My 5 year old is getting stressed out about homework

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Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

Wow, so Ker's who have issues with homework Now all have special needs? First, you're an ass. Second, kids are different, and that does not automatically translate to special needs. Third, homework in kindergarten serves absolutely no purpose.

You are an asshole.

When kids need an IEP, it is better to recognize it early rather than later, so that help can be provided. You are stigmatizing these kind of support. Homework at any grade serves to make students understand the concepts taught at school. Obviously, a 5 year old has not really learned much and will be given very basic and easy homework. I bet that her peers have no problem doing the same homework. So the question is why is this child struggling and why is she so stressed?

Is this an emotional issue, physiological issue or learning issue? Get her the help she needs now and not later when she is far behind her peers and have no hope to catch up!

K mom here, and I also sort of agree. My kids homework is so basic and takes us about 5 minutes. It's really no big deal. Of course my kid would rather play than do the sheet of work, so she plays and has a snack, and then we take a five minute break.

What's going to happen in 1st grade? Is the stress suddenly going to diminish? There will be homework next year too. More REAL homework. Best to prepare the kid now with the easy K homework.

In 1st grade, the children will be a year older. At that age, a year of development is huge. The stress will probably diminish.

There's a reason we're saying that HW is inappropriate in K.

Not exactly. My kid will start 1st 8 months from now, and just 3 months from her last K homework. I hate enabling parents. Why not encourage and help your child instead of making up excuses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

Wow, so Ker's who have issues with homework Now all have special needs? First, you're an ass. Second, kids are different, and that does not automatically translate to special needs. Third, homework in kindergarten serves absolutely no purpose.

You are an asshole.

When kids need an IEP, it is better to recognize it early rather than later, so that help can be provided. You are stigmatizing these kind of support. Homework at any grade serves to make students understand the concepts taught at school. Obviously, a 5 year old has not really learned much and will be given very basic and easy homework. I bet that her peers have no problem doing the same homework. So the question is why is this child struggling and why is she so stressed?

Is this an emotional issue, physiological issue or learning issue? Get her the help she needs now and not later when she is far behind her peers and have no hope to catch up!

K mom here, and I also sort of agree. My kids homework is so basic and takes us about 5 minutes. It's really no big deal. Of course my kid would rather play than do the sheet of work, so she plays and has a snack, and then we take a five minute break.

What's going to happen in 1st grade? Is the stress suddenly going to diminish? There will be homework next year too. More REAL homework. Best to prepare the kid now with the easy K homework.

In 1st grade, the children will be a year older. At that age, a year of development is huge. The stress will probably diminish.

There's a reason we're saying that HW is inappropriate in K.

Not exactly. My kid will start 1st 8 months from now, and just 3 months from her last K homework. I hate enabling parents. Why not encourage and help your child instead of making up excuses.

I'm the PP you're responding to. I'm not sure what you mean.

My brother's DD was very stressed about schoolwork at 5, a perfectionist who had trouble meeting her own expectations. At 6, she was better able to do the work, and also less stressed about the work because of her increased level of maturity. Time helped her.

That's not making excuses. I don't think kindergartners should have HW. I think it's inappropriate. And if a kindergartner is struggling with HW, that child is not doomed to always struggle with HW.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

Wow, so Ker's who have issues with homework Now all have special needs? First, you're an ass. Second, kids are different, and that does not automatically translate to special needs. Third, homework in kindergarten serves absolutely no purpose.

You are an asshole.

When kids need an IEP, it is better to recognize it early rather than later, so that help can be provided. You are stigmatizing these kind of support. Homework at any grade serves to make students understand the concepts taught at school. Obviously, a 5 year old has not really learned much and will be given very basic and easy homework. I bet that her peers have no problem doing the same homework. So the question is why is this child struggling and why is she so stressed?

Is this an emotional issue, physiological issue or learning issue? Get her the help she needs now and not later when she is far behind her peers and have no hope to catch up!

K mom here, and I also sort of agree. My kids homework is so basic and takes us about 5 minutes. It's really no big deal. Of course my kid would rather play than do the sheet of work, so she plays and has a snack, and then we take a five minute break.

What's going to happen in 1st grade? Is the stress suddenly going to diminish? There will be homework next year too. More REAL homework. Best to prepare the kid now with the easy K homework.

In 1st grade, the children will be a year older. At that age, a year of development is huge. The stress will probably diminish.

There's a reason we're saying that HW is inappropriate in K.

Not exactly. My kid will start 1st 8 months from now, and just 3 months from her last K homework. I hate enabling parents. Why not encourage and help your child instead of making up excuses.

I'm the PP you're responding to. I'm not sure what you mean.

My brother's DD was very stressed about schoolwork at 5, a perfectionist who had trouble meeting her own expectations. At 6, she was better able to do the work, and also less stressed about the work because of her increased level of maturity. Time helped her.

That's not making excuses. I don't think kindergartners should have HW. I think it's inappropriate. And if a kindergartner is struggling with HW, that child is not doomed to always struggle with HW.

Then please explain to me the magical thing that happens between the middle of June and the beginning of September that suddenly prepares your child for homework?

