Is Throwing or breaking objects during an argument = domestic violence?
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Anonymous
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DH and I have a disagreement on whether or not throwing or breaking objects (and not hitting anyone) during an argument is = domestic violence. If someone throws something or puts a fist through a wall during a fight is it considered domestic violence/abuse?
Let's take a poll. What do you think? |
Anonymous
| No. Anger control issues. But not DV. |
Anonymous
| Well it's ...... not good. I wouldn't stay in that relationship. Eventually that fist will hit a person. That thrown object will hit a person. |
Anonymous
I'd say emotional abuse...it's scary and traumatic to witness. It implies that if the plate's crashing to the ground, you might be next. |
Anonymous
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Yes. |
Anonymous
| It's violence at home. That's domestic violence. |
Anonymous
| There actual legal definitions for DV. It does not include harming non-human things. |
Anonymous
| Are the objects being thrown near someone but not at them? If not, no, I don't think it's domestic violence. It's certainly close and it's not good, but I don't think it rises to the level of domestic violence. |
Anonymous
This! |
Anonymous
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Probably not "domestic violence" as most people think of it (including me). But a pattern of this easily can be abusive. Any violent tendency or highly unstable emotional disregulation if it puts the other person in fear, anxiety, etc about not wanting to "trigger" something they are scared of is abuse.
Semantics aside, whoever is doing this should stop being an asshole. Would you throw things when you get mad at work or at a restaurant full of strangers? No. Then stop doing it to your spouse you coward (male or female). |
Anonymous
Well turns out I'm wrong. Googled it and was brought to a Clark county in Indiana prosecutors page. Throwing things or destroying property is a form of intimidation and qualifies as DV. http://www.clarkprosecutor.org/html/domviol/what.htm |
Anonymous
| Former prosecutor here. DV frequently seemed to begin this way and over time escalated to physical violence. I would see it as a huge red flag and get out before it gets worse. |
Anonymous
| It's abusive and toxic. I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that. Normal adults don't throw things at each other. I would be worried that it would escalate to more violent behavior. |
Anonymous
| If you make someone feel physically threatened that is assault, no? Throwing things or punching walls is a physical way to intimidate and threaten someone. Assault is DV. |
Anonymous
| I would consider it DV. It seems to be used as a way to tell the other person "shut up or you're next" |