9 year old girl getting a reputation of being bossy

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not just normal girl bossiness? I have all boys and they say all girls are bossy in elementary school. I never hear about it anymore once they're in middle school. It seems to be a phase they all go through that works its way out.

This comment made me so, so sad. Boys are just as "bossy" as girls in ES. Girls get it metaphorically beat out of them by MS.

I don't think so. I see it myself and, having three boys, I'm around boys all the time. There's no comparison. Boys have their own annoying behaviors, and there are surely exceptions, but this is a girl thing. It just is.

And you would know because you have kids of both genders and can objectively compare? Or is this you making statements based on your own gender bias? Lot of presumption in your entire response.

If it helps, I actually AM a girl, so there's that. Which also means I spent most of my time around girls throughout my childhood, and as an adult, am still around females constantly. I have four nieces whom I see regularly. I don't need to presume anything. I have had 47 years of firsthand experience. Girls are bossy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The current trend of parents referring to their bossy or demanding children (boys or girls) as "CEO material" is hurting kids. You do not need to be bossy or mean to be a CEO. You need to be educated and able to engage and inspire people. In order to lead you must have people that trust and respect you to follow. I know several CEO's who treat all their employees as colleagues who contribute to the success of the company. Leadership is setting everyone up for success and not bossing them around or intimidating them. These kids that are being excused for being bossy or nasty will never become CEO's because no leadership or board will tolerate their behavior.

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Well, if you had read the entire thread, you would realize that "bossy" and "nasty" aren't really the correct terms for OPs daughter. She sounds like she has some issues with flexibility. Other PPs have given some great advice.

No one is saying being bossy or nasty makes a good CEO. There is something to the discussion of girls who possess leadership qualities being demeaned with the term "bossy". That is real and needs to stop.

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I used to work in Silicon Valley. Steve Jobs was pretty damn bossy. But he had an amazing vision and eye for the future to back it up.