If your kid turns 6 in K in March, are they then suddenly ready for homework? April? May? June? Not according to you. It needs to be SEPTWMBER! Now you're talking!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

Wow, so Ker's who have issues with homework Now all have special needs? First, you're an ass. Second, kids are different, and that does not automatically translate to special needs. Third, homework in kindergarten serves absolutely no purpose.

You are an asshole.

When kids need an IEP, it is better to recognize it early rather than later, so that help can be provided. You are stigmatizing these kind of support. Homework at any grade serves to make students understand the concepts taught at school. Obviously, a 5 year old has not really learned much and will be given very basic and easy homework. I bet that her peers have no problem doing the same homework. So the question is why is this child struggling and why is she so stressed?

Is this an emotional issue, physiological issue or learning issue? Get her the help she needs now and not later when she is far behind her peers and have no hope to catch up!

K mom here, and I also sort of agree. My kids homework is so basic and takes us about 5 minutes. It's really no big deal. Of course my kid would rather play than do the sheet of work, so she plays and has a snack, and then we take a five minute break.

What's going to happen in 1st grade? Is the stress suddenly going to diminish? There will be homework next year too. More REAL homework. Best to prepare the kid now with the easy K homework.

In 1st grade, the children will be a year older. At that age, a year of development is huge. The stress will probably diminish.

There's a reason we're saying that HW is inappropriate in K.

Its not inappropriate and you are the problem. Your kid knows they don't need to do it so why should they. Its K. Its really not that hard. Sit down with your kid, show them and get it done. Maybe its parents who are the problem who will not work with their kids and expect the kids to do it alone. If you start doing workbooks at 4-5 at home, even a page every few day, then they will be used to doing it and the expectation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

Wow, so Ker's who have issues with homework Now all have special needs? First, you're an ass. Second, kids are different, and that does not automatically translate to special needs. Third, homework in kindergarten serves absolutely no purpose.

You are an asshole.

When kids need an IEP, it is better to recognize it early rather than later, so that help can be provided. You are stigmatizing these kind of support. Homework at any grade serves to make students understand the concepts taught at school. Obviously, a 5 year old has not really learned much and will be given very basic and easy homework. I bet that her peers have no problem doing the same homework. So the question is why is this child struggling and why is she so stressed?

Is this an emotional issue, physiological issue or learning issue? Get her the help she needs now and not later when she is far behind her peers and have no hope to catch up!

K mom here, and I also sort of agree. My kids homework is so basic and takes us about 5 minutes. It's really no big deal. Of course my kid would rather play than do the sheet of work, so she plays and has a snack, and then we take a five minute break.

What's going to happen in 1st grade? Is the stress suddenly going to diminish? There will be homework next year too. More REAL homework. Best to prepare the kid now with the easy K homework.

In 1st grade, the children will be a year older. At that age, a year of development is huge. The stress will probably diminish.

There's a reason we're saying that HW is inappropriate in K.

Its not inappropriate and you are the problem. Your kid knows they don't need to do it so why should they. Its K. Its really not that hard. Sit down with your kid, show them and get it done. Maybe its parents who are the problem who will not work with their kids and expect the kids to do it alone. If you start doing workbooks at 4-5 at home, even a page every few day, then they will be used to doing it and the expectation.

This x1000! Your kid sits and does work ALL DAY for the teacher, and can manage that, but can't handle the stress of a FIVE MINUTE worksheet? If he teacher isn't telling you the kid has issues in CLASS, then the issue at HOME can only be the parent(s).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

Wow, so Ker's who have issues with homework Now all have special needs? First, you're an ass. Second, kids are different, and that does not automatically translate to special needs. Third, homework in kindergarten serves absolutely no purpose.

You are an asshole.

When kids need an IEP, it is better to recognize it early rather than later, so that help can be provided. You are stigmatizing these kind of support. Homework at any grade serves to make students understand the concepts taught at school. Obviously, a 5 year old has not really learned much and will be given very basic and easy homework. I bet that her peers have no problem doing the same homework. So the question is why is this child struggling and why is she so stressed?

Is this an emotional issue, physiological issue or learning issue? Get her the help she needs now and not later when she is far behind her peers and have no hope to catch up!

K mom here, and I also sort of agree. My kids homework is so basic and takes us about 5 minutes. It's really no big deal. Of course my kid would rather play than do the sheet of work, so she plays and has a snack, and then we take a five minute break.

What's going to happen in 1st grade? Is the stress suddenly going to diminish? There will be homework next year too. More REAL homework. Best to prepare the kid now with the easy K homework.

In 1st grade, the children will be a year older. At that age, a year of development is huge. The stress will probably diminish.

There's a reason we're saying that HW is inappropriate in K.

Its not inappropriate and you are the problem. Your kid knows they don't need to do it so why should they. Its K. Its really not that hard. Sit down with your kid, show them and get it done. Maybe its parents who are the problem who will not work with their kids and expect the kids to do it alone. If you start doing workbooks at 4-5 at home, even a page every few day, then they will be used to doing it and the expectation.

