My thanksgiving yesterday!

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Did they take the lasagna when they left?

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Anonymous wrote:This is pretty dumb. YOU made this a big thing. I'm embarrassed for you and your DH.

You could've gone down there, let them know the jig was up and could they move the party elsewhere if that's what they wanted to do. You acted like this fornication was occurring at an Amish house raising. It is really not that big of a deal. (happily married and no I haven't done this myself but I could see how it must feel awesome and 'therapeutic' as someone said).

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I have to agree. It's a hilarious story, and their lack of discretion was over the top, but your DH way overreacted! Calls his sister a slut and kicks her out? Was she raping your brother? His did not have to be handled this way.
Your 14 year old had enough tact and maturity to pull you to the side to tell you quietly what was happening, it's a shame that your husband didn't take a page out of her book.

Totally agree. No one is saying they should have pretended it never happened, but why make a scene? Obviously it's not even remotely ok that a 14-yr old girl saw that, and two adults should know better (at least lock the door!), but the reaction seems totally over the top and created unnecessary chaos. The name-calling is also gross. It doesn't help an upset teenage girl to hear her father screaming "slut" at his sister for having consensual sex, no matter how inappropriate the setting. And the sister's sexual history is totally irrelevant plus none of OP's (or her husband's) business!

No I'd go easy on the DH. He's hosting and this is how his sister treats his hospitality, totally embarrassing him with her behavior - probably drags up sibling history. And come on, that's really slutty. Does she never say no?

The sister's past infidelity is not "family history" - it's between her and her ex. And why is it embarrassing to him? Sounds like DH is too invested in his sister's sexual behavior. And nice that you say the sister is "really slutty" but the male relative engaging in the exact same behavior gets a total pass. Of course.

How about this: she's a slut and he's a tool. They ruined Thanksgiving for their entire family by their insensitive actions. What the hell? Who has sex in someone else's basement where anyone can walk in on them (including kids/teens) and then with someone who was previously banging someone they were related to?? Sluts and tools that's who. Drug addicts as well.

They could have made excuses at the very least and left to go to a hotel or just hooked up on their own time after Thanksgiving.

No self-control.

You're still judging the woman on her sexual behavior while the man is just judged for rudeness. Both these people seem like rude jerks so I'm not standing up for anyone, but you might want to take a look at your language and gendered judgments.

Unfortunately there's no word for 'he-slut' so I stuck with tool. Feel free to read it as is "How about this: she's a slut and he's a sexually-promiscuous asshole."

I believe the term is "Man ho".

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Anonymous wrote:We were hosting this year. Our 14 yo girl sees my brother going at it with my husband's sister in the basement. Both of them are recently divorced, one with a 7 year old kid! So she comes upstairs, calls me to the side (we are entertaining, seated in the living room, some of us including my MIL, my other sister in the kitchen etc) and tells me what she saw. Initially I am too stunned to believe her. Then I tip toe downstairs and hear their conjugal sounds. I call my husband out from the game room where he is with his dad and other brother and he loses his shit- he marches downstairs, coitus interruptus, and kicks her sister out on the curb. Craziness ensues- MIL faints. my other sister and her DH leave in a hurry. My turkey stays in the oven and is ruined. My husband has turned red and mouthing profanities including calling her sister a slut (evidently she cheated which led to the collapse of her marriage). We bundle all the kids upstairs but the older ones are giggling by now. Husband, MIL & FIl finally calm down. His other brother brings up something about cutting the inheritance and more craziness ensues. SIL and I are too stunned and I call it quits by 530. We all get pizzas for dinner. Will NEVER EVER forget this thanksgiving.

1. There was no need for you to call your husband. You could have told 14 year old to myob. You could have knocked on the door and that would have been enough to let them know they were caught. You could have talked to your brother later about being more cautious and that his niece saw them. You could have later chatted with your daughter about it.

2. You need to have a chat with your husband his reaction was way over the top , inappropriate ( I think more inappropriate than the sexcapades) and cause for concern. Your daughter is 14 it's highly likely within the next 5 years she will be having sex. Do you think it will be okay for your husband to call her a slut if he finds out about her having sex? Do you think it's okay for your daughter to think it's alright for a man to call her a slut? Do you think it's okay for your son to think he can use that term?

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Can't believe someone actually fainted over this? Is this real, Op?

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^Hopefully she will learn that randomly hooking up with another guest at a family gathering and having sex in the basement is a no no. And when you behave like a barnyard animal in someone else's home there will be repercussions.

Although she probably already knows this.

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I give it a D for being an obvious troll

Just wait till my cousin marries into your family and I get invited to Thanksgiving 2022 at your place. Hope you have a basement....

Don't marginalize yourselves or self-slut-shame. Insist on being the half time show right in front of the flat screen.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't believe someone actually fainted over this? Is this real, Op?

LOL. Do you know that the president elect grabs pussy and his current wife nakedness is seen by everyone in the world? Get with the program!

You must not be a Christian.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooo...what happened to the brother? Did he stick around or run?

Did he at least get to finish? Otherwise, that is just wrong...

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The 14 year old appears to have been the only mature person in this whole drama.

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Anonymous wrote:The 14 year old appears to have been the only mature person in this whole drama.

Seriously!

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Anonymous wrote:We were hosting this year. Our 14 yo girl sees my brother going at it with my husband's sister in the basement. Both of them are recently divorced, one with a 7 year old kid! So she comes upstairs, calls me to the side (we are entertaining, seated in the living room, some of us including my MIL, my other sister in the kitchen etc) and tells me what she saw. Initially I am too stunned to believe her. Then I tip toe downstairs and hear their conjugal sounds. I call my husband out from the game room where he is with his dad and other brother and he loses his shit- he marches downstairs, coitus interruptus, and kicks her sister out on the curb. Craziness ensues- MIL faints. my other sister and her DH leave in a hurry. My turkey stays in the oven and is ruined. My husband has turned red and mouthing profanities including calling her sister a slut (evidently she cheated which led to the collapse of her marriage). We bundle all the kids upstairs but the older ones are giggling by now. Husband, MIL & FIl finally calm down. His other brother brings up something about cutting the inheritance and more craziness ensues. SIL and I are too stunned and I call it quits by 530. We all get pizzas for dinner. Will NEVER EVER forget this thanksgiving.

You think it's amusing your husband put hands on his sister?!

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Wait, so where'd you order pizza from? Would you recommend them?

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I haven't read all the replies but i can't be the only
That noticed OP kept writing "her sister" even though it was supposed to be her DH's sister?

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I can't stop laughing thinking about the MIL fainting. How did the sex get announced to all or could everyone hear your DH screaming? Was she all "timber!" and came down like a sack of flour or did she just slide out of her chair?

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I'm sure that the poor thing hyperventilated and passed out....the shock of it all was just too much. Poor thing.