Is Throwing or breaking objects during an argument = domestic violence?

[Anonymous]

In the past week my husband has kicked an exterior door in and smashed a console table into pieces.

The exterior door was because it was locked. The console table was because he thought there was too much in the drawer.

I know I need to be done, I can't let my kids grow up with a ticking time bomb. I just hate to admit my marriage failed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the past week my husband has kicked an exterior door in and smashed a console table into pieces.

The exterior door was because it was locked. The console table was because he thought there was too much in the drawer.

I know I need to be done, I can't let my kids grow up with a ticking time bomb. I just hate to admit my marriage failed.

I was in this kind of violent situation, female on male violence. It's not going to stop.

[Anonymous]

My xdh used to act out like that. He would break things, make a scene by yelling curse words or awful things in public, throw tools in the yard, beat on things, threaten to kill us and other people. He was secretly on drugs. He was getting the drugs from a PA in a internal medicine practice in Reston. He didnt act like that normally. It is DV and it can be caused by drugs. Either way you need to get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I just hate to admit my marriage failed.

Sounds like your husband failed, not your marriage. Get out, and life can get better.

[Anonymous]

When it happened to me, no one would help. Even the police said a person can break there own door, tv, window, furniture , phone. They don't see that you are a thing that they think they own and can bust up.

I am never shocked when the news reports a man killing his wife or family.
A lot of stuff is busted up before it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it happened to me, no one would help. Even the police said a person can break there own door, tv, window, furniture , phone. They don't see that you are a thing that they think they own and can bust up.

I am never shocked when the news reports a man killing his wife or family.
A lot of stuff is busted up before it happens.

True, but it's not only man on woman. Same with woman on man. I had police respond who said it's community property, she can kick the door down, whatever. Long story short, she kept up, feeling invincible, until one day she was arrested.

[Anonymous]

It is DV. My father used to throw his plate of dinner either against the wall or on the floor where it would smash into pieces and there would be food strewn all over the floor. Then he would scream at my mother, right up in her face, to clean it up whilst she was crying and slipping around on the food. It's sick and it is definitely domestic violence.

[Anonymous]

If it is, DW is in big trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When it happened to me, no one would help. Even the police said a person can break there own door, tv, window, furniture , phone. They don't see that you are a thing that they think they own and can bust up.

I am never shocked when the news reports a man killing his wife or family.
A lot of stuff is busted up before it happens.

True, but it's not only man on woman. Same with woman on man. I had police respond who said it's community property, she can kick the door down, whatever. Long story short, she kept up, feeling invincible, until one day she was arrested.

So what got her arrested??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the past week my husband has kicked an exterior door in and smashed a console table into pieces.

The exterior door was because it was locked. The console table was because he thought there was too much in the drawer.

I know I need to be done, I can't let my kids grow up with a ticking time bomb. I just hate to admit my marriage failed.

Your marriage didn't fail. Your husband failed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if anyone is throwing things during an argument and it makes you feel like you are in danger, call the police.

That means that three of my past girlfriends would now have police records and have appeared in the police log of my local paper.

How the heck did you end up with three violent girlfriends? I've never dated anybody who did anything like that, although my husband admitted to punching a wall once, but it was before my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if anyone is throwing things during an argument and it makes you feel like you are in danger, call the police.

That means that three of my past girlfriends would now have police records and have appeared in the police log of my local paper.

How the heck did you end up with three violent girlfriends? I've never dated anybody who did anything like that, although my husband admitted to punching a wall once, but it was before my time.

Some people are irrationally attracted to abusive people. Usually because they were abused as children, or because of other trauma that led to low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

In some states it qualifies as domestic violence. I'm pretty sure the property has to be owned by someone not doing the destruction, but it prob varies by state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Anger control issues. But not DV.

This.

This would not get you arrested for DV. Stop looking to label everything that is an argument "domestic violence" because it really waters down the situations that TRULY ARE domestic violence. I will never understand why so many women on this board are eager to be a "victim" of something that is not abuse.

UGH. I hate this kind of reasoning -- it's the same form of reasoning that leads people to criticize women for reporting date rape because it's not "real" rape. You're awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Anger control issues. But not DV.

right. If it's something women do all the time it's an "anger control issue". If men do it it's domestic violence.