MIL pressuring my daughter to tell her everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but if you are that concerned about your kids being left alone for a moment or two with adults in the house then you should really not be leaving them with anyone.

Op here, words are important here. You said for a moment or two. I'm not referring to this. I'm referring to intentionally leaving a kid in a room alone so you can go do whatever. A moment is brief. But there is one thing I agree with and that is that I shouldn't leave them with anyone else. The consensus here seems to be that my request is unreasonable. I can respect that. I just won't let them visit inlaws alone anymore and that way the adults don't get their feelings hurt. Case closed!

Emotional blackmail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 4 year old daughter recently shared that my MIL told her doing her last visit that she is supposed to tell her everything, everything about her and her brother. My dd expressed that she told her no. Because I know my MIL, I gathered she has been pumping my daughter for information relative to the private matters of our home in our absence. I don't want to jump the gun here. After all, I am getting this information from a preschooler. My MIL and I get along great. We have bumped heads in the past but it's never been something we can't get past. I however, fear that she may be unintentionally creating an uncomfortable dynamic with my dd.
Should I try to ask my dd more pressing questions about what specifically was asked? I didn't push the matter because I don't want to alert my daughter that something was wrong.
Am I overreacting? My MIL has a tendency to do certain things when my FIL isn't present. This is something I can't see her saying with others around. Also during another recent visit my dd expressed to my Mil that she wasn't supposed to do something (that Mil is aware of) and MIL told my dd that she knows more than me and she allowed dd to do it. I appreciate having an involved grandparent but I fear she may not know her place.

I do realize that she could've been coming from a good place and I'm interpreting this all wrong. What are your thoughts?

Yes, very much so. What are you hiding?

Lol this poster is such a fucking freak. Op, I think I found your hag MIL. She's reading your thread!

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Op here, wow! I see someone bumped it. I'm quite over the whole thing. But by all means let her have at it!

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of my FIl who stays w us for weeks at a time and "sneaks" cake to our children multiple times a day and tells them "to keep it a secret from mommy and daddy. Shhh"

So unnecessary, such BS.