2 months and still no sex?

[Anonymous]

Somebody else is tapping her on the reg

[Anonymous]

If there is no emotional connection after two months and ten dates the odds aren't good that there will ever be one. If you haven't been able to make the sale after ten attempts why will more dates do it for you? Yes, it takes time for an emotional connection to develop but two months and ten dates is pushing the limit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you physically affectionate in other ways? Do you tell her how attracted you are to her? No reason you can't show interest while respecting her wishes.

Op here. We are very affectionate with kissing, holding hands, cuddling, and some oral sex. I have made moved to go further but she stops me or says no. Obviously will not push her once she says no. I am going to have a talk to her tonight on whee this is headed and the level of intimacy I need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there is no emotional connection after two months and ten dates the odds aren't good that there will ever be one. If you haven't been able to make the sale after ten attempts why will more dates do it for you? Yes, it takes time for an emotional connection to develop but two months and ten dates is pushing the limit.

Op here. There is an emotional connection. She's just been through a cheaply relationship where she felt all he wanted was sex, and then times whee she more to fast and it resulted in a sexual relationship. I know she's into me as much as I'm into her.

[Anonymous]

Have a conversation. Acknowledge the you know she's into you as much as you're into her stuff.

As a younger woman dating? for me I do want to keep my number of partners low. It matters to me. At the same time sex is a very important part of relationships. Maybe finding out more about why she's holding off and what specifically she is waiting for would help you. What are the signs she's looking for to feel right about having sex? Also exactly what she's afraid of if you do have sex and things end. Maybe you can reason with her on that.

Tell her how you feel and keep the conversation open.

[Anonymous]

She probably has herpes. Not kidding. People with herpes agonize over who and when to tell. I think some wait and hope the emotional love connection will develop and be strong enough that when they drop the bomb it will not be a deal breaker. If one does have herpes, the only moral and right thing to do is not have sex until you tell someone, but obviously that is scary as hell.

[Anonymous]

Are you dating the "12 dates" woman from the "good girls" thread? If so, hang in there. Just two more dates!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been dating this woman for two months without sex and I am starting to go crazy. She is an amazing catch and everything I could want in woman, but no se is getting to me. She isn't a virgin but said she wanted a real connection, and wanted to build am emotional connection before starting a physical one. I really like her and respect her choice, but it's getting tough. We have been on probably 10 dates and a couple if causal hangouts. She drives me wild and I spend the whole time wanting to rip her clothes off. I want to bring up becoming physical but I don't want to be pushy or make her uncomfortable. How can I respectfully bring up it up?

Time for "the talk". Let her know how you feel and that you are ready to move forward. If she doesn't feel that "real connection" by now, odds are, it's not coming. Lay it on the line. Hopefully, she gives the answer you are looking for. If she's not ready, it's time to move on. You are her safety net.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to be this pushy for sex, then please let this jewel of a woman go now. You don't deserve her.

This pushy? 2 month and 10+ dates? I would have been gone 5 dates ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to be this pushy for sex, then please let this jewel of a woman go now. You don't deserve her.

This pushy? 2 month and 10+ dates? I would have been gone 5 dates ago.

See? You don't want to be a desperate pushy loser OP. Learn from this example

[Anonymous]

Op here. She doesn't have herpes. We have had oral sex on two occasions and she is clean. She told me in the beginning the reason for this is because her ex used her for sex, and her moving too fast in the beginning caused some of relationship to turn into a casual sex one. She is 28 and looking for more of a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

I hope you are right about the herpes, but you do know that you can't tell by looking right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you physically affectionate in other ways? Do you tell her how attracted you are to her? No reason you can't show interest while respecting her wishes.

Op here. We are very affectionate with kissing, holding hands, cuddling, and some oral sex. I have made moved to go further but she stops me or says no. Obviously will not push her once she says no. I am going to have a talk to her tonight on whee this is headed and the level of intimacy I need.

Heck, just enjoy the oral sex until she comes around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. She doesn't have herpes. We have had oral sex on two occasions and she is clean. She told me in the beginning the reason for this is because her ex used her for sex, and her moving too fast in the beginning caused some of relationship to turn into a casual sex one. She is 28 and looking for more of a serious relationship.

She can obviously do whatever she wants, but there is such a thing as a happy medium between being "too easy" and dragging things out for months.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she shouldn't date at all and do some therapy to heal from her past relationship. She wants an emotional connection first but is willing to do oral now? Makes no sense to me.