"Gift" from ILs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how nasty some of these posts are. Some of them need to be reported to admin.

It's extremely unlikely an 8-year-old is going to enjoy an 2 hour drive, where he is probably going to fall asleep, followed by a 2-3 hour game, where he is probably going to eat a massive amount of junk food and fall asleep, and then wake up so he can walk across a stadium parking lot very late at night and take a 2 hour drive home again. He will be able to tell you all about the cotton candy and nachos, but nothing about the game.

Honestly, if this was a 3 year old I would be more concerned. But an 8 year old will probably chatter the whole way there and he'll have a blast at the game (at least mine would have at that age). If the boy is overly tired and grumpy the whole evening then Dad will deal with it and probably wait until the boy is older to make a trip like that again.

Obviously, if Op is legitimately worried about her husband driving home at night then she should get him a hotel room. I would probably get a hotel room and come along with them to hang out in the room. That way there would be no long drive back home and if the boys had to miss a day from school, so what?

[Anonymous]

Would I let my husband take my son to a late night game without me? Sure, as long as he realizes he is the one dealing with the over tired kid. I am going to bed. Good luck! I think this is one of those things you try once. And it either goes better than expected or is a disaster and it never happens again.

I get the frustration at breaking the rules by choosing a night game, but you have to pick your battles. At most, I would insist they get a hotel room. Because I think the most rational concern is that it will not be safe for your husband to drive

[Anonymous]

My husband and son have some great memories from sporting events like this one. I just hope the men are willing to leave if the kid really cant handle anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how nasty some of these posts are. Some of them need to be reported to admin.

It's extremely unlikely an 8-year-old is going to enjoy an 2 hour drive, where he is probably going to fall asleep, followed by a 2-3 hour game, where he is probably going to eat a massive amount of junk food and fall asleep, and then wake up so he can walk across a stadium parking lot very late at night and take a 2 hour drive home again. He will be able to tell you all about the cotton candy and nachos, but nothing about the game.

There are not really any nasty posts in this thread, especially none worth bothering Jeff over.

I can only think that posters like you either have very young kids (like preschool age) to make such a statement like the bolded part.

Most 8 year olds would find this to be a very fun, exciting and memorable outing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, this is not quality time with grandpa. This is grandpa giving an inappropriate gift to an 8 year old and pretending it's age-appropriate. Grandpa gave the gift to himself.

Another mom of little kids?

[Anonymous]

Some of my husband's fondest memories are taking our daughter to Redskins games when we had season tickets. We had them for several years. She was about 8 or 9 when we gave them up and she loved every minute of every game and so did he. They didn't always stay the whole game. They ate crap and she went in the men's room with him. He took her to Hooters and the young women who worked there fawned all over her. Sometimes she was up too late. Sometimes she zonked out before they left the parking lot at FedEx Field. I wouldn't change a minute of it.

In my house, they would go without a doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only thing that would bother me is the driving home late. I don't like my family to be out on the road late with all the drunks. With the sleep disorder, it's a no brainer. I would insist on a hotel room and tell them to have a good time. He can miss school one day.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of my husband's fondest memories are taking our daughter to Redskins games when we had season tickets. We had them for several years. She was about 8 or 9 when we gave them up and she loved every minute of every game and so did he. They didn't always stay the whole game. They ate crap and she went in the men's room with him. He took her to Hooters and the young women who worked there fawned all over her. Sometimes she was up too late. Sometimes she zonked out before they left the parking lot at FedEx Field. I wouldn't change a minute of it.

In my house, they would go without a doubt.

Yuck to all of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how nasty some of these posts are. Some of them need to be reported to admin.

It's extremely unlikely an 8-year-old is going to enjoy an 2 hour drive, where he is probably going to fall asleep, followed by a 2-3 hour game, where he is probably going to eat a massive amount of junk food and fall asleep, and then wake up so he can walk across a stadium parking lot very late at night and take a 2 hour drive home again. He will be able to tell you all about the cotton candy and nachos, but nothing about the game.

There are not really any nasty posts in this thread, especially none worth bothering Jeff over.

I can only think that posters like you either have very young kids (like preschool age) to make such a statement like the bolded part.

