Is Throwing or breaking objects during an argument = domestic violence?

[Anonymous]

If you're at the point where you're semantically arguing about the definition of DV you really aren't in a great place and should probably start making drastic changes.

It is most certainly a harbinger of DV if it is not there yet so I'm not sure what the end result of this argument is for you guys. Either way you should be in therapy/considering separation.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

The correct question is would your girlfriends have called the police and dropped a DV charge on you if you had thrown or broken something in a violent way. If so, you can call the police and have them arrested with a clear conscience. Good for the goose is good for the gander.

[Anonymous]

It does not matter if it technically is defined as domestic violence. Why are you guys quibbling over definitions?

It is wrong. It is uncontrollable anger and not adult behavior. It is a sign that someone needs therapy at the very least and probably medication.

I know that was true for me (a woman). I raged. I threw things. I broke things. I was out of control. Arguments escalated and things got really ugly. It was all a symptom of depression. Google depression and "anger attacks."

Now, on medication and with therapy, I *never* do any of that. My spouse and I did marriage therapy too. We talk about our problems and even when we disagree, it never gets ugly.

Do not normalize this. It is not normal. It is a relationship/trust killer! What's more, it is bad for the person doing the breaking and raging. It does not feel good to be so out of control and scary. Do not let this go unaddressed; it is good for no one. Especially any children who might see this--for them it is truly terrifying to see an out-of-control adult who is raging. Believe me, I know, because I saw it growing up.

[Anonymous]

It's assault, so yes it is DV.

[Anonymous]

Former law enforcement here: yes.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a home like this -- my father would smash things, but never people. But every time it felt like a person would be next.

It's emotional abuse at the very least.

[Anonymous]

Is throwing a phone at you on accident is that DV?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is throwing a phone at you on accident is that DV?

How does one throw a phone on accident?

[Anonymous]

This is a distinction without a difference.

It is at minimum emotionally abusive and completely inappropriate behavior from an adult.

As other PP's have stated, if you're to the point where you are arguing about whether something counts as DV, then you should already be in counseling or the attorney's office.

[Anonymous]

If it breaks after hitting your head, then yes.

[Anonymous]

Practical answer: if a man does it, yes. If a woman does it, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Practical answer: if a man does it, yes. If a woman does it, no.

the answer to half the threads on DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Practical answer: if a man does it, yes. If a woman does it, no.

the answer to half the threads on DCUM

Except no one said that. Some posters here even assumed the thrower was the woman.

[Anonymous]

I only see things getting worse. If throwing is not DV, he or she'll say hitting is not DV. Hitting becomes "pushing" or "slapping." Some how, they are not "hitting." Hence, not DV.
I've heard this story before.