really help you.

[Anonymous]

She might not have herpes but if you go to the Health and Medicine forum here you will see that there is a whole host of other possible female issues that could cause her to wait awhile to invite a guy to visit that part of her body. Like, maybe she's waiting for her Thrombosed Hemmorhoid to burst? Or her Bartholin's Cyst/Abcess to resolve? She could have an Ingrown Hair on her Bikini Line or maybe even had her Vaj Rejuvenated!

All of these conditions, and others, could give a lady pause when it comes to welcoming a new sex partner.

[Anonymous]

Lesson for life I learned.
If a woman likes you, one week into it and you will have to hide from her so she doesn't f##%you.
You are wasting your time, she is just playing with you, testing you and eventually will dump your ass.

Women libido is as high as ours. Remember that your whole life kiddo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesson for life I learned.
If a woman likes you, one week into it and you will have to hide from her so she doesn't f##%you.
You are wasting your time, she is just playing with you, testing you and eventually will dump your ass.

Women libido is as high as ours. Remember that your whole life kiddo.

Nope. If anything, with men I really like, I am more cautious sexually because I don't want them to think ill of me and also I know I have more feelings for them so sleeping with them and getting dumped would be more difficult to deal with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. She doesn't have herpes. We have had oral sex on two occasions and she is clean. She told me in the beginning the reason for this is because her ex used her for sex, and her moving too fast in the beginning caused some of relationship to turn into a casual sex one. She is 28 and looking for more of a serious relationship.

This means that she is waiting because she wants things to work out with you and sees serious relationship potential. Ignore he posters telling you to sleep with other people if you feel the same way.

For "serious relationship potential" it means waiting for sex?
Versus just a hookup in which you have sex without the waiting?
Right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. She doesn't have herpes. We have had oral sex on two occasions and she is clean. She told me in the beginning the reason for this is because her ex used her for sex, and her movinag too fast in the beginning caused some of relationship to turn into a casual sex one. She is 28 and looking for more of a serious relationship.

This means that she is waiting because she wants things to work out with you and sees serious relationship potential. Ignore he posters telling you to sleep with other people if you feel the same way.

For "serious relationship potential" it means waiting for sex?
Versus just a hookup in which you have sex without the waiting?
Right.

NP. Huh? Are you just restating what the PP said and putting question marks after it?