I can respect her desire to want to make sure there's a connection before sex, but I'm also leery of people who effectively punish their current significant others over something done by their exes. |
Not everyone hops in the sack that quickly. Two months is how many dates? 10 or fewer? If I want to get off, I take care of it myself while I'm figuring out who this guy is. So can he, BTW. I have to trust him to the point where my own body insecurities don't matter to me at all. If I'm not there yet I can't enjoy it. I feel like I'm just a blow up doll who's just along for him to get off. |
Is she at least giving you BJ's? |
Is she at least giving you BJ's? |
Exactly. |
Completely agree |
If she's worth it, like you said in your OP, you wait it out. She told you why she's waiting and it's obviously something she feels strongly about. you're going to screw this up if you give her the "I have needs" talk. It's only been two months and she's still hooking up in pretty major ways with you while waiting so it's not like she's totally withholding. |
If she's already weaponizing sex in the relationship, it's just going to get worse. |
Aw, someone who doesn't know what the word "weaponizing" means. |
Who says she isn't? |
I'm surprised that oral sex means no sex to you. |
Just admit you want to try her out , OP and see if she's any good.
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+1 Apparently "no sex" means "we had sex twice" |
I don't consider that nothing, OP. I atually think that's a pretty fair balance of things considering where you are in your relationship. I don't think your conversation is a good idea, or maybe it is so she can see you are not so different from her ex. You aren't really respecting her boundaries at all, she's shown you what she's willing to give right now, if she were ready for more you wouldn't have to try any moves, she'd let you know. Yet you keep pushing. You aren't as much of a gentleman as you seem to think you are Also you don't get a medal for not pushing her when she says no further. That's what you're supposed to do. |
So you've had oral sex with her on 2 occasions?
OP, is your name Bill Clinton by any chance??? |