This x1000! Your kid sits and does work ALL DAY for the teacher, and can manage that, but can't handle the stress of a FIVE MINUTE worksheet? If he teacher isn't telling you the kid has issues in CLASS, then the issue at HOME can only be the parent(s).

Yes. If your child is "too stressed" to handle a 5 minute worksheet, I can imagine hey either have uptight parents, a learning disability, or are just too imature for kindergarten. I would seriously consider holding back a kid who wasn't developmentally ready to handle a kindergarten homework worksheet.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like OP was the problem. Her DD is not mature enough to figure out how much she needs to do each day because the teacher gives out homework weekly. This is normal as executive function required for planning this kind of thing is probably beyond the typical five year old. It is the OP's job to provide structure to her DD so that she does a little bit every night. Not dealing with it or taking it up to the teacher when everyone else does it will only further stress her DD out. I bet if she can be organized enough to sit down with her DD everyday for 5 minutes, her DD will be a lot calmer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP was the problem. Her DD is not mature enough to figure out how much she needs to do each day because the teacher gives out homework weekly. This is normal as executive function required for planning this kind of thing is probably beyond the typical five year old. It is the OP's job to provide structure to her DD so that she does a little bit every night. Not dealing with it or taking it up to the teacher when everyone else does it will only further stress her DD out. I bet if she can be organized enough to sit down with her DD everyday for 5 minutes, her DD will be a lot calmer.

Or, just sit down with the kid and help. Kid probably wants attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP was the problem. Her DD is not mature enough to figure out how much she needs to do each day because the teacher gives out homework weekly. This is normal as executive function required for planning this kind of thing is probably beyond the typical five year old. It is the OP's job to provide structure to her DD so that she does a little bit every night. Not dealing with it or taking it up to the teacher when everyone else does it will only further stress her DD out. I bet if she can be organized enough to sit down with her DD everyday for 5 minutes, her DD will be a lot calmer.

Or, just sit down with the kid and help. Kid probably wants attention.

Right! Are you not reading nightly with your child, or even having them read to you? Working on sight words? You are the entitled parent who thinks you don't have to do any work at home, but then wonder why the teacher isn't teaching your child enough. Blame yourself. The rest of us are doing the same as you and not complaining (and neither are our kids!)

[Anonymous]

Wow. Some of you are really smug. I am a firm believer in "just sit down and get it done" the kid I was given just simply had enough after a long day and has fine motors issues. A worksheet that would have taken five year old me about a minute was a thirty-minute session full of tears and shouting and "I hate you"s. He told me he was terrible at school, was stupid, and would get hysterical in the morning and didn't want to get in the car. So I finally told the teacher that my child was happily reading half an hour a night, would not be filling out a reading journal (I was not going to suck the joy out of the one academic thing my child enjoyed doing) and would do worksheets on weekends only. I also told her to stop sending home a behavior chart each day that only he had.

I didn't get any pushback. It was ludicrous the amount of paperwork being sent home for five year olds. It took a couple of years for him to be ready to do any productive homework at home that I wasn't standing over him checking every damn line of it and pointing out that it was all wrong.

Every kid s different, no matter how much you want your kid to fit the vision in your head of what a child should be and do.

[Anonymous]

My K kid isn't going to do any worksheets at home.

Suck it tigersanctimommies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Some of you are really smug. I am a firm believer in "just sit down and get it done" the kid I was given just simply had enough after a long day and has fine motors issues. A worksheet that would have taken five year old me about a minute was a thirty-minute session full of tears and shouting and "I hate you"s. He told me he was terrible at school, was stupid, and would get hysterical in the morning and didn't want to get in the car. So I finally told the teacher that my child was happily reading half an hour a night, would not be filling out a reading journal (I was not going to suck the joy out of the one academic thing my child enjoyed doing) and would do worksheets on weekends only. I also told her to stop sending home a behavior chart each day that only he had.

I didn't get any pushback. It was ludicrous the amount of paperwork being sent home for five year olds. It took a couple of years for him to be ready to do any productive homework at home that I wasn't standing over him checking every damn line of it and pointing out that it was all wrong.

Every kid s different, no matter how much you want your kid to fit the vision in your head of what a child should be and do.

This is a very different situation than the OP's, you do realize. The OP was pretty clear that her child had no trouble doing the homework but she is not having her doing them daily and her DD gets stressed out when the work piles up. The key is her DD wants to do them and can do them only the mother is not providing the structure at home to get them done.

If I were in your situation, I would have done the same thing you did. But I am sure you also tried to remedy your son's motor skill deficit.

It really depends on the child. My son does not care whether we fill out his reading charts or not so I don't do it. Half of his classes also don't do it. He reads two grades above at least so the teacher does not care either. But if my son cares about it, I will of course fill them out everyday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, All kids are not the same. Maybe the homework is too much for your 5 year old? Get an IEP for her.

An IEP, really, you idiot? IEPs are for children with disabilities. Not for children to cope with unrealistic expectations.

But it's not an unrealistic expectation if all the other kids in class accomplish the task. You have to ask yourself why your child can't.

I doubt all the other kids are doing it without issue. Unless we define normal childhood as a disability, being overly stressed by developmentally inappropriate expectations is not a disability.