If you have two children of the same gender, how did you stop wanting the other gender?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am pregnant after YEARS of infertility and I REALLY want a boy - more like I REALLY wouldn't like to have a girl (I won't say "don't want" but strongly prefer a boy). My last one was a girl and I was SURE it was a boy - found out after the m/c. I have a feeling this one is a girl as well but I don't look forward for the "pink" stuff because I know one day, when she is grown up she will probably dislike me and come to a board like this to bad mouth me.

Honestly, I don't know ONE woman that doesn't have some kind of problem with her mother - and I think it is natural since women are so competitive. Some are more serious than others but still, there is always some level of complain and ungratefulness or self entailment.

Those are my reason to prefer a boy - at least for now. I would like to have a girl someday but if it doesn't happen I don’t' think I will mourn over it.

Honestly I just pray to have healthy child/ren.

Really? Wow, that's so sad. And strange. I have a close relationship with my mother. Most of my friends have close relationships with their mothers too. I feel so sorry for the ones who don't - missing out on the mother-daughter bond is missing out on one of the greatest gifts of the human experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:envision not having any more kids at all. Then you can have a better grip on the children you have and can have.

It is absolutely okay for people to take a few minutes and mourn what isn't to be. Most will do this and move on.

What is not okay is for you to make them feel bad or wrong about it.

People are human. You can be frustrated or sad about something for moments of a lifetime, and still be thankful and grateful. How about showing a little tolerance?

Not that poster - but I think the point is many of these posters have not mourned for only "a few minutes" and "moved on."

There are children's emotions at sake here. I get that posters are disappointed and can't help it, but it's time for them to take accountability and get appropriate help in dealing with it.

I understand, but the OP is ready to move on. Did you read this post by her on page 4? I am just tired of people coming on to different threads and dissing people's concerns simply because they can't share them.

"OP here. I didn't mean to start a "sad" topic. I was looking for some guidance on how to, well, move on. I believe in fate and I believe that I was meant to raise two boys (although I don't know why yet). Regardless, I would not change this path had I been given the choice. I won't apologize for feeling how I feel and while I will miss not having a girl, I will never, ever regret having two sons. The thing I appreciate, aside from having healthy children, is that my boys will be brothers.

For those of you that found my inquiry appalling, I love DS1 and my life with him more than life itself. We were at a community concert tonight and DH had scooped DS in his arms so they could dance together. DS was giggling uncontrollably and beaming from ear to ear. At that moment, I looked at his beautiful face and thought about how perfect he is... I also thought about how much I couldn't wait to dance with my unborn son next summer.

For those that could connect with me, I found a great article while surfing the web today: http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/fetal_developmen...ercoming-gender-disappointment

And yes, I've already learned that dinosaurs are really cool. "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:envision not having any more kids at all. Then you can have a better grip on the children you have and can have.

It is absolutely okay for people to take a few minutes and mourn what isn't to be. Most will do this and move on.

What is not okay is for you to make them feel bad or wrong about it.

People are human. You can be frustrated or sad about something for moments of a lifetime, and still be thankful and grateful. How about showing a little tolerance?

Not that poster - but I think the point is many of these posters have not mourned for only "a few minutes" and "moved on."

There are children's emotions at sake here. I get that posters are disappointed and can't help it, but it's time for them to take accountability and get appropriate help in dealing with it.

I understand, but the OP is ready to move on. Did you read this post by her on page 4? I am just tired of people coming on to different threads and dissing people's concerns simply because they can't share them.

"OP here. I didn't mean to start a "sad" topic. I was looking for some guidance on how to, well, move on. I believe in fate and I believe that I was meant to raise two boys (although I don't know why yet). Regardless, I would not change this path had I been given the choice. I won't apologize for feeling how I feel and while I will miss not having a girl, I will never, ever regret having two sons. The thing I appreciate, aside from having healthy children, is that my boys will be brothers.

For those of you that found my inquiry appalling, I love DS1 and my life with him more than life itself. We were at a community concert tonight and DH had scooped DS in his arms so they could dance together. DS was giggling uncontrollably and beaming from ear to ear. At that moment, I looked at his beautiful face and thought about how perfect he is... I also thought about how much I couldn't wait to dance with my unborn son next summer.

For those that could connect with me, I found a great article while surfing the web today: http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/fetal_developmen...ercoming-gender-disappointment

And yes, I've already learned that dinosaurs are really cool. "

Well said, PP.

[Anonymous]

Sorry I stood up for children.

Take a look at what other people are posting. These are unresolved issues - and as I said I GET THAT PEOPLE CAN'T HELP IT. But rather than post in a thread that "Glad I'm not the only one" it's time to look to solutions for the sake of current/future children.

Kudos to you OP for working through this. Sincerely. I just don't see a lot of other posts here saying the same thing though.