Any quality 30+ guys left?
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Anonymous
Honestly I've met very few of those men in my life time. She'd better lower the bar if she wants children. |
Anonymous
I have a 50 year old friend that never had kids. Waited for Mr. right, and married one loser who didn't want kids. She stupidly went along with that. Now she regrets not getting pregnant and imo lives a lonely life. |
Anonymous
From my experience, all single big law senior associates have serious personality/psychological defects. A non-insigificant number are spectrum, as well as secretly gay and then there are the secret psychopaths. Best hope would be to find the relatively normally but seriously awkward introvert. |
Anonymous
All of that is true. I didn't mean to suggest big law senior associates are a good bet for OP, just her best bet for what she's looking for. |
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I would say you could try and join Equinox to try and meet the type of man you are interested in but you probably can't afford that or Crossfit (which I think tends to have slightly younger men).
Idk if you will find someone meeting those requirements at 30. First, you are unrealistic about not wanting to be with someone who is a workaholic almost every 150k+ job requires a lot of hours. Second, maybe you can try and date men who are a little older? My DH has a number of unmarried friends who fit your ridiculous criteria and they either date women who are younger than you or women who make more money than you do in addition to bringing all of the same physical attributes that you have. If you think about it if you are making 150k in your early 30s it is probably because you've made specific choices because having a certain lifestyle is important to you. Therefore, if you can date a pretty nurse anesthetist who makes $100k or a pretty woman like you who makes $60k who would you pick? I'm not trying to insult you but my point is that there is a lot of competition for the type of person you are limiting yourself to and even you cannot necessarily live up to the same standards you have for a mate. You treat being attractive as a sort of trump card for everything but want a well-rounded man that makes an arbitrary amount of money. Also you could live a fairly comfortable lifestyle with a financially responsible and ambitious partner that makes much less than 150k. |
Anonymous
I laffed, many times
Nobody cares, in fact that's a strike against you: pretentious degree.
"EVERYONE I KNOW" Wow, sweeping generalization much? Also, news flash: YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE ELSE. |
Anonymous
Grow the f4ck up. Nobody cares about some 30 something's first world problem sob story about how her life is so difficult and how sad it is that it didn't turn out as she expected and is more difficult than she imagined. Take a number and get in line. |
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When I found my husband in my 20's, he was not earning anywhere close to $150k. I had to take a risk and make an investment in a person who might eventually be a high earner. I got him before he knew what he was worth.
Now, you're looking to buy high. These decent men know their worth. It's going to take someone exceptional to catch their eyes. Best of luck. |
Anonymous
Meanwhile Eva Longoria is 42... |
Anonymous
Let that be a lesson, guys: Women LOVE potential. |
Anonymous
| OP, do you have a lot of school loans? Bryn Mawr is expensive, no? |
Anonymous
Younger women with options usually look to buy high and are often able to outcompete older women. A 25 year old woman would happily take a finished product (or well on his way) high earning man of, say, 33, than a starting out 25 year old guy. Win-win genetically for the older guy and younger woman. |
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Honestly if you want to get married there's no shortage of men. Men rather have someone that doesn't have a demanding career. you fit the bill of many men. Looks are important in a man's world and yes cooking well still nails it. I have a similar degree, never had a problem. I'm also flexible and easy going. Don't be the overly opinionated bossy woman with a potty mouth. They don't do well in this area.
OP put yourself out there, and don't be afraid to approach someone you're interested in. |
Anonymous
I work as a professional fundraiser in D.C. If you're making only 60k in your early 30s in fundraising, you are probably not very good. If you could carry a conversation and really engage socially and intellectually with wealthy men, you'd have been promoted long ago. Six figures is a very easy hurdle to jump in our field. You're probably not very entrepreneurial, and you're working at a low-level in house somewhere. All the best fundraisers I know are self employed, because it is so much more profitable. Also, it is EASY to meet wealthy men while working as a fundraiser. Sometimes, my husband feels uncomfortable with all the interactions I have with wealthy, interested men. OP = A fundraiser, who can't figure out where to find a successful, stable man. I'm dying. 
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| One of my guy friends is 31, makes 105k, and comes from a "good" family (his parents who have been married for 40 years paid the down-payment on his NWDC condo). I think he would be very uncomfortable knowing that you had an expectation that he make 150k+. That is a high number and it would probably weigh on him/make him feel like you'll be let down if he never gets there. Bad attitude to have, OP. |