Most 8 year olds would find this to be a very fun, exciting and memorable outing.

My posts about OP being a control freak were deleted. I used no profanity, no insults unless you consider control freak an insult, and I was called a drama queen. I object to my posts being deleted. It makes me think that I am exactly right about OP. She can't even handle my point of view without controlling posts on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, this is not quality time with grandpa. This is grandpa giving an inappropriate gift to an 8 year old and pretending it's age-appropriate. Grandpa gave the gift to himself.

Another mom of little kids?

How can going to a ball game be inappropriate gift to 8 year old and adult people? How can spending time with grandpa and father be inappropriate. Kids are very resilient. We aren't talking about 2 or 3 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, this is not quality time with grandpa. This is grandpa giving an inappropriate gift to an 8 year old and pretending it's age-appropriate. Grandpa gave the gift to himself.

Another mom of little kids?

How can going to a ball game be inappropriate gift to 8 year old and adult people? How can spending time with grandpa and father be inappropriate. Kids are very resilient. We aren't talking about 2 or 3 year olds.

Nobody said the game was inappropriate. A trip that stretches into the middle of the night on a school night is inappropriate. This is not a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. There are better times to go, and that's when they should go.

The last time I went to a ball game that ended that late, the parking lot was full of drunk people getting into fist fights as we were leaving. It is not somewhere I would want my child to be at that hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, this is not quality time with grandpa. This is grandpa giving an inappropriate gift to an 8 year old and pretending it's age-appropriate. Grandpa gave the gift to himself.

Another mom of little kids?

How can going to a ball game be inappropriate gift to 8 year old and adult people? How can spending time with grandpa and father be inappropriate. Kids are very resilient. We aren't talking about 2 or 3 year olds.

We aren't talking about a teenager, either. 8 is too young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how nasty some of these posts are. Some of them need to be reported to admin.

It's extremely unlikely an 8-year-old is going to enjoy an 2 hour drive, where he is probably going to fall asleep, followed by a 2-3 hour game, where he is probably going to eat a massive amount of junk food and fall asleep, and then wake up so he can walk across a stadium parking lot very late at night and take a 2 hour drive home again. He will be able to tell you all about the cotton candy and nachos, but nothing about the game.

There are not really any nasty posts in this thread, especially none worth bothering Jeff over.

I can only think that posters like you either have very young kids (like preschool age) to make such a statement like the bolded part.

Most 8 year olds would find this to be a very fun, exciting and memorable outing.

My posts about OP being a control freak were deleted. I used no profanity, no insults unless you consider control freak an insult, and I was called a drama queen. I object to my posts being deleted. It makes me think that I am exactly right about OP. She can't even handle my point of view without controlling posts on an anonymous forum.

You also attacked her marriage in a very nasty way. OP did not report the post, I did. OP has long left the conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of my husband's fondest memories are taking our daughter to Redskins games when we had season tickets. We had them for several years. She was about 8 or 9 when we gave them up and she loved every minute of every game and so did he. They didn't always stay the whole game. They ate crap and she went in the men's room with him. He took her to Hooters and the young women who worked there fawned all over her. Sometimes she was up too late. Sometimes she zonked out before they left the parking lot at FedEx Field. I wouldn't change a minute of it.

In my house, they would go without a doubt.

Yuck to all of this.

Seriously...why would you take a child to Hooters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of my husband's fondest memories are taking our daughter to Redskins games when we had season tickets. We had them for several years. She was about 8 or 9 when we gave them up and she loved every minute of every game and so did he. They didn't always stay the whole game. They ate crap and she went in the men's room with him. He took her to Hooters and the young women who worked there fawned all over her. Sometimes she was up too late. Sometimes she zonked out before they left the parking lot at FedEx Field. I wouldn't change a minute of it.

In my house, they would go without a doubt.

Yuck to all of this.

Seriously...why would you take a child to Hooters?

NP - normally this would sound yucky, but if you want to eat at a sit down place at Fedex Field I think that is the ONLY choice. (Thanks Dan Snyder) It is my understanding it is not a gross as a standalone hooters - more family oriented.