My 5 year old is getting stressed out about homework

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Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

I doubt all the other kids are doing it without issue. Unless we define normal childhood as a disability, being overly stressed by developmentally inappropriate expectations is not a disability.

But the majority must, or parents would complain, and it would get to an administrative level, and the work would stop. But they still have homework, so many must not complain, so we have to assume they are doing the work without issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

I doubt all the other kids are doing it without issue. Unless we define normal childhood as a disability, being overly stressed by developmentally inappropriate expectations is not a disability.

But the majority must, or parents would complain, and it would get to an administrative level, and the work would stop. But they still have homework, so many must not complain, so we have to assume they are doing the work without issue.

Not necessarily. Most parents have no idea of what's developmentally appropriate when it comes to homework policies or most other things related to education. The default parental belief is that school should be more like "work", regardless of how poor of a metaphor that is for a child's education.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

I doubt all the other kids are doing it without issue. Unless we define normal childhood as a disability, being overly stressed by developmentally inappropriate expectations is not a disability.

But the majority must, or parents would complain, and it would get to an administrative level, and the work would stop. But they still have homework, so many must not complain, so we have to assume they are doing the work without issue.

Not necessarily. Most parents have no idea of what's developmentally appropriate when it comes to homework policies or most other things related to education. The default parental belief is that school should be more like "work", regardless of how poor of a metaphor that is for a child's education.

You may not know, but most of us know what works for our kids. Or, at least those of us who spend time with our kids and work on academics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

So true. Classroom volunteer here who is still helping kids in the hallway with the alphabet while the others are reading...

The only loser is your child. So suck it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

I doubt all the other kids are doing it without issue. Unless we define normal childhood as a disability, being overly stressed by developmentally inappropriate expectations is not a disability.

But the majority must, or parents would complain, and it would get to an administrative level, and the work would stop. But they still have homework, so many must not complain, so we have to assume they are doing the work without issue.

Not necessarily. Most parents have no idea of what's developmentally appropriate when it comes to homework policies or most other things related to education. The default parental belief is that school should be more like "work", regardless of how poor of a metaphor that is for a child's education.

You may not know, but most of us know what works for our kids. Or, at least those of us who spend time with our kids and work on academics.

You're aware then, that studies have shown no benefits whatsoever for homework in younger kids, and several risks for negative outcomes, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

I doubt all the other kids are doing it without issue. Unless we define normal childhood as a disability, being overly stressed by developmentally inappropriate expectations is not a disability.

But the majority must, or parents would complain, and it would get to an administrative level, and the work would stop. But they still have homework, so many must not complain, so we have to assume they are doing the work without issue.

Not necessarily. Most parents have no idea of what's developmentally appropriate when it comes to homework policies or most other things related to education. The default parental belief is that school should be more like "work", regardless of how poor of a metaphor that is for a child's education.

You may not know, but most of us know what works for our kids. Or, at least those of us who spend time with our kids and work on academics.

You're aware then, that studies have shown no benefits whatsoever for homework in younger kids, and several risks for negative outcomes, right?

It depends on which study you read. I work with my children at home and it really strengthen math, handwriting and other skills they don't get at school. They don't even teach basics like handwriting anymore. Its sad. I see the benefit of working at home. And, they still have plenty of time for activities (we do them 4-5 days a week), free play, reading, video games, seeing friends and family.

[Anonymous]

It depends on which study you read. I work with my children at home and it really strengthen math, handwriting and other skills they don't get at school. They don't even teach basics like handwriting anymore. Its sad. I see the benefit of working at home. And, they still have plenty of time for activities (we do them 4-5 days a week), free play, reading, video games, seeing friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

So true. Classroom volunteer here who is still helping kids in the hallway with the alphabet while the others are reading...

The only loser is your child. So suck it!

you think my child doesn't know the alphabet? I am not delegating parenting - I'm not letting the school dictate how I parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

Different poster here. My child doesn't need you nosing around his reading level and telling him what books are right for him. I do my job at home and the teacher should keep you away from my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on which study you read. I work with my children at home and it really strengthen math, handwriting and other skills they don't get at school. They don't even teach basics like handwriting anymore. Its sad. I see the benefit of working at home. And, they still have plenty of time for activities (we do them 4-5 days a week), free play, reading, video games, seeing friends and family.

Working with your kids on things of your choosing is very different from having nonsense assigned from the school that your children are punished for not completing. None of the "homework is inappropriate for young kids" posters are arguing that parents shouldn't do anything with their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

So true. Classroom volunteer here who is still helping kids in the hallway with the alphabet while the others are reading...

The only loser is your child. So suck it!

you think my child doesn't know the alphabet? I am not delegating parenting - I'm not letting the school dictate how I parent.

You're right. I'm sure you'll still be there to hover when your kid is in community college too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on which study you read. I work with my children at home and it really strengthen math, handwriting and other skills they don't get at school. They don't even teach basics like handwriting anymore. Its sad. I see the benefit of working at home. And, they still have plenty of time for activities (we do them 4-5 days a week), free play, reading, video games, seeing friends and family.

Working with your kids on things of your choosing is very different from having nonsense assigned from the school that your children are punished for not completing. None of the "homework is inappropriate for young kids" posters are arguing that parents shouldn't do anything with their children.

My kid gets the dumbest homework and none of it relates to anything done in the classroom or the curriculum. Its an absolute waste of time but we always do it as its homework. I'd much prefer to skip it and do our own thing but I am not undermining the teacher by making assignments negociable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

Different poster here. My child doesn't need you nosing around his reading level and telling him what books are right for him. I do my job at home and the teacher should keep you away from my child.

I could not careless about reading levels as they are not very accurate. I help where the teacher says to help. I'd probably prefer not to help your kid but I do what is asked of me as that is where I am needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

And, we see what kind of parent you are when we are the ones volunteering in the classroom to catch up your child to grade level as you don't work with them at home. Its pretty sad but its easier to delegate parenting to others than do it yourself.

Different poster here. My child doesn't need you nosing around his reading level and telling him what books are right for him. I do my job at home and the teacher should keep you away from my child.

I could not careless about reading levels as they are not very accurate. I help where the teacher says to help. I'd probably prefer not to help your kid but I do what is asked of me as that is where I am needed.

It was very rude of you to imply that PP was a bad parent and not working with his/her kids at home, and that you were a good one who were helping said underachieving kids. You also brought the reading level nonsense into the picture by saying you would help "catch up" the child, so it's rather hypocritical to then state that you couldn't care less about them. As a teacher, I'd prefer not to have parents in my classroom who thought they were better than other parents because they happened to have work schedules and financial situations that allowed them to enter my classroom. I'd be especially loathe to have any who believed parents who didn't believe in homework were bad parents and weren't helping their children.